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I didnt like my wedding day - how to cope
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Serious first world problems in this thread.
Next up: Waitrose have run out of fresh mint, can't make mojitos for Tamsins prom night - help!
Well that escalated quickly. It's like no-one's allowed to have an opinion these days. Oh wait....£2 Savers Club 2016 #21 £14/£250
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Gloomendoom wrote: »First world problems
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MrSmartprice wrote: »Reading this thread has convinced me more than ever that people really do put far too much importance into this idea of a perfect day and disregard not only the cost but also what is reasonable and achievable. The more there is to go wrong, the greater the likelihood of disappointment.
I believe the odious 'wedding industry' are instrumental in selling a vision which they actually will never deliver. Life is not a film set and people are not bottomless money pits. But look at what some wedding items cost and it is utter extortion. Who in their right mind would ever pay £50-100 per head for a meal where there is no choice and quality is little better than canteen standard? But people do for weddings.
Much of it, I believe, is trying to do what people tell everyone they 'should' do, or even people trying to outdo each other. I have heard of some ludicrous frippery at weddings, such as owls flying in with the rings, or wishing wells - what is that rubbish all about?
The most important thing is that the bride and groom enjoy the day with their friends. Keep the event small and only invite close friends and immediate family if you want to avoid rows and crazy expense. We did, there were 10 of us at the Register Office and for afternoon tea and we had a brilliant day. Most people didn't know we were married until afterwards. I can really recommend it!
Probably the best post yet! I know soooo many people who spent £15K to £25K on their wedding, and quite frankly, it wasn't any better than my wedding which cost £1K (that was the 1990s, but even today that would only be like £2-3K.) I also know of quite a few brides who said that they had about 150-180 people at their wedding, and they didn't know 70% of them! I sh*t you not!
My brother had a stupidly expensive wedding: his wife's stepdad has his own business and he spent £30K on the wedding. (in 2002.) Our first house cost that much in the mid 1990s! There were 300 people there. I have known my brother since he was born of course, and my SIL since she was 11, and there was about 250 of these people that I had NEVER met. I have no idea who they were!
Why DO people have overly expensive weddings? To show off? To make out they are something they're not?
It's like a few people I know who have bought expensive and over-priced properties this year. They are 45-50 y.o and have sold their home they had for 20-25 years plus, (because the mortgage was paid,) and they took the £120-£140K they made, added £100-£140K mortgage to it, and bought a newer (often smaller) house. They now think people are 'jealous' of them, and that they're somehow superior because they have a house worth a quarter of a million now. Yeah....and a £1000 a month mortgage until you're 70-75 years old!
Some people equate expensive things with 'success,' and think it makes them a better person than you if what they do or buy, has cost more money than you have spent...
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I cannot believe people would spend about 20 grand pouring food and drink down people, when the money could either help their future, or supply a fantastic honeymoon.
Must be mad.
Lin
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Just different priorities I guess.
As a couple some people are more interested in having a house deposit etc
I don't think it is madness to spend a fortune on a wedding. But only if you can afford it. Getting into debt for one big day is a loss of sanity IMO.
I know a couple who had a lavish wedding, cost them 15k (not sure if my idea of lavish is less than others might be) - got into debt for it - and the crazy thing IMO was that they live in a bedsit - and they hate it! They are very happily married, but hate their living arrangement and they have been there for years with no real chance of affording to move. All their spare cash goes on holidays
Having a big wedding wasn't something that appealed to us when we got wed - we had different priorities is all. Mostly our spare cash goes on home improvements, with very rare treats. Some might think we are the crazy ones?The opposite of what you know...is also true0 -
I cannot believe people would spend about 20 grand pouring food and drink down people, when the money could either help their future, or supply a fantastic honeymoon.
Must be mad.
Lin
I wonder if there's ever a thread on the subject of weddings without a "must be mad" post from some bright spark.
Personally, I spent plenty plenty pouring food and drink down people at our wedding.
They had a whole bunch of delicious canapes, made to order stir fries, teriyaki sirloin steak on sticks, marinated monkfish...there was cake, bacon sarnies, mixed deserts, little ice cream cones....in short, 9 hours of more or less constant food. There was white champagne, pink champagne, white wine, red wine, mojitos, non-alcoholic options. In the end, the pay-for bar took something like £100 in the whole night from our 140 guests...and that was mainly people insisting on buying us a drink.
Did we do it to be flash and cool? Not so much. We just wanted our guests to have some good food, plenty to drink, have a really good time and not be any more out of pocket for it than was absolutely necessary. Feedback was generally quite positive, so we were pleased to have spent the money.
Oh...we also had an amazing honeymoon and are just moving in to a nice big "family house", so our "future" is doing just fine, thanks.
You really shouldn't leap to the assumption that just because *you* need money for other things, everyone else is in the same boat.0 -
Idiophreak wrote: »I wonder if there's ever a thread on the subject of weddings without a "must be mad" post from some bright spark.
Personally, I spent plenty plenty pouring food and drink down people at our wedding.
They had a whole bunch of delicious canapes, made to order stir fries, teriyaki sirloin steak on sticks, marinated monkfish...there was cake, bacon sarnies, mixed deserts, little ice cream cones....in short, 9 hours of more or less constant food. There was white champagne, pink champagne, white wine, red wine, mojitos, non-alcoholic options. In the end, the pay-for bar took something like £100 in the whole night from our 140 guests...and that was mainly people insisting on buying us a drink.
Did we do it to be flash and cool? Not so much. We just wanted our guests to have some good food, plenty to drink, have a really good time and not be any more out of pocket for it than was absolutely necessary. Feedback was generally quite positive, so we were pleased to have spent the money.
Oh...we also had an amazing honeymoon and are just moving in to a nice big "family house", so our "future" is doing just fine, thanks.
You really shouldn't leap to the assumption that just because *you* need money for other things, everyone else is in the same boat.
How nice for you that the 'feedback' was so good. I am sure you feel so good about that. I mean, God forbid that someone said something negative. That would have been devastating.
And how lovely that you are not in the same boat as many others who cannot possibly even think about spending 20 grand on a wedding without going into debt.
Glad you had an amazing honeymoon, and I hope you enjoy your amazing future in your 'big family house.'
By the way, we spent a grand on our wedding, and had 25 people there. And I bet a billion pounds that it was as good as your day AND that people enjoyed it as much. (Possibly more. ) Proud to have lost over 3 stone (45 pounds,) in the past year! :j Now a size 14!
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How nice for you that the 'feedback' was so good. I am sure you feel so good about that. I mean, God forbid that someone said something negative. That would have been devastating.
And how lovely that you are not in the same boat as many others who cannot possibly even think about spending 20 grand on a wedding without going into debt.
Glad you had an amazing honeymoon, and I hope you enjoy your amazing future in your 'big family house.'
That's just plain spiteful. What are you - eight?£2 Savers Club 2016 #21 £14/£250
£2 Savers Club 2015 #8 £250£200 :j
Proud to be an OU graduate :j :j
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