I don't feel like i'm suited for relationships. your thoughts/any advice?

picklekin

You seem quite obsessed with "relationships" by which you seem to mean sex from what I can see. TBH just have some (safe, consensual!) one night stands, get it out your system and grow up a bit, You don't seem ready for a proper relationship yet. Unless you can be friends with someone you can't hope for more really. Your quite focused on looks and while I do think its important to find your partner attractive so very much more comes into play if you want to be together.

Just try and relax, have fun and stop trying so hard for a while.

egoode

At the moment you aren't suited to relationships you are young and are too focused on looks and sex. There's also a lot of other people your age in the same situation. A relationship based on looks is not a proper relationship for a relationship to work you need to have similar values and be able to fully trust the person you are with.

BrassicWoman

Some people aren't. It's no big deal. It's normal.

dandelionclock30

Going by the wierd and odd things you have come out with on here I'm not surprised. Generally speaking women dont like creepy/cringeworthy men.

Gavin83

egoode wrote: »

At the moment you aren't suited to relationships you are young and are too focused on looks and sex. There's also a lot of other people your age in the same situation. A relationship based on looks is not a proper relationship for a relationship to work you need to have similar values and be able to fully trust the person you are with.

Are you talking about something else the OP has written? I didn't get that at all from here.

Looks are just as important as personality, I'd need to find the person I'm with attractive. Someone who you click with personality wise but don't find physically attractive is just a friend.

Gingernutty

Gavin83 wrote: »

Are you talking about something else the OP has written? I didn't get that at all from here.

He lives at home with his parents, has no job and as Tropez has stated, goes "batpoo crazy" at the sign of any part of his somewhat limited life changing.

Mirno

I love the demotivator posters, and this one seems apt in this thread...


(Source http://www.despair.com).

egoode

Gavin83 wrote: »

Are you talking about something else the OP has written? I didn't get that at all from here.

Looks are just as important as personality, I'd need to find the person I'm with attractive. Someone who you click with personality wise but don't find physically attractive is just a friend.

He has new threads about every week or two and if you read a couple of them you'll see what I mean.

kingslayer

picklekin wrote: »

You seem quite obsessed with "relationships" by which you seem to mean sex from what I can see. TBH just have some (safe, consensual!) one night stands, get it out your system and grow up a bit, You don't seem ready for a proper relationship yet. Unless you can be friends with someone you can't hope for more really. Your quite focused on looks and while I do think its important to find your partner attractive so very much more comes into play if you want to be together.

Just try and relax, have fun and stop trying so hard for a while.

I am not after casual sex per se, but that's all it ever ends up as. I am not really fussed about casual sex. It would be nice to meet someone, but I'm struggling to understand why things never work out with me and these women. If it is me, fine, but how i am supposed to know this?

BrassicWoman

kingslayer wrote: »

I am not after casual sex per se, but that's all it ever ends up as. I am not really fussed about casual sex. It would be nice to meet someone, but I'm struggling to understand why things never work out with me and these women. If it is me, fine, but how i am supposed to know this?

Listen to what you are constantly being told on here?

Refuse to shag before the 4th date?