is this true

julie88_2

sassyblue
she is a very mixed personality some days we get great some days she get distant and keeps away i hope more than anything the baby can pull us closer

stebiz

Is this your first? I had to let my MIL know when ours where born as I needed her to babysit the other/s. I told her that we'd ring as soon as I had news of anything and kept her informed. It is her and my FIL's grandchildren after all.

All where welcome to come in the same day after Mum had a few hours kip.

An event to share in my opinion. Maybe first time nerves?

itsanne

julie88 wrote: »

no i certainly wouldnt go to the hospital or keep on phoning all we want is a quick call to let us know the labour has started and later on a call about the happy event!!
we live some way from the hospital and i hope to see them maybe a day or 2 later

Even thirty years ago we didn't tell anyone the labour had started for our first. There were no ulterior motives and no need. (Second time around was different because someone had to look after the first, but we certainly didn't give progression updates.)

Tales of people turning up before the baby is even born now - :eek:


It's a special time for your daughter and her husband - maybe they just want to keep it that way. Tell you as soon as the baby is born yes, but there's really no need to know before then.

julie88_2

stebiz
yes she is my onley daughter and no she does not seem nervous

stebiz

julie88 wrote: »

stebiz
yes she is my onley daughter and no she does not seem nervous

Is this her first child? I think Mums and Dads get very excited but stressed out with their first. I suppose you'll have to tread carefully as to what she wants from you when the child is born. My MIL was around a lot for our first and although it irritated us at times I think my wife appreciated it.

fozziebeartoo

I never told my Mum when I was admitted to be induced (and that was 24 years ago) because I knew she would be worried sick about me and the baby.

Just rang to tell her when we were safely through the birth.

I have 2 daughters that I am very close to, but I don't think I would expect to be kept informed of them starting labour etc, if their partners were with them.....

Too many other things happening for them to be bothering with thinking about me at such an exciting time!!

However, I was at the birth of my 1st grandchild as my daughter wanted me there.

But I think whatever the mum-to-be wants, has to be the right way to go.

julie88_2

thanks everyone for replying and some funny replies as well!!
certainly feel better now

missindecisive

Hi Julie. I love my mum to bits but I'm quite independent and wouldn't have wanted her there watching me give birth...it was just me , husband and midwife. Don't be offended...just tell her your there if needed and let them get on with it!

Lieja

I've often joked about this with OH, saying that MIL won't be told until it's over because she would definitely turn up. It wouldn't be so bad if she wasn't totally controlling, but I have images of her standing over the midwife telling me I'm not pushing properly or won't I get her son a cup of coffee between contractions??!

I agree with whatever mum wants, goes. Sorry OP but you'll get to know afterwards when all the messy stuff's out the way!

lazywife

julie88 wrote: »

no i certainly wouldnt go to the hospital or keep on phoning all we want is a quick call to let us know the labour has started and later on a call about the happy event!!
we live some way from the hospital and i hope to see them maybe a day or 2 later

Didn't want to tell anyone that I was going in. What if I was still there 24 hrs later?!! Or something didn't go as planned, wouldn't want someone chasing up on me and if everything ok.
We told our parents the happy event that our baby boy was born about 5 hrs after it happened. They were delighted to hear, as they hadn't been hanging around knowing it was imminent. I think the day after is a bit cheeky, but certainly don't find it odd that they don't want to tell you when she's going in.
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