Do blokes care how much a woman earns?

Top_Girl

Uxb wrote: »

Unfortunately women don't seem to work this way when it is the other way round.
Describe yourself as an engineer (generally despised in the UK, lauded in Germany) and just watch the interest fade from their eyes as they try and find someone nearby to talk to who is more interesting - ie earns more and has prospects for earning even more.
Had it done many times to me over many years - it is so blatant and so obvious.

These days I generally tell some rubbish about I've just been made redundant so I'm 'idle' and watch them scatter...

Women are only interested in one thing - access to resources - and these days that is simply money - though they usually dress it up as wanting a man with "prospects" or "ambition" or some other metaphor.

:rotfl:

The most I expect from a man is to be able to afford his half.

You're meeting the wrong women.

Gloomendoom

Uxb wrote: »

Describe yourself as an engineer (generally despised in the UK, lauded in Germany) and just watch the interest fade from their eyes as they try and find someone nearby to talk to who is more interesting - ie earns more and has prospects for earning even more.

Had it done many times to me over many years - it is so blatant and so obvious.

Why not just find yourself female engineer?

justme111

Uxb wrote: »

Unfortunately women don't seem to work this way when it is the other way round.
Describe yourself as an engineer (generally despised in the UK, lauded in Germany) and just watch the interest fade from their eyes as they try and find someone nearby to talk to who is more interesting - ie earns more and has prospects for earning even more.
Had it done many times to me over many years - it is so blatant and so obvious.

These days I generally tell some rubbish about I've just been made redundant so I'm 'idle' and watch them scatter...

Women are only interested in one thing - access to resources - and these days that is simply money - though they usually dress it up as wanting a man with "prospects" or "ambition" or some other metaphor.

Erm, I highly doubt women don't like you because you are an engineer. I can think about a few more obvious reasons for them doing so though ..
On the topic - yes , I am yet to see a successful longbterm couple where woman earns considerably more. Sure there are some about , I just have not seen them. I earn more than average , I am female and I find it to be quite an issue - if a man can not match my spending on holidays , food , going out it does not feel nice ..
For them to care about you.earning less - nope , they would liked it that way if anything. Now , earnings can be related to education , social circle , manners etc etc but that's different issues.

gwen80

I didn't see the further replies.

Regarding the post about engineering turning women off, I'd be surprised if it were due to earning potential. Engineers can earn very good money as far as I'm aware.

Maybe I'm a little paranoid about this. A couple of years ago I was on a dating website. I'd not long been made redundant and hadn't gotten a new job yet. I was messaging a guy and was honest about my situation and he basically told me to get in touch again once I'd got a job... A few months earlier I'd had a date with a doctor, who asked lots and lots of questions about what I did for living and specifically the earning potential in the field. His profile stated that he wanted to meet someone who wasn't materialistic and could enjoy the simple things in life. It turned out he drove a sports car and harboured aspirations of living in a castle. More recently I met a bloke and the very first thing he asked me was what I did for a living...

The bloke I'm referring to in this thread is someone I know at work, (which I know can bring other issues!), so he's fully aware of what I do for a living and can likely figure out roughly how much I earn. I'd imagine it's about half what he earns. Having said that he lives in an expensive area so despite his salary, he's probably not got loads of disposable income every month.

Thinking about people I know, most of the men earn more than their wives/girlfriends, with a couple of my friends where the woman earns more than the man and a couple where they have switched positions more than once over time.

Morglin

gwen80 wrote: »

Hi

I'm just after some male perspectives on how you view a womans job. There's a bloke I quite like and it seems he has a very good job and probably earns twice what I do. My first reaction is that he could do better than me, but another part of me thinks he might not care and I could be passing up someone great. How important is what a woman earns to men?

Thanks

G

A lot of men seem to get more antsy if the woman is earning more than them, (delicate male ego coming into play, I suppose lol) although it's generally not a problem the other way round.

Go with the flow and see what happens.

Lin

Person_one

Doctors are notoriously driven by status and wealth, it's interesting that the second choice of career for someone who fails to get into medical school is usually accountancy or law rather than something lower status in healthcare. I've dated precisely one doctor and I won't be doing so again, they're best left to date amongst themselves, a bit like teachers!

As for somebody asking wha you do for a living as their first question, that's pretty standard, probably jus an attempt to strike up a conversation, try not to read too much into that.

FBaby

My OH wasn't looking for a women with a particular career or earning potential when he signed on a dating site, however, he is attracted most by self-sufficient, hard-working confident women, so it was more likely he was going to want to commit to someone who had a career.

I myself am attracted by men who are also self-sufficient and ambitious, good with managing various aspect of their lives, so again, the person I was going to fall in love was more likely to be settle in a job and managing ok financially.

However, if either of us lost our jobs tomorrow and had to support the other for sometime, this would not be an issue at all and wouldn't affect how we feel for each other. OH said that if it happened, he didn't care where he worked he would take job and I know that would be the case and I admire his work ethics in that respect.

Gavin83

Is accountancy really considered in the same league and doctors and lawyers these days? The pay really isn't that amazing. Accountancy is probably the biggest career choice among my friends and with the exception of one of them their salary is no better than mine working in IT.

Anyway I answer to the question it would bother me to a degree, yes. I wouldn't want a girlfriend who earned a lot more than me or a lot less than me. It makes life so much easier when your partners earns a roughly similar wage to you. Luckily my girlfriend does and we've always earned a similar salary, although we've been together nearly 8 years now so a sudden difference would no longer be such an issue.

DKLS

When I first met my wife to be she earnt more than me, thanks to her support and guidance over the years I now earn significantly more than her. Initially I was attracted to her intellect, wit and ambition as well as lovely legs that make a cracking scarf

Now she doesn't earn as much but enjoyed her job and has little stress but her website idea has started to generate income and if the forecasts are right she will be earning more than me within 18mths.

It has never been an issue the money goes into one pot, the bills and living expenses get paid and the rest is divvied up for savings, holidays, car fund etc

ManofLeisure_2

Person_one wrote: »

Doctors are notoriously driven by status and wealth, it's interesting that the second choice of career for someone who fails to get into medical school is usually accountancy or law rather than something lower status in healthcare. I've dated precisely one doctor and I won't be doing so again, they're best left to date amongst themselves, a bit like teachers!

I don't think dating one doctor makes anyone an expert in the way in which doctors' tick.