Do blokes care how much a woman earns?

Tropez

My advice now I've read the thread is ask him out. You're not going to be thinking long term now anyway. Get to know each other, have some dates, some fun and let things go naturally. If in the future the money or other small things matter then you're not right for each other anyway. If you are right then you'll work it out.

But you won't know if you don't try.

Person_one

If somebody is put off by your job or the fact that you don't earn much, consider it a lucky escape.

Georgiegirl256

In answer to your question....Only if he's shallow. You judge a person on their merits, their character, wether you gel or not, and not the size of their pay check.

Excuse me for saying this, but you seem to have a complex regarding money (thinking back to your other recent thread)

gwen80

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

In answer to your question....Only if he's shallow. You judge a person on their merits, their character, wether you gel or not, and not the size of their pay check.

Excuse me for saying this, but you seem to have a complex regarding money (thinking back to your other recent thread)

You may have a point with that last sentence. It's something that went through my head today too.

picklekin

My OH earns more than 3 times what I do, and I think he likes looking after me I think he finds it reassuring that we could (just about, with major cut backs!) live within my means if he had to leave/got laid off but I he married me when I didn't have a job at all!

Gloomendoom

gwen80 wrote: »

Hi

I'm just after some male perspectives on how you view a womans job. There's a bloke I quite like and it seems he has a very good job and probably earns twice what I do. My first reaction is that he could do better than me, but another part of me thinks he might not care and I could be passing up someone great. How important is what a woman earns to men?

Thanks

G

Speaking as a male, it doesn't make any difference to me. I doubt it makes much difference to most men. My wife and I were discussing something similar yesterday as we realised that probably half the couples we know, the woman doesn't work. They all seem to be busy though... if that makes sense.

DigForVictory

Ask him out. Even pay for the first date - you asked after all. See how it goes!

As for do blokes care? Far as I can tell, yes, but only if they're the competitive type whose ego can't handle the fact the might-be-missus out-earns them. I'd suggest if you find someone who *does* respond that way that you leave their company pronto.

aileth

In my experience, yes.

My last relationship before I married was destroyed due to severe jealousy at the 'female' earning more than him. Husband did have issues in the first couple of years, but ones he kept to himself except when we had a talk, about feeling demasculinated due to me being the breadwinner and me having to pick up the tab for everything.

My cousin's marriage also broke down because she was a high flying bank manager and he was a builder. Apparently didn't show until they were married and he basically divorced her because of it.

Highly depends on the man though of course, but that's my experience.

Georgiegirl256

Gloomendoom wrote: »

Speaking as a male, it doesn't make any difference to me. I doubt it makes much difference to most men. My wife and I were discussing something similar yesterday as we realised that probably half the couples we know, the woman doesn't work. They all seem to be busy though... if that makes sense.

This is very true. This is our situation now. My husband works (from home), I'm a housewife. He brings in more than enough so that I don't have to work right now, and we're actually saving as neither of us need to commute anymore.

Even when I did work he was bringing in nearly 4 times what I earned, him being in Computers, me being in retail.

I guess for some people it's maybe a more old fashioned set-up (although it's nice to hear a lot of couples you know do it too), but it's working out well for us. It's other people who make more of an issue of it.

VestanPance

I don't know any guy who cares in the slightest about the earning potential of a partner.

Although I know many who like their partner to be well educated or at least intellectually on a level playing field with them, which often does relate to how their career has spanned out but not always.