Young people who live with you part of the time and their keep

Carmina-Piranha_2

Jet wrote: »

That's pretty much what we have done. We are happy with it.

Apparently some people seem to think that only Mum's deserve to charge keep though.

I don't think that, but if the mum is left short without maintenance and the dad is left with extra money because he no longer has to pay maintenance, then I'd see that as win for the dad, and in that situation I wouldn't charge her if I were the dad.

But as long as you're all happy with the solution then that's fine

duchy

I don't actually think the other parent's circumstances are a big factor . The "child" is 18 so a legal adult and there is even less need for the ex partner to be enquiring into their ex spouse's financial affairs ( and IMO doing so even when joint children are under 18 is an impertinence at best )

duchy

Jet wrote: »

That's pretty much what we have done. We are happy with it.

Apparently some people seem to think that only Mum's deserve to charge keep though.

It reads to me that it isn't anything to do with gender and everything to do with where is "home" and nights spent but I don't really understand why you posted as you don't want to hear alternative viewpoints anyway <shrug>

Do you charge your younger children's friends when they come for a sleepover btw ?

Dollydimp

Hey can anyone help? My son moved back home and is working so I get dig money from him, what I wanted to ask is when he stays away for a week or goes on holiday, does he still pay for his keep? Thanx

Izadora

Dollydimp wrote: »

Hey can anyone help? My son moved back home and is working so I get dig money from him, what I wanted to ask is when he stays away for a week or goes on holiday, does he still pay for his keep? Thanx

I guess everyone will deal with it differently but my mum always gave me back my housekeeping if I was going on holiday - quite often changed up to the currency of where I was going

Mojisola

Dollydimp wrote: »

Hey can anyone help? My son moved back home and is working so I get dig money from him, what I wanted to ask is when he stays away for a week or goes on holiday, does he still pay for his keep?

It's up to you to decide - there's no laws about it.

If the move back home was temporary and the money you get from him is to cover food and his use of the utilities, I wouldn't charge him because he wouldn't be costing me anything while he was on holiday.

If the move is for the longer term and he's contributing towards the rent, council tax, etc, I would still charge something. You still have to pay those things when you go away on holiday.

tatabubbly

I know when I was in full time education and working part time, I would go home from Uni at the weekends, and I don't think my mum ever dreamed of asking me to hand out as well as cover everything else.

I know you want to set an example to your other kids, but an older sibling working will. Perhaps you could take a bit off and put it in a post office account etc and show her the savings she could have?

victory

Izadora wrote: »

I guess everyone will deal with it differently but my mum always gave me back my housekeeping if I was going on holiday - quite often changed up to the currency of where I was going

I have done that:D