Better half of 2014 - all about me

ellesbellesxxx

Supersaver is bang on right I agree. It is so disappointing I know, especially when you have put a lot of time into travelling to see someone but life is ultimately too short!

lulabelle

Thanks guys. Know you're all right. Sent one yesterday basically saying he'd clearly checked out and I thought someone else was on the scene and he got cross and said thought we'd decided to talk at the weekend. Then he said he needed time to think and we'd talk next week but I lived in x, he lived in y, his last 2 relationships had been long distance and ideally he wanted someone closer

Went out last night and got stupidly hammered and ended up in tears. Spent a bloody fortune so annoyed at self. Bought a round that was £32!!!! Met some nice new girls though and bonus is one has just moved back here from Sydney with her husband and they know some single men so are on about setting me up

Annoyed I spent as should be trying to save as much as poss in case I move away or decide on career change. I do have to change my job I think come what may. Salary is great but it does make me miserable

Going to a friends tonight for a girlie night, should be 5 of us so looking forward to that

supersaver1000

If you're the one, then it doesn't matter where you live. However, sounds like he just wants someone more conveniently placed. There's nothing wrong with that - its his choice - but you know that's not what you want, so I think you're right to call it a day. Let him contact you if he wants to, but just bear in mind that no matter how much effort you put into it, he's really just after convenience unless he's prepared to move to you.

Its hard not to get upset, you put so much into a relationship and hope that the other person feels the same. Its natural. You'll look back on it all differently one day believe us.

Good for you with making other friends, you just don't know where or when you'll meet the one. Just get to know people first. They aren't going anywhere and if there's a spark, just let it burn slowly. Remember Patti's advice - no sex before monogamy if you want a relationship that lasts. Your friends may have single friends, but remember they may have friends too - so get to know them a bit before you jump in - remember boys can be friends too.

Job change can be good - get a really carp job like I just had and the last thing on your mind will be meeting someone :rotfl: just joking I'd never wish that job on anyone else. I lost a stone in the first month - someone just asked me if I could get a secondment back there as I've put that stone back on :rotfl:

Have a great girlie night Lulabelle xx

lulabelle

Thanks SS and of course, you are right. It's understandable he wants someone closer (and he did say he was fundamentally lazy!!) as I would ideally also want someone who lived here. But you're also right, if I was "the one" then it wouldn't matter. If I'm honest with myself, he's not "the one" either. I like him but I just don't feel it. So probably for the best as upsetting as it is because I do get attached quite easily

One of the new girls I met last night was telling me the story of how she met her husband and they had apparently snogged when aged 14 and at school. Then she was living in Hong Kong and he was out there on holiday so had got in touch and asked her to show him around and she said when he walked into the bar that night she just knew that she was gojng to marry him but he was living in Aus at the time so she went out there for a week and they knew they had to be together so they agreed to do long distance for a year but after 2 months she couldn't live without him so move to Aus to be with him! So romantic and that's what I want - I should not and will not settle for less!!!

Yes, I am now going to follow patti's advice - no sex without monogamy. And I'm just going to try and meet new people but without any agenda. The girls were saying last night that the blokes they know are sick of the same girls and think there's no decent ones out there so they thought they have the and problem as me

Oh no, are you out of the crappy job now?!

lulabelle

AND as I'm getting back on the fitness wagon Monday, tomorrow I'm going to make black pudding and apple ravioli with a blue cashew cheese sauce - final fat supper!!!!

Really looking forward to girlie night tonight - just love the girls and particularly one of them

supersaver1000

Good, sounds like you have a plan. Don't settle for 2nd best.

Me, yes, carp job gone, went onto temp job and much angst about income, but just landed a great job. Start in a few weeks. It might have just all worked out for the best (and here's me telling you not to worry, take it easy :rotfl: it's easier said than done :rotfl:).

I think it's all going to work out now, though I'm having a bit of a 'down' time at the mo, I think it's relief, but I'm feeling very grumpy. Sadly I have just upset DD unnecessarily so I need to get my act together and find my mojo. She wrote about me at school that I'm funny and nice. Don't feel like that today, so I'm feeling a bit guilty too. Hopefully she'll forgive me later. Feeling a bit dehydrated actually, that may be the cause.

Right. Off to get things done. Have a great evening. And a good meal tomorrow. Xx

lulabelle

Sorry you're having a down time SS. It probably is just the relief and the adrenaline. Big hug x

supersaver1000

Thanks Lulabelle. Just got back from rare night out with DH and feeling much better. Xx

lulabelle

Girls night was truly excellent. So much for not drinking though! Feeling rough today but worth it - what a laugh

My best mate from home has also "fixed me up" with a hot doctor she works with. Been messaging him since weds night. He's only 28 (eek!) but fit and at least a bit of a distraction from London boy who is "thinking" (and not been in touch since lunchtime fri - the longest since we first started chatting)

Next month am going to be totally MSE and fitness oriented. Spent a bloody fortune this month

supersaver1000

Well 28, he should be fully cooked by now, and a doctor - he's either a GP or still completing his specialty training. Either way, quite a catch - don't forget your monogamy rule Lulabelle - he's seen enough of other people's anatomy !!!!:rotfl::rotfl:!!!