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Confusedandneedhelp

purpleshoes wrote: »

Personal comments, completely unneccessary and against forum rules.. Maybe you should read the other thread and you might get a better picture before you start mouthing off at me.

Ur entitled to ur opinion, it's a public forum. Just think Uve jumped in with both feet for little reason.

purpleshoes_2

Confusedandneedhelp wrote: »

Neither do u. Don't see what ur point is.

My point is, you laughed when you heard your ex had slapped someone. She was out with another man the night before and she sounds as if she had a lot to drink. Calls you in the morning feeling rough and you end up in bed having a kiss and a cuddle and you think this is positive?

Youve spent months on this forum being given advice, good advice by people. Which you didnt take. And no matter what advice people give you all you can think about is getting back together with this woman.

You are trying to sort yourself out. Good. But its ridiculous that someone with 3 kids thinks its ok to go out and get that going out out of her system. It doesnt need to be one or the other. She can have a social life even with the kids. It doesnt need to be going out and drinking as much as she can and then slapping someone shes in an on off relationship with.

If you sort out your life and the pair of you want to move forward together, fine. But you admit that you have given her very little space since your relationship ended and you seem to be looking for any sign that she wants to get back with you.

On your first thread you posted some time ago, you said that the relationship had its ups and downs and you considered splitting up before she found out she was pregnant.

Yet on your last few posts all you talk about is how great the relationship was and what you are missing. You are seeing her and everything through rose tinted specs. You want to be a family again. I understand that.

But unless the pair of you work on yourselves and your relationship and unless she gets rid of this on off partner, then any reconciliation is going to have failure with a capital F written all over it.

You might not want to hear that because it suits you better to hear from posters how wonderful your life will be if you get back with this woman.

But in 6 months time you might be starting a thread saying, we got back together and it was awful and we've broken up again.

There are 3 kids involved in this, they matter as well.

purpleshoes_2

Confusedandneedhelp wrote: »

Ur entitled to ur opinion, it's a public forum. Just think Uve jumped in with both feet for little reason.

I wasnt responding to you.

And for the record, when you start a thread, you'll get different opinions.

If you only want to hear the ones that agree with you, maybe you should consider whether you want to put a thread up in the first place.

Confusedandneedhelp

purpleshoes wrote: »

My point is, you laughed when you heard your ex had slapped someone. She was out with another man the night before and she sounds as if she had a lot to drink. Calls you in the morning feeling rough and you end up in bed having a kiss and a cuddle and you think this is positive?

Youve spent months on this forum being given advice, good advice by people. Which you didnt take. And no matter what advice people give you all you can think about is getting back together with this woman.

You are trying to sort yourself out. Good. But its ridiculous that someone with 3 kids thinks its ok to go out and get that going out out of her system. It doesnt need to be one or the other. She can have a social life even with the kids. It doesnt need to be going out and drinking as much as she can and then slapping someone shes in an on off relationship with.

If you sort out your life and the pair of you want to move forward together, fine. But you admit that you have given her very little space since your relationship ended and you seem to be looking for any sign that she wants to get back with you.

On your first thread you posted some time ago, you said that the relationship had its ups and downs and you considered splitting up before she found out she was pregnant.

Yet on your last few posts all you talk about is how great the relationship was and what you are missing. You are seeing her and everything through rose tinted specs. You want to be a family again. I understand that.

But unless the pair of you work on yourselves and your relationship and unless she gets rid of this on off partner, then any reconciliation is going to have failure with a capital F written all over it.

You might not want to hear that because it suits you better to hear from posters how wonderful your life will be if you get back with this woman.

But in 6 months time you might be starting a thread saying, we got back together and it was awful and we've broken up again.

There are 3 kids involved in this, they matter as well.

I do take on board what u say, just to counter and I don't expect u to know this psychically.

I don't think it was any kind of relationship in the true sense, there was something going on, but it didn't progress beyond a kiss. She also wasn't specifically out with this person, rather out with a group including this person. Yes I'm glad that it's all ended, and she doesn't want anything to do with him.

As I said, we have agreed to take things slowly, because of good advice given here and now I feel more positive I am able to take that advice on board.

I agree it doesn't have to be one or the other, but that is what happened and now it won't be happening as she, and I, have been able to speak rationally. And put ourselves and the kids first. And also i think she's realised that it's not good to be going out like that with 3 kids, but i can see how some of her youth was lost and she wants to recapture that to some degree.

Yes the relationship was turbulent, im hoping that with effort from both of us we are able to start a fresh.

I do see what your saying, just think its abit blunt. But we are actually putting the kids first and our relationship is being build over time.

Confusedandneedhelp

purpleshoes wrote: »

I wasnt responding to you.

And for the record, when you start a thread, you'll get different opinions.

If you only want to hear the ones that agree with you, maybe you should consider whether you want to put a thread up in the first place.

My first words were 'ur entitled to ur opinion', i am under no illusions not everyone will agree with me. Just think its abit blunt way to say things.