I didnt like my wedding day - how to cope

Person_one

jaylee3 wrote: »

Maybe so. But the thing is, the OP is stuck with pics now that she hates, and has to keep looking at. You don't have to keep looking at a comment or a minor happening on the day.

I don't understand, why does she have to keep looking at them?

ska_lover

You know, Person One, for a person almost due to qualify as a Nurse - you really seem to lack empathy in many of your posts

whodathunkit

jaylee3 wrote: »

Maybe so. But the thing is, the OP is stuck with pics now that she hates, and has to keep looking at. You don't have to keep looking at a comment or a minor happening on the day.

Why would she have to keep looking at them? When you've finished showing them around after the day, I don't think most people look at them from one year to the next.

jaylee3

Person_one wrote: »

I don't understand, why does she have to keep looking at them?

Umm, because they will have them on display, in frames, around the house, like most married people - and also family and friends will more than likely have them too.

Everyone I know has a pic of their wedding day on display. It would be odd not to IMO.

ska_lover

A lot of folk display their wedding photos, I think was meant

ska_lover

maharani_m wrote: »

Then don't respond.

My point is that the OP is bound to have to deal with an 'actual' problem at some point and if she can't cope with something she has had full control over (i.e. planning her wedding), then it doesn't bode well for the future. She should be happy she is happily married, not obsessing about things that are so superficial.

Your point? You are missing the point entirely. This has already been discussed earlier in the thread - getting boring now.

ska_lover

jaylee3 wrote: »

Everyone I know has a pic of their wedding day on display. It would be odd not to IMO.

I think so, ours has pride of place - we love looking at it.

Person_one

jaylee3 wrote: »

Umm, because they will have them on display, in frames, around the house, like most married people - and also family and friends will more than likely have them too.

Everyone I know has a pic of their wedding day on display. It would be odd not to IMO.

Its not compulsory, though, is it?

Person_one

ska_lover wrote: »

You know, Person One, for a person almost due to qualify as a Nurse - you really seem to lack empathy in many of your posts

Maybe what I actually have is more of a sense of perspective.

Have you seen some of the other posts on here tonight?

ska_lover

Yes I have, sometimes I am astonished by peoples attitudes.

I think what you have is a different perspective, not neccesarily more of a sense of perspective

Folk can't help the way they feel, and what might be a big problem to someone - may well be water off a ducks back to another, but neither are the correct reaction to any given situation, it's just human nature.

Not aimed at anyone in particular -
But for the person who is having an easier time of things to attempt to make light of someone elses misery (even if think the problem is trivial) IS certainly an attempt at one-up-manship. It is sad, that people use another persons upset to their own advantage, to make them feel superior ''Oh, I would have handled that so much easier'..never helps anyone - just serves to make the OP feel bad. Which is clearly what is intended by some posters. It is a clear display of low self esteem that they need to use someone elses misery to their own advantage.

Interesting stuff. Psychologists would have a field day

I often wonder if people with some kind of frustration in their lives come on here to let off steam.There are certainly a lot of pent up frustrated people out there, that like to attempt to make complete strangers feel bad.