Is it normal for parents to want their kids to move out?

ViolaLass

berbastrike wrote: »

I don't understand parents.

Taking money from their children is wrong imo

So is sponging off them when you're old enough to stand on your own two feet. I would have thought it would be a matter of pride if nothing else.

DavidF

Wind up troll imho. Unusual for someone with so many posts but all the same given the previous threads mentioned this has been posted just to reel people in. Go ahead and offer advice to the op if you wish to play that game.....some answers can make for quite entertaining reading lol.

lessonlearned

ViolaLass wrote: »

So is sponging off them when you're old enough to stand on your own two feet. I would have thought it would be a matter of pride if nothing else.

Dead right.

Berbastrike

YOU ARE NOT A CHILD.

You are 24 Wake up and smell the coffee.

Stop sponging off your long suffering parents

Have some pride, some dignity and some self respect

If any of my offspring had your attitude they would have been shown the door. And.....as a last act of parental love I would even help you pack your stuff. ..........

System

So you would throw your child out for not paying money to fund your lifestyle. I pay my fair share of bills. But all my own food and cook it. Do my own washing etc.

SeduLOUs

£30 a month is not a fair share of household bills.

My monthly bills including rent, utilities, council tax, broadband etc total approx £1000 a month (not including any food or household goods, cleaning products, loo roll, washing powder etc).

Assuming your parent's house is similar, which is probably unlikely as we don't have any children adults claiming to be children living with us, your contribution would equate to 3% when you should probably be paying closer to 30%.

ViolaLass

berbastrike wrote: »

So you would throw your child out [STRIKE]for not paying money to fund your lifestyle[/STRIKE] to make them act like an adult and stand on their own two feet. I pay my fair share of bills. But all my own food and cook it. Do my own washing etc.

Corrected for you.

Do you ever cook for them? Wash their clothes? Clean? Sort out bills? Make life easier for them? Pay rent?

What happened to buying your own place a year back?

HappyMJ

berbastrike wrote: »

So you would throw your child out for not paying money to fund your lifestyle. I pay my fair share of bills. But all my own food and cook it. Do my own washing etc.

Are you serious? I really don't think so...you really are trolling but I'll bite.

£30 barely covers a share of the council tax bill let alone anything else.

I would not chuck my adult child out but I would expect them to offer to pay their "fair" share of the bills and £30 a month would not cut it. £30 a week would be a fair amount and that amount doesn't even cover the rent or mortgage at all.

A few of my bills
Council tax £1,473
Gas/Electricity (per year) £1,200
Water (per year) £457
Home phone line rental unlimited broadband unlimited land line calls (per year) £558

That's already £3,688 per year or £300 per month and your paying £30 and expect that to be your fair share.

Sharon87

My mum essentially kicked my brother out the house. He was working paying a decent amount towards her, but she gave him a date to move out - to London as this is where he wanted to go. It wasn't out of being angry at him, but it was a push for him to grow up and be independent. She helped with moving costs and deposit and the likes, but it was what he needed.

He was about 24 as well.

rach_k

As uni students living at home, my sisters and I worked out £200/month was a fair amount to pay to my mum. This was going on for 10 years ago. I can't believe somebody would really think £30 a month was fair; either it's trolling or somebody is so selfish that I can fully understand why the parents might want him out!

lessonlearned

Sharon87 wrote: »

My mum essentially kicked my brother out the house. He was working paying a decent amount towards her, but she gave him a date to move out - to London as this is where he wanted to go. It wasn't out of being angry at him, but it was a push for him to grow up and be independent. She helped with moving costs and deposit and the likes, but it was what he needed.

He was about 24 as well.

Exactly this....

Berbastrike - it is really not in your best interests to be tied to your parents apron strings.

However, judging from your petulant outbursts which are frankly the recourse of a stroppy teenager you are clearly not yet ready for the adult world.

Both of my sons were proper grown ups at your age, hence my willingness to gift them deposits for a house each. If they had displayed your arrogance, lack of respect and childish "me, me, me" behaviours i would certainly not helped them.

As parents we have supported and encourage them, put them through college, provided deposits, loved, nurtured and cosseted them. In their turn they love, respect and appreciate us.

I see little evidence of you having any real regard for your parents. The impression you are giving is that you see parents as just a wallet.....

Nice.

For the last time.

You are 24, almost a quarter of the way through your life. You need to grow up fast.

At 25 my husband was married with a child of his own, a mortgage and a responsible grown up attitude.

You clearly have a long way to go.

I feel sorry for your parents.

If my sons were like you then yes I would have shown them the door.

As it is they are nothing like you. They are intelligent and thoughtful adults who weren't looking for an easy ride therefore I was prepared to dig deep into my pockets and help them out financially.

To them I am their parent and friend - not a bank account to be emptied.