Is it normal for parents to want their kids to move out?

lessonlearned

berbastrike wrote: »

Shower per day, 8kw, 5 mins, around 5pence a day, £20 a year

Computer and TV, 50W, 10 hours a day, 8 pence, £30 a year

Heating, I rarely put it on if I'm in the house myself, say, £50 a year

Gas/elec for cooking, £50 a year

£150 a year, but I'm paying them £360.. hmmm

Mortgage/rent
Council tax
Water rates
Buildings insurance
Contents insurance
Cleaning
House and garden maintenance
Gas
Electricity
TV, phone, broadband

If you were in your own establishment this would set you back a pretty penny. £30 a month really is an insult.

You say you do your own laundry and cooking

Do you really provide every single ingredient, and all your laundry products

Do you really buy your own milk, tea, coffee, sugar, ketchup etc,

Do you buy you own loo rolls

Of course you don't.

Do you lift a finger to help your parents. A bit of diy, gardening, shopping, run round with the Hoover. I doubt it.

When my youngest son was your age he was helping me put his disabled dad to bed., not whining about paying his fair share towards the household expenses.

You don't know you are born.......

You are living the life of Riley at your parents expense and you haven't even the wit to see it. You haven't even got the good grace show a little gratitude and respect.

You seem to think that you are "entitled" and that this gives you justification to just take, take, take. Your poor parents.

No wonder they want you out. They have supported a greedy, selfish ingrate for quite long enough.

adindas

berbastrike wrote: »

I don't understand parents.

Taking money from their children is wrong imo

Well keep it this principle for you. You will need it sometimes in the future when you have your own family. Hopefully you have at least three children and all of them have grown up. Your grown up children start appying your principles that you told them in their childhood.

"Taking money from children is wrong imo"

Your children earn a decent salary but keep their earning for themselves while living in your home and let you pay all of the bills, food, family holidays spending ...

To make it more generous, let say your sons, daughters bring their partners and live together with you.

Hopefully you will be in this situation and you accept it ... Well it will be a very happy family, like a kingdom in a fairytail if your earning was like Bill Gates, Carlos Slim, Warren buffet, Amancio ortega ....

ska_lover

berbastrike wrote: »

If I was paying say £300 a month then I would have less money set aside for my house deposit

What are you waiting for then?

Mojisola

tomtontom wrote: »

Apparently he's making £80K a year and has over £200K in the bank.

berbastrike wrote: »

If I was paying say £300 a month then I would have less money set aside for my house deposit

Earning £80k and paying £360 a year for accommodation!

How big a deposit do you want for a house? Round here you could buy one outright with your savings.

If berbastrike is real, his Mum and Dad must be lamenting their failure as parents. Time to push the cuckoo out of the nest.

sillyvixen

berbastrike wrote: »

Shower per day, 8kw, 5 mins, around 5pence a day, £20 a year

Computer and TV, 50W, 10 hours a day, 8 pence, £30 a year

Heating, I rarely put it on if I'm in the house myself, say, £50 a year

Gas/elec for cooking, £50 a year

£150 a year, but I'm paying them £360.. hmmm

grow up - your parents don't owe you a living.

melissa-elizabeth

berbastrike wrote: »

I don't understand parents.

Taking money from their children is wrong imo

Please tell me you're not serious? My older brother moved out when he was 25, he was making £400 a week but only giving my mum £25 a week which I thought was insulting. (I moved out when I was 17). If you were renting a room somewhere you'd be paying a very minimum of £350 a month and depending on where you live, that could go up to £900 a month. I recently moved back home and I split the bills with my mum 50/50 as she's a single mum to my very young brother and sister and I'm still paying far less than what I was in my own place. (About £680 a month all in for a tiny one bedroom). We rotate the cooking and cleaning. I would feel totally guilty if I offered just £30 a month considering how much money she put into raising me. It is not a permanent situation as I do miss having my own space and independence. If I met a man at your age that was still living at home and scrounging off his parents, it would put me right off him. I will be very suprised if you have a girlfriend! You are totally taking the piffle out of your parents, no wonder they want you out.

missbiggles1

berbastrike wrote: »

But if I wasn't here, the room would be empty.

I pay £30 a month to cover my share of broadband, gas and elec

I'm not surprised they want you out if you pay that pittance, particularly when you don't believe they're keeping you!

Ungrateful so and so.

System

If I had children, they'd have the house for life if they needed it

lessonlearned

berbastrike wrote: »

If I had children, they'd have the house for life if they needed it

If..........

Unless you change your ways it is highly unlikely than any self-respecting female would take you on.

You would be a real turn off for any decent girl.

ViolaLass

berbastrike wrote: »

If I had children, they'd have the house for life if they needed it

But clearly something about the arrangement doesn't suit your parents. Rather than whinging to us about it, why not talk to them?