Mum, 88, moving in, how much rent to charge?

PasturesNew

xxdeebeexx wrote: »

OK, she is fed up with me and would like to see a change of face, but surely that's where my siblings come in.

Have you checked for local groups that do pickups? I tried to get my mum to go to some. e.g. Age Concern Day Centre = natter and a good lunch, minibus provided, the day cost £20. Local church lunch club = natter and a good lunch, minibus provided for £2/trip (3 miles), the lunch itself cost £5; plus they picked her up for the Sunday evening services by bus for free.

Although my mum (mid 80s) said they were full of "old people"

margaretclare

Yes, I understand just how your mum felt, PasturesNew. I used to know a lady - former sergeant-major in the women's army in WWII - who used to 'go along to the local centre to organise the old people'. She said they would come up to her and say 'I'm xxx old you know' and mostly they were younger than she was.

Now, a few years later, I tend to avoid my own age-group unless it's for some specific occasion or event.

thorsoak

margaretclare wrote: »

Yes, I understand just how your mum felt, PasturesNew. I used to know a lady - former sergeant-major in the women's army in WWII - who used to 'go along to the local centre to organise the old people'. She said they would come up to her and say 'I'm xxx old you know' and mostly they were younger than she was.

Now, a few years later, I tend to avoid my own age-group unless it's for some specific occasion or event.

Me, too, Margaretclare! I use the excuse that as yet I don't have the curly perm nor the pleated skirt!

RAS

One rellie went to live with her (retired) nephew and hated it "because they were so old". She moved to live with a household full of rowdy teenagers and loved it.

She was still clearing up from breakfast, sorting out her own lunch and getting the preps down for supper well into her 90s. It kept her young. If they had done the cataract op earlier she would have had retained more mobility and confidence.

margaretclare

Unfortunately there are some people who seem to take on the 'old' persona from a relatively youthful age, and the age as expressed in years is relatively misleading. I hope I never get like that. I think, as long as DH is around, we shall remain interested in what goes on and not start saying 'oh, in my day' or 'bring back national service, made a man of me' or similar. Or talking about 'the war' as if there has only ever been one war. Or the classic 'oh I couldn't do that, not at my age...' Given that we have physical limitations I hope we never get into that fossilised mindset.

jenand8285

OK, I have skimmed through the last 6 pages.

I think the sisters income does come into it! If that income is correct then surely they are living a very comfortable life with no mortgage payments to take care of.


I think if your sister was living month to month and just getting by then I could understand her maybe asking for a little something to cover the cost of any additional usage in energy and food. This would usually be minimal and presumably less than she is paying now.
I assume your mother receives pension so the small costs above would come from that very easily. However, on her income the extra, say £30 a week really would not be material..


Am I the only one who wants to know what the sister and BIL do for a living??? Might just be me who is too nosey!!! That is a very handsome income...