I don't feel like i'm suited for relationships. your thoughts/any advice?

kingslayer

I don't know what it is, but i just don't feel suited for relationships. It is like every girl i meet, something happens and we stop seeing each other/go our separate ways.

I don't know whether it's my lack of dating experience, but I now feel reluctant to date and become serious with a person in fear that it will run it's course before it's even started!

I try not to think that it's me, because it makes me feel insecure, but i'm wondering whether it is. Maybe because my social anxiety, or maybe my general communication skills are lacking somewhat, i don't know. I feel that i can communicate well, but it's really confusing.

I don't think i try too hard. I do tend to talk a lot when i meet new people to mask my nerves and any awkward silences, but would that be the reason?

I don't know tbh. Has anyone else ever thought they weren't cut out for relationships or serious dating?

AubreyMac

Possible that you've just not met someone whom you just 'click' with yet?

kingslayer

AubreyMac wrote: »

Possible that you've just not met someone whom you just 'click' with yet?

but that could take a while. i don't even believe this "click with" malarky anyway. I think a person has to find the other person attractive, both physically and mentally for it to work.

I don't think i'm a bad looking guy (been told i'm handsome, good looking before now) and my personality is decent (i think), and i have many interests from art, to music, to travelling, to fitness/health, to cooking, so on and so forth.

I am not too picky either. If i find someone attractive, and i have many types, from black and white, to witty, eccentric, artsy, sporty, etc.

I would say i'm very open minded when it comes to dating, but either i'm always meeting the wrong women, or it's me.

Tropez

Possibly because whenever you do meet someone soon after you go batpoo crazy and start assassinating their character on message boards with zany theories about why they may be a prostitute instead of talking to them like a sane person?

Just a thought...

AubreyMac

kingslayer wrote: »

but that could take a while. i don't even believe this "click with" malarky anyway. I think a person has to find the other person attractive, both physically and mentally for it to work.

I don't think i'm a bad looking guy (been told i'm handsome, good looking before now) and my personality is decent (i think), and i have many interests from art, to music, to travelling, to fitness/health, to cooking, so on and so forth.

I am not too picky either. If i find someone attractive, and i have many types, from black and white, to witty, eccentric, artsy, sporty, etc.

I would say i'm very open minded when it comes to dating, but either i'm always meeting the wrong women, or it's me.

And what's wrong with it taking a while? better than being with any ol' trash.

I've been single over 3.5 years. In those years I've not had a single date.

I'm not afraid of being single and it doens't bother me. I've met loads of people in that time but not one that I could see a future with.

And it's important for me to 'click' with a person, rather than going out with someone just because it's convenient to.

emsywoo123

rtopeilk wrote: »

Hi Kingslayer.

Why? Whhhhhhhyyyyy?

I will never understand trolling. I think that might be a good thing.

DaveTheMus

Another day, another whinging self-pitying Kingslayer thread....

tea_lover

DaveTheMus wrote: »

Another day, another whinging self-pitying Kingslayer thread....

With added AE fun.

SailorSam

You're only very young yet, you've got a whole life ahead of you.
Start to worry if you're in the same position in 30/40yrs time.

Kingslayer is the new Student Phil.

VestanPance

You do sound like a complete man-child. You're probably better off alone and not annoying the ladies. Oh, and it's definitely you.

Or maybe with your user name have you tried dating your sister?

System

Why don't you just concentrate on making friends instead of looking for a relationship?