Boys using ladies loos

Carmina-Piranha_2

moomoomama27 wrote: »

I think the same! My son is 9 and about average height foe his age. Today we went on a family day out, and obviously neede the loo on our visit. Normally he would go into the mens if we had a male family member to take him, otherwise he comes in with me or we use the family toilets (if there are any) or disabled ones as a very last resort!

Today however I felt the right choice was to take him in with me, we had no one to take him, so he came in with me. All well and good he did his business and washed his hands, all the while this woman kept leaving then popping her head back in, tutting and leaving again, I sent him outside with my Mum sensing perhaps this woman was irritated at his presence.She then proceeded to shout that kid of your beter be SPECIAL NEEDS or otherwise I'm reporting him to the staff for being a pervert!!! At this point I am VERY glad I sent him out. My son is very sensitive and socially very young for his age, this would have devestated him.

So I'm wondering, having never really given it a second thought, either taking him in the ladies, or seeing other young boys in there, if this really is a problem, or was this woman just a bit ummm odd!!?

Your average sized 9 year old is probably the same size as my youngest at the age of 5 or then, how on earth could the woman even tell his age?

Silly moo, all he can see is her washing her hands, and possibly hear the sound of her having a wee - oh, calamity!

Carmina-Piranha_2

Flumina wrote: »

There is a reason why there are separate mens and womens toilets.

Personally I don't like the thought of going in there after a man's peed over the floor and left the loo-seat up. The women are bad enough at leaving the loo in a dreadful state I dread to think what the mens is like. Also I don't like the thought of a man I don't know being in the next cubicle while I'm in the loo. I don't care that he can't see me, nor me him, it'd just feel weird :rotfl:

I agree though that the poor old lady may have felt she didn't have a choice if there wasn't a disabled toilet available. Thinking about it, in the mall where I go shopping I don't think there's a unisex or disabled loo. That's a bit of an oversight, as there clearly is a need for unisex or disabled toilets.

What reason? In my house there is only one toilet, and none of the four males who use it pee over the floor or leave the seat up. Youngest is 9 so is perfectly capable of going to the toilet without leaving mess.

The only reason I would be uncomfortable about whoever was in the loo next to me (no matter what their gender!) would be if I had diarrhoea. Yesterday on a campsite I brushed my teeth in one unisex cubicle while somebody was rather ill in the next one :eek:

FBaby

moomoomama27 wrote: »

It was a huge complex, there was no way she could have just stood outside and been behind a wall, the toilets have huge cloakrooms before you go into the main toilets,of which there are about 50 toilets or so!

The man had severe Down's syndrome, perhaps teaching social skills was not possible.

Maybe, and if I'd been in the toilet, beside the initial surprise, I wouldn't have beat an eyelid, but it couldn't have been the first time the situation happened, and I would have thought that they would be used to better alternatives than a huge toilet, maybe a restaurant or pub. Surely it must have felt awkward for him as much as some women there.

Alias_Omega

Many a time i have been at the Urinal when 2 women have come out the toilet.

Anyhow, i had to go into the Ladies toilet on the weekend, my daughter aged 4 had gone in herself and needed some assistance.

Tough luck i guess...

Buzzybee90

FBaby wrote: »

Maybe, and if I'd been in the toilet, beside the initial surprise, I wouldn't have beat an eyelid, but it couldn't have been the first time the situation happened, and I would have thought that they would be used to better alternatives than a huge toilet, maybe a restaurant or pub. Surely it must have felt awkward for him as much as some women there.

Just walk into a pub or restaurant as opposed to using the toilets provided?

moomoomama27

FBaby wrote: »

Maybe, and if I'd been in the toilet, beside the initial surprise, I wouldn't have beat an eyelid, but it couldn't have been the first time the situation happened, and I would have thought that they would be used to better alternatives than a huge toilet, maybe a restaurant or pub. Surely it must have felt awkward for him as much as some women there.

He didn't feel awkward, just very scared when the woman started shouting at his Mum! He really wasn't the mental age, where he looked like something would bother him with re: to the social side of toileting. He was very mentally young, you could tell by the sweet way he spoke and acted!

There would have been no other place for him to use any other toilets there was either male/female toilets in one building.

Izadora

FBaby wrote: »

Maybe, and if I'd been in the toilet, beside the initial surprise, I wouldn't have beat an eyelid, but it couldn't have been the first time the situation happened, and I would have thought that they would be used to better alternatives than a huge toilet, maybe a restaurant or pub. Surely it must have felt awkward for him as much as some women there.

So, someone who's quite severely disabled should try to make sure they only ever need the toilet when they're fortunate enough to be in the vicinity of somewhere with disabled facilities, a pub or a restaurant?

summerspring

Carmina-Piranha wrote: »

What reason? In my house there is only one toilet, and none of the four males who use it pee over the floor or leave the seat up. Youngest is 9 so is perfectly capable of going to the toilet without leaving mess.

People behave differently at home to what they do in a public place, unfortunately. No, none of the men in my house pee everywhere or leave the seat up, but then I'm sure most women don't leave used sanitary towels strewn all over the floor at home either.

Person_one

Izadora wrote: »

So, someone who's quite severely disabled should try to make sure they only ever need the toilet when they're fortunate enough to be in the vicinity of somewhere with disabled facilities, a pub or a restaurant?

You sound outraged by the idea, but that is exactly the situation for many disabled people. They physically can't use ordinary cubicles so if there 's no disabled option, tough.

They have to adapt and plan, and that can mean researching and phoning ahead to find out what facilities are available before going somewhere. Sometimes it means not going, sadly.

I personally wouldn't be that bothered by an adult man with down's in the ladies, but I can understand why some would, particularly older women or if it's the sort of place where there are big gaps in the door frames and very little privacy.

fed_up_and_stressed

**Patty** wrote: »

And sometimes you can't use the disabled toilet because a parent is in their with their offspring because *the queue was long* or *he/she needed to go now* or *insert random reason*. :eek:

My son has the toilet abilities of a 2 year old (he's almost 17).....HE needs to go right now as well!

I am a wheelchair user ... I have no choice generally but to use the disabled loos ... Unlike mothers with kids.

Please don't abuse disabled facilities.