Not posted for a while...

purpleshoes_2

Confusedandneedhelp wrote: »

Heyas,

Well things have progressed quite steadily:

So since the W/E of the 21st, we have made good progress. Spoke often during the week and generally were on good terms, making plans for me seeing kids more on summer holidays etc and in general.

Then Saturday we did the whole saturday events (football, swimming, trip to the park) then i went out with my mate who was visiting. She decided to go out too, her mum had the kids. 11am i get a call from her, whilst im at football. She's feeling rough, so i come over with some comfort food.

She tells me how crap her night was, how she ended up slapping this other guy (which did make me smile, even though i know there was nothing but a kiss and a cuddle there anyway, how she had had enough of that and how bad he had been for her.), but most importantly how she wasnt enjoying going out, realised how the people who were there were just taking advantage, in terms of money etc. How money went missing from her purse. And how, with the exception of a few people there, the majority werent really her friends and she's realised that.

Anyway, we had a cuddle in bed for a few hours and just chatted about what we wanted. She told me she loved me, and she wanted to get back together, but i said i didnt want to rush it. How we should take time to sort out the situation properly.

I ended up staying the night, which was nice, but aside from a kiss that was it. Since then, we've spoken often and ive been round to see her and the kids. but being sensible, ive not stayed yesterday, and not planning to. next big event will be saturday when the kids are staying at mine and she's already said she'd liek to come over and we can order a takeaway ( or i may try my hand at cooking!) and watch a dvd with a bottle of wine.

We've also both commited to stopping smoking, and cutting down our drinking, and she's cut off most of the people she was out with by deactivating her facebook, so i dont think it's just words. But opinions welcome as always

She went out and slapped this other guy who she has been seeing and then ended up in bed with you for a kiss and a cuddle?

I saw what you wrote on another thread about her needing to get the getting out out of her system

3 kids later? Seriously. I dont think violence is acceptable at all.

Made you smile that she slapped someone else? How would you like to be on the receiving end? Hes had a lucky escape in my view.

Confusedandneedhelp

purpleshoes wrote: »

She went out and slapped this other guy who she has been seeing and then ended up in bed with you for a kiss and a cuddle?

I saw what you wrote on another thread about her needing to get the getting out out of her system

3 kids later? Seriously. I dont think violence is acceptable at all.

Made you smile that she slapped someone else? How would you like to be on the receiving end? Hes had a lucky escape in my view.

He came up behind her and grabbed her breasts. But I didn't think it was necessary to go into details. But it's ur opinion

Confusedandneedhelp

unicorn1984 wrote: »

That's great that things seem better for you! Just take it slowly and make sure she is 100% sure of what she wants before you jump back in (giving you the same advice I keep getting lol)

Definitely seems positive, like she thought there was better out there and has now realised that what you guys had is what she prefers. Hope things continue to improve for you and the kids too!

You are having better luck than me, I am just waiting on references to come back and I should be moving out on Friday..... x

Sorry to hear that. But keep ur chin up, I was at my lowest only a month ago, now there's light at the end of the tunnel.

Sometimes space really does work

unicorn1984

Confusedandneedhelp wrote: »

Sorry to hear that. But keep ur chin up, I was at my lowest only a month ago, now there's light at the end of the tunnel.

Sometimes space really does work

He has already said he thinks he will regret it and want us to get back together and I haven't even gone anywhere yet.... but we will see

I do think the space is going to work. Seems to be for you guys. I haven't read your other thread, so I don't know what purpleshoes is referring to, but seems they like to shoot people down in most posts I have seen from him/her....

purpleshoes_2

Confusedandneedhelp wrote: »

He came up behind her and grabbed her breasts. But I didn't think it was necessary to go into details. But it's ur opinion

You werent there, you dont know what happened.

purpleshoes_2

unicorn1984 wrote: »

He has already said he thinks he will regret it and want us to get back together and I haven't even gone anywhere yet.... but we will see

I do think the space is going to work. Seems to be for you guys. I haven't read your other thread, so I don't know what purpleshoes is referring to, but seems they like to shoot people down in most posts I have seen from him/her....

Personal comments, completely unneccessary and against forum rules.. Maybe you should read the other thread and you might get a better picture before you start mouthing off at me.

unicorn1984

Are you not making personal comments about the OP?

purpleshoes_2

Save your typing fingers, you are on ignore. I cant be bothered with wannabe keyboard gangsters.

unicorn1984

Oh dear another one that can dish it out but not hear anything even SLIGHTLY negative against themselves.....

Confusedandneedhelp

purpleshoes wrote: »

You werent there, you dont know what happened.

Neither do u. Don't see what ur point is.