I didnt like my wedding day - how to cope

Billie-S

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

I'm definitely not in the 'get over it camp'. I think while it's not the worst thing to happen ever and not something to dwell on and lose sleep over, it obviously upsets the OP.

However. A lot of what went wrong is the OP's own doing. Weight? Could have lost some before the wedding. Nails? Should have painted them the night before. Photographer? That's something not worth compromising on. Should have hired a professional.

Probably deep down she's feeling quite angry at herself. She says a lot of planning went into the Wedding....it can't have done. Yes things can and do go wrong at Weddings, but the above things are things that could have been avoided.

Nice post Georgie. :T That is my general thinking. I know it may seem trivial to some, but it is obviously upsetting her, so it seems somewhat harsh to basically mock her for how upset she is.

I feel empathy for anyone if something has upset them, no matter how silly or trivial it may seem to me.

I am sure we are all guilty of making a big deal out of something that seems very trivial to someone else.

catkins

jaylee3 wrote: »

Umm, because they will have them on display, in frames, around the house, like most married people - and also family and friends will more than likely have them too.

Everyone I know has a pic of their wedding day on display. It would be odd not to IMO.

Out of all my family and friends I can only think of 2 couples who have their wedding photo on display so certainly most married people don't necessarily have them.


I have photos of my family on display but none of any of their wedding days.

ska_lover wrote: »

A lot of folk display their wedding photos, I think was meant

Lots of people don't

ska_lover wrote: »

We do look at ours quite a bit, we love looking at them. Maybe we are unusual / this may wear off when we have been married for years lol, as we are still pretty much newlyweds. I think my parents wedding pics haven't seen light of day for years

No, never had a wedding photo on display even when we were first married. We looked at the album a couple of times but that was it. Not even totally sure where the album is now

ska_lover

catkins wrote: »

Out of all my family and friends I can only think of 2 couples who have their wedding photo on display so certainly most married people don't necessarily have them.


I have photos of my family on display but none of any of their wedding days.





Lots of people don't




No, never had a wedding photo on display even when we were first married. We looked at the album a couple of times but that was it. Not even totally sure where the album is now

Lots of people do have their wedding photos on display, and lots don't - not sure what your point is though

Morglin

Nor have I, and I don't even know anyone that does!

I cannot stand photos cluttering up the walls, so I haven't got any up of anything or anyone, and I certainly wouldn't have pics of friends and relatives on the wall.

They are in albums, and looked at once in a blue moon.

Lin

jaylee3

ska_lover wrote: »

Lots of people do have their wedding photos on display, and lots don't - not sure what your point is though

Yes lots of people DO have pics of their wedding day on display in their home: at least one pic anyway!

And what's more, I didn't say MOST MARRIED COUPLES have them on display, I said most people I KNOW. Me, my siblings, my aunts/uncles, cousins, several of my friends, neighbours, my grandparents, great aunts and uncles. Certainly more people than not have at least one pic of their wedding day on show, if they are still married. Maybe a couple of people do not, but many more do.

I still maintain that I find it very odd that someone is married and does not have a single picture of their wedding on display in their home. Why? Who doesn't have a pic of them and their spouse on their wedding day? I mean why not at least one? Very strange IMO.

Also strange that people who have no wedding day pics up, don't know a single other person that has them up. As I said, I know a couple of people who don't, yet people who don't have wedding day pics up don't seem to know another SOUL who has them either. LOL.

Peter333

ska_lover wrote: »

Lots of people do have their wedding photos on display, and lots don't - not sure what your point is though

Me and 'er indoors have been married for donkeys years, and have always had a wedding photo in our dining room.

My neighbours celebrated their golden anniversary last month, and they have a big photo of their wedding from 1954 in their hallway (16 x 12.)

My son who was married in the last few years has several photos of their wedding in their house.

My parents always had a photo of their wedding day in their house.

I can't speak for everyone I know, as I haven't been in the home of every married couple I know, but I think it is quite common to have a photo of your wedding day in your home. (If you are still married to that person of course. )

Georgiegirl256

Morglin wrote: »

Nor have I

Me neither.

Regarding friends and family, some have them up and some don't, probably in equal measures. It's purely down to personal preference, and neither is right or wrong.

I can't see why people would think it odd not to have any up?

Peter333

Morglin wrote: »

Nor have I, and I don't even know anyone that does!

I cannot stand photos cluttering up the walls, so I haven't got any up of anything or anyone, and I certainly wouldn't have pics of friends and relatives on the wall.

They are in albums, and looked at once in a blue moon.

Lin

Wow, really? We have about a dozen photos of our family up in our home. From our wedding, our kids as youngsters, our kids grown, a photo of all 5 of us, and one of both sets of parents. And several of nieces and nephews.

Each to their own I guess.

Peter333

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Me neither.

Regarding friends and family, some have them up and some don't, probably in equal measures. It's purely down to personal preference, and neither is right or wrong.

I can't see why people would think it odd not to have any up?

This is true that there is no right or wrong, and people on both sides of this (and ANY argument on here,) seem to speak as if they think their way is correct. There is no correct answer of course; each to their own as I said.

I just find it unusual myself to not have photos of loved ones in your home - very unusual. I also find it unusual to not have a photo of your wedding day.

But that doesn't mean I think it is wrong. I do find it strange though. But this is just my opinion of course.

tea_lover

Of all the married people I know (from 90yr old grandparents to 20 somethings... and everything in-between) I can think of two couples who've got wedding photos on display.

I've been with my OH for 9 years and AFAIK there isn't a single photo of us together.

Some people just aren't 'photo people'. Bit rude to call them odd!