Do blokes care how much a woman earns?

mgdavid

gwen80 wrote: »

.... Plus if there were any work functions I may embarrass him.

G

nonsense - chin up, and blag it!

FBaby

Just to comment on doctors dating similar to theirs...could it be due to the fact that they spend 10 years studying, not having much time to venture outside of their Uni to meet different people. Nothing wrong with contemplating making a commitment at 25 with the person they started dating some years back, hence a higher chance of them marrying a doctor.

It then leaves those who married their childhood sweethearts (know two of them), or if living later in life, married to their PA.

I think it more a question of time and place than selective arrogance.

BucksLady

I'm engaged to a doctor and met him speed dating. He's 39, has never dated a doctor or teacher and he's certainly not 'driven by wealth or status'. His close circle of friends do include doctors, but they don't fit the stereotype painted either.

VestanPance

Two of my closest friends are doctors, well one doctor and one surgeon. Neither have dated other doctors and neither are motivated by wealth. Both are happy married to women with completely different career paths.

onomatopoeia99

gwen80 wrote: »

How important is what a woman earns to men?

I'm only one man and can't speak for all the others, but it's completely unimportant to me.

mehak_327

Uxb wrote: »

Unfortunately women don't seem to work this way when it is the other way round.
Describe yourself as an engineer (generally despised in the UK, lauded in Germany) and just watch the interest fade from their eyes as they try and find someone nearby to talk to who is more interesting - ie earns more and has prospects for earning even more.
Had it done many times to me over many years - it is so blatant and so obvious.

These days I generally tell some rubbish about I've just been made redundant so I'm 'idle' and watch them scatter...

Women are only interested in one thing - access to resources - and these days that is simply money - though they usually dress it up as wanting a man with "prospects" or "ambition" or some other metaphor.

To add a bit of different angle to this - I do know some women who wouldn't be interested in engineer. Nothing to do with earning potential, but the stereotype attached that engineers are geeks. I used to be that way, but then met my OH (who in fact is an engineer) and that did change my perspective. When I first started chatting up with him, I didn't know his profession at that point. Only at the first date, I found out what he does.

I also know of one couple where it mattered for the guy to be the higher earner. My friend was in finance and pulling in 30% more than the guy, but she did end up leaving her job. She was really smitten by him and money didn't matter much to her

We should accept that there are all kinds of people in this society and there is no blanket statement.

Person_one

VestanPance wrote: »

Two of my closest friends are doctors, well one doctor and one surgeon. Neither have dated other doctors and neither are motivated by wealth. Both are happy married to women with completely different career paths.

The info about second choice career paths after med school rejection isn't made up, google it.

Obviously not everybody in a certain profession meets the stereotype, I didn't that needed saying. You'll have to please forgive me for trying to make the OP feel a bit better about being rejected by a doctor. :cool:

AlexLK

My wife is an Engineer and earns much, much more than I. Goodness knows what that makes me but I wasn't bothered about her earning potential when I met her.

onomatopoeia99

With apologies for going of at a tangent but I want to disagree a little:

ComebackGirl wrote: »

geeky (an overused and annoying word)

A bit over a decade ago I realised that "geeky" is exactly what I am (in that I tend to get ridiculously excited about non-mainstream and/or intellectual things that many people either don't understand or don't see the point of understanding) and embraced the fact, rather than trying to conform to certain social stereotypes and hide it. I guess people used to say "boffin" (my parents still do), or the stupid ones would say "anorak", but geek IMO works better.

So, I don't mind the word being used to describe me (or "nerd" which I also use in self-description) at all, and don't see it as a pejorative. Those that do use it that way, well I don't help them when they have problems with their home computers or internet connection