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Nice People 12: Nice in Nice
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In each of the last three weeks I have met up with NP. I also saw the Nice baby twice.
This week no one:(
May be I am eating to console myself.
You're welcome here if you can fit blinds
But there appears to be a builder's tipper, complete with cement mixer etc in "your parking spot"0 -
I've lead a "travel light" life .... as it's been cheaper to do so at times; I had no spare space for it and couldn't have afforded to keep transporting/storing it ... but if I could have chosen my life I'd still own nearly everything I ever owned.... and I'd have lived in one house where it all still existed.
I'm a hoarder wannabe.... not really a minimalist, that's my "mask of indifference".0 -
Maggie, please try not to be ashamed. The shame won't help you. Please watch some of those Hoarder Next Door programmes again and make a point of noticing how un-shaming they all are. Having a problem with clutter isn't a failure - it's something that happens to people who've been hurt, and you don't need to be ashamed of having been hurt.
Honestly, listen to me! I should do what I say myself. Here I am preaching to you about not letting the shame get to you when I myself am ashamed of the state I have allowed my house to descend into through being too burnt out to exert the effort required to deal with it.
Me too.
Maggie, we have stuff in boxes. I don't have energy to deal with stuff so we have it piled up on landing, and we have a horder next store style barn.
What's worse is, as soon as we clear some of our stuff, friends come and put their stuff in clear bits. RP has put one of my favourite pieces of furniture, dismantled as a gangplank, into a bit of barn and so I accept through our laziness and failure to sort that out I have lost that.
That's the thing with stuff.....
Anything good crumbles and rots in the 'hoard'.
The hoarding thread on old style is very good.
My problem here is its not my ( just my, some of it is mine) stuff, and I am not prepared to make decisions about other people's stuff, and its hard to get other people to focus on things when they don't want to.
I hate the extra stuff.0 -
lostinrates wrote: »Pn? Lydia ( or too near beginning of term? ( though of course you both know the place) NDG? I'll try email details of how far if date is free for you so you can make a reasonable decision before committing.
The date you have mentioned is good for me. Do you know anyone who's bereaved? Point them to https://www.AtaLoss.org which does for bereavement support what MSE does for financial services, providing links to support organisations relevant to the circumstances of the loss & the local area. (Link permitted by forum team)
Tyre performance in the wet deteriorates rapidly below about 3mm tread - change yours when they get dangerous, not just when they are nearly illegal (1.6mm).
Oh, and wear your seatbelt. My kids are only alive because they were wearing theirs when somebody else was driving in wet weather with worn tyres.0 -
PasturesNew wrote: »I've lead a "travel light" life .... as it's been cheaper to do so at times; I had no spare space for it and couldn't have afforded to keep transporting/storing it ... but if I could have chosen my life I'd still own nearly everything I ever owned.... and I'd have lived in one house where it all still existed.
I'm a hoarder wannabe.... not really a minimalist, that's my "mask of indifference".
I definitely have hoarder tendencies. Thankfully not due to any losses in my life though. I think it's more to do with poorly-adjusted thrift. In my family, if you see a bargain - you stock up. Coupled with 'better keep it just in case it comes in handy'.0 -
I'm doing a rejuvenating and intensive moisturising face mask, before I subject it to a week's worth of sea, sand and sun. Obviously, both OH and Isaac are dead keen to have a go and put some on Kermie, to see what happens when you "rejuvenate" someone who is only a few weeks old........much enquiry having been made concerning a gentleman, who had quitted a company where Johnson was, and no information being obtained; at last Johnson observed, that 'he did not care to speak ill of any man behind his back, but he believed the gentleman was an attorney'.0
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I definitely have hoarder tendencies. Thankfully not due to any losses in my life though. I think it's more to do with poorly-adjusted thrift. In my family, if you see a bargain - you stock up. Coupled with 'better keep it just in case it comes in handy'.
My family's like that too. "It might come in handy later" is a reason for keeping all sorts of stuff. My parents got it from the "make do and mend" of their teens in the war years, and from the deprivation of their middle years when all the money went on school fees and there was barely enough left for food. I'm like that myself too. On the show, Stelios acknowledges often that there's a little bit of a hoarder in all of us, to a greater or lesser extent. I'm hoping that now that I've paid for my house and have a buffer of money in the bank, I'll be able to keep less stuff "just in case" because I'll feel confident that if I really do need such a thing in the future, I'll be able to afford to buy one, and in the meantime, what I really need is the space.
Truly pathological hoarding is different, though. It's keeping stuff despite being quite sure that you will never have any use for it, just because the thought of letting it go is irrationally too distressing or terrifying.
On a different subject, MSE have not only given me a Mortgage Free Glee badge, but a comment from MSE Andrea on the roll of honour thread.
MSE_Andrea wrote: »Huge congratulations LydiaJ. Lovely to see you reach your goal despite the difficult circumstancesDo you know anyone who's bereaved? Point them to https://www.AtaLoss.org which does for bereavement support what MSE does for financial services, providing links to support organisations relevant to the circumstances of the loss & the local area. (Link permitted by forum team)
Tyre performance in the wet deteriorates rapidly below about 3mm tread - change yours when they get dangerous, not just when they are nearly illegal (1.6mm).
Oh, and wear your seatbelt. My kids are only alive because they were wearing theirs when somebody else was driving in wet weather with worn tyres.0 -
Without two capitals, I didn't realise you were addressing me, I thought you were making some strange soundlostinrates wrote: »
Pn?
Me too.... as far as I can see at present. So, from me, it's a desire to attend, which I'll confirm/panic about at the last minute.18th is good for me.0 -
PasturesNew wrote: »Without two capitals, I didn't realise you were addressing me, I thought you were making some strange sound
When lir gets the letters right, she's winning. I'm not sure any of us should attempt to read anything into whether those letters are capitals or not!Do you know anyone who's bereaved? Point them to https://www.AtaLoss.org which does for bereavement support what MSE does for financial services, providing links to support organisations relevant to the circumstances of the loss & the local area. (Link permitted by forum team)
Tyre performance in the wet deteriorates rapidly below about 3mm tread - change yours when they get dangerous, not just when they are nearly illegal (1.6mm).
Oh, and wear your seatbelt. My kids are only alive because they were wearing theirs when somebody else was driving in wet weather with worn tyres.0 -
In my family, if you see a bargain - you stock up. Coupled with 'better keep it just in case it comes in handy'.
Mine too ... I've a tendency to keep all those little individual cheesecake pots, they come in packs of three... I have a stack of about 18" of them now .... they do come in handy - and I do try to throw a few out every few weeks .... but there's always that nagging feeling that I might suddenly need 30-40 of them! I felt very smug when I found a use for 24 of them, to lay out and put all the components of the drawers into, in the same order/layout as the diagram in the DIY booklet
They're also handy for: collecting together small/random items, to finally bring them all together as I unpack various boxes/bags (e.g. loose coins, hairgrips, the plastic closers of vacuum bags that had gone astray .... they're also good for putting screws into when I'm doing minor DIY - e.g. removing screws from drains and outside lights so I don't lose them.
I've got too much "in case" stuff though ... but I know that and do make a conscious effort to be realistic about it, to keep it down to a non-loon level.
It's partly why I've not dashed off to buy furniture.... if I owned furniture I'd just chuck stuff inside it .... and not be forced to cull and remove. I am trying to hard to have this one good last push at finally being "sorted" .... and without too much "in case" stuff - but "in case" stuff will end up being kept in the shed 0
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