I didnt like my wedding day - how to cope

Georgiegirl256

Peter333 wrote: »

I just find it unusual myself to not have photos of loved ones in your home - very unusual. I also find it unusual to not have a photo of your wedding day.
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I have some (although not many as I hate clutter) family photos on display. I just don't have any wedding photos. I was going to get a triptych frame and put some in but I never got round to it, and now I'm not particularly bothered.

jaylee3

tea_lover wrote: »

Of all the married people I know (from 90yr old grandparents to 20 somethings... and everything in-between) I can think of two couples who've got wedding photos on display.

I've been with my OH for 9 years and AFAIK there isn't a single photo of us together.

Some people just aren't 'photo people'. Bit rude to call them odd!

I said I find it odd that people do not have a pic of their wedding day in their home. I did not say THEY were odd.

FGS, why don't people READ posts properly? Or does it just suit peoples agendas to try and make out a poster said something they didn't?!

It's like I never said that most people have wedding days pics up, just most people I know! (re post 264.)

MrSmartprice

Morglin wrote: »

Nor have I, and I don't even know anyone that does!

I cannot stand photos cluttering up the walls, so I haven't got any up of anything or anyone, and I certainly wouldn't have pics of friends and relatives on the wall.

They are in albums, and looked at once in a blue moon

How true! The thought of lots of photos of various family members all over the place fills us with horror. We just don't have any photos of anyone cluttering up our house. It would simply not occur to us to display any.

I think it is down to what sort of person you are, some people seem to love this sort of thing. Some people we know have one large wall covered in pictures of themselves and their children. It was truly appalling, not helped by them all being carroty ginger. We used to refer to it as the Wailing Wall, as all their children were brats.

ska_lover

jaylee3 wrote: »

or does it just suit peoples agendas to try and make out a poster said something they didn't?!
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I think you have hit the nail on the head - in the whole forum sense - not just this particular thread in hand. If people want to argue, or perceive to be insulted - they will do just that - whatever you say, unfortunately - and as you say, twist things to suit their own agenda.

Some folk find it insulting that others do not agree with them. Maybe they weren't hugged enough as kids and still need assurance of approval and get frustrated when they don't get it hence twisting things so they can make a big deal out of literally nothing.

catkins

ska_lover wrote: »

Lots of people do have their wedding photos on display, and lots don't - not sure what your point is though

jaylee3 wrote: »

Yes lots of people DO have pics of their wedding day on display in their home: at least one pic anyway!

And what's more, I didn't say MOST MARRIED COUPLES have them on display, I said most people I KNOW. Me, my siblings, my aunts/uncles, cousins, several of my friends, neighbours, my grandparents, great aunts and uncles. Certainly more people than not have at least one pic of their wedding day on show, if they are still married. Maybe a couple of people do not, but many more do.

I still maintain that I find it very odd that someone is married and does not have a single picture of their wedding on display in their home. Why? Who doesn't have a pic of them and their spouse on their wedding day? I mean why not at least one? Very strange IMO.

Also strange that people who have no wedding day pics up, don't know a single other person that has them up. As I said, I know a couple of people who don't, yet people who don't have wedding day pics up don't seem to know another SOUL who has them either. LOL.

Your post said "most married people" not "most married people I know". Check it.


I never said I didn't know anyone who had wedding photos up. I said I know 2.


I personally find it odd that people do have photos of their wedding day on display. I don't really know why I just do. I know OH has commented before about going to a customer's house and there has been wedding photos in the living room. He says he finds it strange

catkins

Peter333 wrote: »

This is true that there is no right or wrong, and people on both sides of this (and ANY argument on here,) seem to speak as if they think their way is correct. There is no correct answer of course; each to their own as I said.

I just find it unusual myself to not have photos of loved ones in your home - very unusual. I also find it unusual to not have a photo of your wedding day.

But that doesn't mean I think it is wrong. I do find it strange though. But this is just my opinion of course.

I certainly don't think there is a right or wrong but I personally find it strange that people would have photos of their wedding day on display. Maybe in a bedroom yes but not in rooms that other people go in.


I have some photos of family - parents, siblings, nieces and nephews and quite a few of my dogs but none of me and OH. Neither of us want photos of ourselves on display.

Gloomendoom

I find it strange that anybody finds it strange either way... photos or no photos.

whodathunkit

jaylee3 wrote: »

Yes lots of people DO have pics of their wedding day on display in their home: at least one pic anyway!

And what's more, I didn't say MOST MARRIED COUPLES have them on display, I said most people I KNOW. Me, my siblings, my aunts/uncles, cousins, several of my friends, neighbours, my grandparents, great aunts and uncles. Certainly more people than not have at least one pic of their wedding day on show, if they are still married. Maybe a couple of people do not, but many more do.

I'm afraid you're being economical with the truth as you said ,

"Umm, because they will have them on display, in frames, around the house, like most married people - and also family and friends will more than likely have them too."

If you're going to shout at people it's probably a good idea to look back at what you've written before you do so.;)

ska_lover

Just getting pettier and pettier