Do blokes care how much a woman earns?

gwen80

Hi

I'm just after some male perspectives on how you view a womans job. There's a bloke I quite like and it seems he has a very good job and probably earns twice what I do. My first reaction is that he could do better than me, but another part of me thinks he might not care and I could be passing up someone great. How important is what a woman earns to men?

Thanks

G

mountainofdebt

my Hubby would love to be a kept man ....fat chance of that though lol

I know of a couple where he has followed his wife around the world as her career develops......he doesn't care that she is earning as he sees it as a partnership

I think it boils down to what sort of personality the both parties have as to whether it would be an issue or not

Gavin83

It's an impossible question to answer as it depends on the man. Some would hate to be with a woman earning more than them, some would enjoy being 'kept' and others simply wouldn't care.

Just go for it and forget about earnings.

DUTR

gwen80 wrote: »

Hi

I'm just after some male perspectives on how you view a womans job. There's a bloke I quite like and it seems he has a very good job and probably earns twice what I do. My first reaction is that he could do better than me, but another part of me thinks he might not care and I could be passing up someone great. How important is what a woman earns to men?

Thanks

G

I doubt the 1st thing is his mind is how much you earn.
He is individual just like everybody else, if you just want to date , then it shouldn't pose a problem, however in the long term sometimes the money thing can bring it's own problems.

Any

My OH was going out with a professional woman before me..
I was working in the pub.

He thought she is mad and married me despite being against ever getting married again..

So I reckon they don't.. unless they are actually planning on needing you earn more (like on the other thread here where the man has not worked for the last 6 years...)

gwen80

DUTR wrote: »

I doubt the 1st thing is his mind is how much you earn.
He is individual just like everybody else, if you just want to date , then it shouldn't pose a problem, however in the long term sometimes the money thing can bring it's own problems.

I'm pretty certain he likes me too. He knows what I do for a living and can probably figure out roughly how much I earn. His job and his earnings are pretty intimidating to me though. Can't help thinking that there's got to be a nice high flying woman out there for him. Plus if there were any work functions I may embarrass him.

Having said that my Dad is with a woman that earns significantly less than him.

G

Any

gwen80 wrote: »

I'm pretty certain he likes me too. He knows what I do for a living and can probably figure out roughly how much I earn. His job and his earnings are pretty intimidating to me though. Can't help thinking that there's got to be a nice high flying woman out there for him. Plus if there were any work functions I may embarrass him.

G

?????
Embarrass him why????

Any

2 high flying people don't often match much..
One often has to care for the home as well as for the job.. so you go from work home, rather then to another work..
(Meaning making it homely and welcoming..)

gwen80

Any wrote: »

?????
Embarrass him why????

Because my job is not 'high flying', it is a professional role, but not at anywhere his level. Plus I can sometimes say the wrong thing..

CRANKY40

It's not how much you earn, it's what you do with it. My late husband earned twice my salary when we first started dating seriously. He had a few teething problems in his job, and even on my "low compared to his" wage I was able to tell him to pack his job in and look for something else if he really hated it. I had my own (mortgaged) flat which I was paying for easily out of my money and one more person doesn't cost that much extra to keep.

He didn't give up his job, he stuck at it, but with the knowledge that he could resign if he needed to. By the time he died he was earning 4 times my salary but still thought I was the best person that walked the planet due to my support for him (and the fact that I loved him more than anyone else did as he said). He wasn't bothered that I earned less than him, it was the way that I loved and supported him that counted.

Anyone who thinks your earnings are important is not worth having (and that should not be confused with someone who wants you to reach your full potential for your sake, which doesn't always involve being highly paid).

duchy

Why ?
How are you embarrassing ?
Do you get drunk and flash your knickers (or lack of them) at social events on a regular basis or is this just some kind of reverse snobbery on your part about the sort of work events he attends?

If he likes you and you are a decent person then why would you deliberately embarrass him at work events ? Most people with half a brain can manage to behave themselves in public after all.