is this true

angeltreats

Don't read into it too much. I love my mum and my mother in law, but my mum is in a different country and my mum in law is 300 miles away and I still won't be telling them when I go into hospital. I just don't want to have to worry about them constantly phoning asking if there's any news yet, or for them to worry about me/the baby.

Frith

I wouldn't tell anyone if I was going into hospital. What if it took a few days? I certainly wouldn't want visitors whilst in labour.


I would let everyone know as soon as possible after my baby was born though - I wouldn't wait until the next day.


ETA - neither of my sons was born in hospital. But if they had, and the midwives had "updated" curious family members over the phone, I'd have been livid! Surely it is completely against patient confidentiality?

meritaten

DigForVictory wrote: »

For a first child? It might be nice to know, but since first babies can take Ages, spare yourself worry & ask only to know what she's had, how heavy & long (in Imperial?!), at a reasonable time before noon & before they post it on social media?

I told my parents when I was going in, mostly as they were part of the keep-the-home-fires-burning-&-other-children-fed-&-watered plans.

My cousin, orphaned by time & fate, leans on my parents as surrogate parents. When his missus was expecting, he planned to let them know pretty much Everything. It turned out they went in, had the elective cesarian & then posted on facebook that the baby had arrived when they were all home. (I think that's what caught mum on the raw - the longed for grandchild (albeit her sister's), told to the world by facebook. So she learned about it by gossip from a machine, not the phonecall she'd fantasised.)

I can well understand your mum there! if I had learned about the birth on effbook along with the rest of the world - I would feel cut to the quick. you rather expect to learn of these matters in a personal call!