Is it normal for parents to want their kids to move out?

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Peter333 wrote: »

How much do you pay altogether a month? Not just the £30 is it? Because that's an insult.

How is it an insult?

Peter333

berbastrike wrote: »

How is it an insult?

If you only pay them £30 a month altogether for your keep, then how is it NOT an insult?

So is is only £30 a month that you pay?

RachRubyD

I live at home and am 24 this year, its just me and my mum. So sometimes I think she likes my company but most of the time we just argue. Its kinda human nature to leave the nest and find your own place and start a family (if you want) as an adult.

Even though we argue and things are sometimes unfair (Having to pay keep but still being treated like a child for instance). I understand that it would cost me a hell of alot more to have and run my own home.

Right now that's just not possible with not getting enough work hours. Plus there is so much I want to do with my money besides spending it on rent and bills. So I just have to remind myself of this when moment's get tense.

And you say you do all your own washing and cooking (why shouldn't you? your an adult). If you shared a place with a friend would you expect them to wash and clean/cook for you? I have to cook meals for my mum and clean the house.

I don't think there is anything better than having your own place though and being independent. Just pretty hard nowdays with cost of living and low wages/hours.

Peter333

Have to admit I am confused.

Back in June, you said this

berbastrike wrote: »

I want to make an offer on a house but the estate agent says I need to view it first and have a solicitor.

I just want to offer money for the house.

in this thread:

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/comment/65809320#Comment_65809320

Not long after, you said you were running a business from your home

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/5009890

And now you say you live with parents and they want you out.

I'm a bit confused.

Which of the scenarios is true? :huh:

You said you were buying a new house the other week, yet now you seem irked that your parents want you out. Are you forgetting what you have posted?

suse*

By having you there even if the room would be empty otherwise you are still using water for showers / washing, having to keep heating that extra room and you haven't mentioned food, do you have your own transport or rely on them for lifts places. All these things soon add up if not in finanial cost but time costs too.

I assume you are working but if you haven't lived alone before you might not realise just how expensive it is. Having an extra person in a house does make the bills go up so it isn't like you're not having an impact to the household.

Have a play at making your own statement of affairs for what you think your parents are paying for that house and you might be amazed. http://www.stoozing.com/calculator/soa.php

Just because you like living there maybe they want to downsize but can't cause they love you, but you're delaying their retierment even by staying.

It isn't just about money either, there is a lot to be learned about yourself as well by living alone (even if alone is a shared house) as you see the costs of things and that helps you to prioritse your life more and give you focus for the future. Do you want to have your own house? do you want to travel? do you want a family? All these things cost a lot of money, but by moving out it can help you figure out what is important to you and the direction you want your life to take. They probably just don't want you to end up being 35 still living at home and with no idea what you want to do with your life. I'm not saying you're like that, we can't know you from what you've written but at 25 living away from home is a right of passage they just don't want you to miss out on. They aren't going to be there for you forever, so now is the time to learn how to cope without them but still have advice when you need it. A lot can be learnt from getting down to your last fiver, for whatever reason, and living of beans on toast as it builds character that will stand you in good stead for your future endevors.

Sharon87

When my brother moved back into the family house after uni he had to pay at least £40 a WEEK, so you're getting off lightly with £30 a month!

Are you working full time? Are you wanting to stay at home? I personally would hate living at home at 24, but everyone's different. Are you saving up for a deposit to buy a house?

I think maybe it's time for you to move soon if you feel ready to live by yourself (or in a house share), just make sure you budget correctly, I'm sure your parents will help you out with a move!

Mint1955

£30 a month you have got to be kidding if you can honestly say they don't support you!!!!

McKneff

I read your first post and nothing else.


Do you realise, your parenst will have a sex life that they don't want to share with you...


been there, done that ha ha...

lollipopsarah

Of course it is, we all want the best for our children, and that means fledging the nest.
My oldest is finally leaving soon and takes great joy in reminding me that me and the old man can enjoy our company together soon - barrrrrrrrf!
Bless him, he's nearly 31.
Ah I forgot to say youngest has just finished uni at 22 so he'll be with us for a while.
I'm so glad i'm not my kids right now it was much easier when I was that age.
xx

purpleshoes_2

berbastrike wrote: »

I have overheard a conversation between parents wanting me out, they say I'm getting on (i'm 24) and they only supported my sister until she was the same age (they don't even support me though), if I wasn't here, the room would just be un used. I do all my own washing and cooking.


Tbh, they were quite !!!!!y about it, is this normal? Do any parents have the approach that they like their children staying with them?

Again??? Did you not post an identical thread a few months back?

Why is this post on the health and beauty moneysaving board