Apparently I'm married - GF not happy!!!

SavingPennies_2

I'm a woman and I wouldn't dream of having an expensive wedding if I couldnt afford or had to do it on credit - you really are generalising.

Regarding £150, it may be a lot of money for you fair enough, but between you and her you could be saving £5 each a month, and in just over a year could get married!

Either she should be happy to wait for marriage till you have more money/ a job or she should be happy to marry you now for £150. Which would you prefer to do?

Though to be honest I think you both have some issues to resolve before you get married but perhaps you could at least set a date.

FBaby

Maybe she can afford the £150? And even if she doesn't it still doesn't stop you looking together at possible venues on the Internet and even maybe going to visit them that is if you still really want to marry her.

victory

TrickyWicky wrote: »

I never said I didn't want to marry her. I asked her last year however since the more health problems came up that were caused largely in part by her refusal to let me have a second opinion / surgery years ago. The health problems now seem to be ongoing and at the time of proposing, I was unaware of there being anything else wrong. Move forward a few months and I'm suffering more complications.



As above. When I proposed I was unaware of other health complications being stored up for me due to her demands many years ago. .

No one has to say anything on a thread they do not wish to elaborate on but many times now you have said about your health issues and how you blame your gf squarely for the complications, had it not been for your gf you would not be so poorly now, how can it possibly be that you are so ill now simply because your gf did not let you seek a second opinion?

susieq87

TrickyWicky wrote: »

I never said I didn't want to marry her. I asked her last year however since the more health problems came up that were caused largely in part by her refusal to let me have a second opinion / surgery years ago. The health problems now seem to be ongoing and at the time of proposing, I was unaware of there being anything else wrong. Move forward a few months and I'm suffering more complications.



As above. When I proposed I was unaware of other health complications being stored up for me due to her demands many years ago. Three months after I proposed and I've been rushed in by ambulance where they've diagnosed yet more surgery needs performing. Granted it wasn't life threatening (though had the potential to go that way if untreated) but it's really screwed up my life.

tricky, last week you were contemplating on breaking up with your gf because she ruined your life and now you are insisting on wanting to marry her?
are you sure this relationship is the best idea for you?

horsegirl

Seanymph wrote: »

It wasn't something 'new' - it was something they'd done before!

(I guess she may have not liked it the first time).....

I think she wants the ring on.

Well why doesn't she just say so? Does OP still have a wife he is reluctant to divorce? That is the only reason I can imagine for those comments.

horsegirl

TrickyWicky wrote: »

I never said I didn't want to marry her. I asked her last year however since the more health problems came up that were caused largely in part by her refusal to let me have a second opinion / surgery years ago. The health problems now seem to be ongoing and at the time of proposing, I was unaware of there being anything else wrong. Move forward a few months and I'm suffering more complications.

If she has this magical power to prevent you seeking medical help a wedding should be nothing for her to arrange

FBaby

I think most of us on here are getting a bit confused as to your true intentions, so it might not be so far-fetched that your partner is herself quite confused. This would in line shake her trust in you, which would as consequences affect her desire to feel closeness to you, hence her not being in the mood for intimacy.

ska_lover

TrickyWicky wrote: »

Well it's no secret that women think nothing of spending money is it. Every single one I've known certainly has.



£150 more than I have coming in which is presently £0.

You admit to being a woman and accuse me of generalising. I must put it to you that you are indeed also generalising by making the assumption that I have this lowly amount to spend in the first place. You see my point? You've assumed that it's peanuts and that I have it and can spend it - even though I don't and can't.

Well I suggest you change your company then, as you clearly have a 'type' of women that you habitually aim for - and keep going for money grabbers - More fool you, pal! Again, I say you appear to know very little about women, and from the above, appear to have limited experience also

Put in a claim for benefits, surely you would be entitled to something

ViolaLass

TrickyWicky wrote: »

Well it's no secret that women think nothing of spending money is it. Every single one I've known certainly has.

So that might mean that all women are like that or - and this is merely a suggestion from another woman - it might mean that you appear to go for a type.

ska_lover

TrickyWicky wrote: »

I never said I didn't want to marry her. I asked her last year however since the more health problems came up that were caused largely in part by her refusal to let me have a second opinion / surgery years ago. The health problems now seem to be ongoing and at the time of proposing, I was unaware of there being anything else wrong. Move forward a few months and I'm suffering more complications.

And REALLY?? How is this even possible, one human being stopping another from obtaining adequate healthcare?