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Is it normal for parents to want their kids to move out?

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  • marleyboy
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    I moved out into a place of of my own when I was 18, as did the rest of the siblings. as much as I huffed and puffed at the prospect, I have never looked back.

    Its more to do with being self dependant, having a place of your own where you CAN kick your shoes off and leave them where they rest. Most importantly is the ability to bring a partner back to your own place with a sense of pride, rather than sheepishly looking like a Mummies boy. ;)
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  • jumpingjackd
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    Lessonlearned I totally agree with you if thats a true case, Id be wanting to move in with them!! Jeez would love to have that amount at my disposal, and if it was one of mine Id be actively kicking them out the door instead of being a sponger
  • jumpingjackd
    jumpingjackd Posts: 1,135 Forumite
    edited 25 July 2014 at 6:32PM
    But if I wasn't here, the room would be empty.

    I pay £30 a month to cover my share of broadband, gas and elec



    berbastrike get a grip, how far do you think that £30 GOES, grow up

    Just had to read this through and berbastrike your head is so far up your a** its untrue, I can only assume this is a windup and youre not serious in what your saying
  • sillyvixen
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    If I had children, they'd have the house for life if they needed it

    and whilst my parents are still alive i have a home for life, i just don't live there, i have my own home the other side of town - but any problems i would have somewhere to go.

    i have been back at times, when there was a delay on me buying my current house i moved back for a couple of months as my housemates were also moving on and we had all given notice on our 4 bed rental, i have been back to recuperate a couple of times following surgery, as well as family Christmas's and other occasions.

    I get on better with my parents as a result of not living with them full time but am welcome back any time if i really need it. so yes as a child i have a house for life, when i need it.
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  • System
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    I get on better with my parents as a result of not living with them full time
    I'll go one better. I believe a child does not truly grow up in every sense of the word until they leave home.

    Its not until you leave home and have to clean up after yourself, cook your own meals, wash your own clothes, pay your own bills etc that you appreciate how easy you had it when you lived under your parents wing.

    £30 a month? You ought to be ashamed of yourself!
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  • KxMx
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    edited 26 July 2014 at 11:45AM
    If I was paying say £300 a month then I would have less money set aside for my house deposit

    The needs of the household you live in come before any personal wants. You obviously have not yet come to this realisation.

    I just raised my "keep" to my mother because it is needed, despite my personal income having recently dropped. The latter did not matter because my contribution needed to increase regardless of my circumstances.

    Judi wrote: »
    I'll go one better. I believe a child does not truly grow up in every sense of the word until they leave home.

    Its not until you leave home and have to clean up after yourself, cook your own meals, wash your own clothes, pay your own bills etc that you appreciate how easy you had it when you lived under your parents wing.

    £30 a month? You ought to be ashamed of yourself!

    I typed a long reply, but why bother answering such a stereotype.

    I can only assume my experience of a mother raising me to be self sufficient is very different to your experiences.

    I may still live at home (health reasons directly impacting on financial) but I already do all the things you mentioned and much more besides. Have been for years and years!

    :cool:
  • System
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    Judi wrote: »
    I'll go one better. I believe a child does not truly grow up in every sense of the word until they leave home.

    Its not until you leave home and have to clean up after yourself, cook your own meals, wash your own clothes, pay your own bills etc that you appreciate how easy you had it when you lived under your parents wing.

    £30 a month? You ought to be ashamed of yourself!

    My parents ought be ashamed if they charged more than £30 a month, they they would be profiteering
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  • System
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    KxMx wrote: »
    The needs of the household you live in come before any personal wants. You obviously have not yet come to this realisation.

    You are wrong, I've not spent on any personal wants and saved all my money, £260k up so I will be mortgage and bill free the rest of my life, any income from now on can be spent 100% on personal wants
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  • Mojisola
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    You are wrong, I've not spent on any personal wants and saved all my money, £260k up so I will be mortgage and bill free the rest of my life, any income from now on can be spent 100% on personal wants

    And on subsidising your children for the rest of their lives because you'd be ashamed to take any money from them.:)
  • tomtontom
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    Mojisola wrote: »
    And on subsidising your children for the rest of their lives because you'd be ashamed to take any money from them.:)

    He needs to find a woman that'll have him first ;)
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