I don't feel like i'm suited for relationships. your thoughts/any advice?

DUTR

kingslayer wrote: »

but that could take a while. i don't even believe this "click with" malarky anyway. I think a person has to find the other person attractive, both physically and mentally for it to work.

I don't think i'm a bad looking guy (been told i'm handsome, good looking before now) and my personality is decent (i think), and i have many interests from art, to music, to travelling, to fitness/health, to cooking, so on and so forth.

I am not too picky either. If i find someone attractive, and i have many types, from black and white, to witty, eccentric, artsy, sporty, etc.

I would say i'm very open minded when it comes to dating, but either i'm always meeting the wrong women, or it's me.

Trouble is, sometimes the content of your posts have good content which is diminshed by your attitudes and thought train.
In the case of this post, the 'click' malarky, well there could be some truth in that.
Perhaps you are not getting to meet the type of person for you (if they exist) you have to accept, that the world was not created for you and your needs and wants alone.
Take all the commercial stuff out of life and back to your basic hieriechy of needs, once those are met then you can be happy or at least very content.
Part of that is having someone to relate to.
Men and Women are different and not ust due to different genitalia

As for you saying you are not bad looking.....well the looks appeal are in the viewer, some may like tall and some like small, some like slim some like larger the list would go on.

Perhaps your ideal partner is of the same gender as yourself :eek:
However there is no point blaming the market place for you not being able to find an ideal partner right now, some things in life you just have little control over.

kingslayer

Lily-Rose wrote: »

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: Talk about the pot calling the kettle black!!!


After the things you have said about women on here?!

not really. I haven't come on here and called women "b*tches" or blamed women for any misfortunes in my dating life. I understand that I haven't put myself out there enough to meet many different women, but i'm just frustrated as to why I always fall at the last hurdle with these women, in terms of escalating the relationship further.

If I think back and analyse what may have happened, whether it was my fault etc, i just don't know. There have been a couple of times when girls have liked me, but I just haven't been interested in them for one reason or another, but i understand that's my fault, but for other women that i've no understanding of why things went the way they did, i have no answer.

kingslayer

tea_lover wrote: »

Yeah your attitude to women is perfectly fine - I mean, who doesn't accuse the woman they've just slept with of being a prostitute?

I never said she was, i was just a bit annoyed at her and never understood the reasoning for her ignoring me like that. I never called her a prostitute, i just theorised that she may have been for all i know. It was a stupid thing to even think about, and i understand that now.

Peter333

You have got a LOT of growing up to do.

ska_lover

Kingslayer, can I ask, how old you are?

I ask because, you come across as relatively young - with the 'not having much experience' remarks.

Maybe you are putting too much pressure on yourself.

kingslayer

here's the thing. I met this girl about a year or so ago and things were going okay, but we weren't in a relationship and i never slept with her; we were just casually hanging out. I became distant as wasn't sure what i wanted, but on top of that my life was (and still is, somewhat) a bit messed up with not knowing where i'm heading etc. She met someone else, but it only lasted a short time (about 2 months) and she has been getting in touch with me again. I started texting her about a 2 months ago, but then stopped talking to her. She again has initiated the contact and about an hour ago i received a text from her out of the blue, just saying "hey" and that was it. I really don't know what to do about her; she is nice enough, but i'm just not sure about pursuing a relationship with her. I know it's what she wants, but i don't know if i want that with her specifically.

kingslayer

Peter333 wrote: »

You have got a LOT of growing up to do.

well, of course, i know i have a lot more to learn about life, i'm not denying that, but it's comments like these that are not much help at all. all it is, is a criticism towards me and nothing much else, which is what i seem to get a lot of on here. I proclaim that i am genuine and yet members of this forum still think i'm not a serious poster, or that i'm some kind of troll.

kingslayer

I realise my head is f***** up! but that doesn't mean people need to lambast me and throw constant insults my way. I don't think i've ever been rude to fellow posters on here, yet posters seem to feel the need to be rude towards me.

BrassicWoman

kingslayer wrote: »

I realise my head is f***** up! but that doesn't mean people need to lambast me and throw constant insults my way. I don't think i've ever been rude to fellow posters on here, yet posters seem to feel the need to be rude towards me.

because you ignore all the advice you are given and go your own sweet way.

because you drip feed stories making it impossible to give you advice on half the picture.

because what you are asking changes on a daily basis

because your posts are offensive to women, and to people who have seen the value of therapy

because your posts are about *you* and do not consider the impact on others

because you have not yet learned that the best thing to be in life, above all else, is kind

Look outside of your own world and perspective. All the answers you seek are there.

Go into the world. Be kind.

jaylee3

kingslayer wrote: »

I realise my head is f***** up! but that doesn't mean people need to lambast me and throw constant insults my way. I don't think i've ever been rude to fellow posters on here, yet posters seem to feel the need to be rude towards me.

Oh for goodness sake.

You do bring it on yourself you know! Some of the things you come out with are extremely offensive and rude. You just don't see it.