Apparently I'm married - GF not happy!!!

victory

Seanymph wrote: »

You will have to put some heat on this ice to melt it.

That is exactly it. trickywicky you are toying with her and she is getting proper fed up with it, commit or leave, emotional games are cruel and a nasty way of controlling someone and the situation has reached fever pitch, do something about it

tea_lover

Pee or get off the pot.

purpleshoes_2

I think from other threads you have posted, you don't seem to be happy, neither does she. You've also said that you don't have income of your own. As someone else suggested in another thread, sort out your finances and then make a decision about whether you want to go it alone. Getting married when your relationship seems on the whole rocky would be a terrible idea.

Errata

What attempts have you made to put "the little accident" right?
Personally, I'd be furious if a BF let "officials" get away with recording inaccurate informatiuon.

TrickyWicky

FBaby wrote: »

She still doesn't believe you will marry her. Being engaged doesn't mean you will do. Have you started to make official plans?

There is nothing I can do until I am back in work again. She knows this.

She also knows I'm under a lot of strain.

KiKi

Emotional games??! Toying with her?!

Sounds to me like it was a joke you were both finding funny, and something about it has now upset her. Rather than talking to you about it, she's doing that thing that lots of women do (which I never understand) which is make it known that she's cross by being stroppy and hoping you'll guess what the problem is. And if you don't guess it, then you're in the dog house.

Maybe she does want to get married, but I wouldn't refer to this as an emotional game - more a joke that she no longer finds funny. However, if you don't want to be with someone who can't tell you what's wrong and would rather give you the cold shoulder, so be it.

Ask her outright what's wrong - don't play to the game or try and second guess. And if she says she wants to get married, then maybe you need to have the conversation about whether that's what you both want, and resolve it one way or another.

KiKi

TrickyWicky

KiKi wrote: »

Rather than talking to you about it, she's doing that thing that lots of women do (which I never understand) which is make it known that she's cross by being stroppy and hoping you'll guess what the problem is. And if you don't guess it, then you're in the dog house.

Glad I'm not the only one that noticed this trick women have - I thought i was imagining it lol

KiKi

TrickyWicky wrote: »

Glad I'm not the only one that noticed this trick women have - I thought i was imagining it lol

Thankfully most of my friends act like adults. I do have some friends who behave like this, though. They expect men to be psychic, and throw a strop until a point at which their partner feels they are genuinely to blame for not knowing what the problem is.

In all other ways they are nice people, but just can't seem to communicate with their partner / other best friend / sibling etc. I find it very strange!

Hope you get it all sorted!
KiKi

System

Think of the last few days as practice for when you do eventually get married

sulphate

How long have you been engaged?