Ex sent to prison and wants his wife to continue with our contact order!

ElizabethMcdubh

Ms_Chocaholic wrote: »

Does your partner ever have unsupervised contact with your son?

Yes his had every other Saturday 10-5 and Sunday 10- 5 ( no over night stays) for 2 years then I moved to nor which and since February his had every other Friday5pm -Sunday 5pm

ElizabethMcdubh

Person_one wrote: »

Why not? Apart from the fact that it means he isn't seeing his dad as much as he could, what harm is being done? Do you have genuine concerns about his safety with his stepmum or do you just not like the idea?

Do you have a new partner?

No safety concerns...

Ms_Chocaholic

ElizabethMcdubh wrote: »

Yes his had every other Saturday 10-5 and Sunday 10- 5 ( no over night stays) for 2 years then I moved to nor which and since February his had every other Friday5pm -Sunday 5pm

No, not your ex, your current partner.

CH27

ElizabethMcdubh wrote: »

She has spent a lot of time with him without his father present and I have raised this before. I have said I do not feel this is beneficial for our son.

What exactly do you object to?

ElizabethMcdubh

Person_one wrote: »

I see that you do have a partner, does he never have your son without you being there then? While you work/shop/socialise/have a hobby/whatever?

We have only lived together since may 30th and I work from home so no he doesn't spend alone time with my son, he has how own son who also lives with us 3 days a week...

Ms_Chocaholic

Do you spend time with your partner's son alone without your partner being there.

ElizabethMcdubh

CH27 wrote: »

What exactly do you object to?

Why should my ex be out working or doing other things and then his wife be with our son? How is it beneficial, he could be at home with me his real mum or he could be at nursery?

Janepig

ElizabethMcdubh wrote: »

Yes his had every other Saturday 10-5 and Sunday 10- 5 ( no over night stays) for 2 years then I moved to nor which and since February his had every other Friday5pm -Sunday 5pm

I think the poster meant your current partner. Does your current partner ever have your son on his own? Seeing as you don't want the step mother to have any contact on her own with your child.

Jx

Edit - already been answered.

ElizabethMcdubh

Ms_Chocaholic wrote: »

Do you spend time with your partner's son alone without your partner being there.

I have looked after his son once while he went to work because he asked me too. My ex has brought this up in the past and I have explained that if my current partner wants me to and is happy for me to then it bares no relevance on how I feel my sons contact with him should be spent

Lieja

Why wouldn't you agree to every other weekend in the first place? Why don't you think his stepmum should have contact with your son when his father's not there, whether he's in jail or not? She's a huge part of his life, and to take that away from him would be detrimental to your son, as would stopping contact again once his father's released. She's sounds like a great stepmum, why take her away from him?

I don't mean to be awful, but you haven't really given a reason that you think this contact is wrong other than the lack of genetics, which is utterly ridiculous. She's been his stepmum for three years. Would you be happy if his dad said that your partner couldn't look after your son without you being there?