My life has been destroyed by those closest to me.

FBaby

I think your meds might be affecting you I was the first one on the other thread to stand by you and actually defended your badly written words about cheating that others misunderstood.

Clearly you have an issue with not wanting to hear what doesn't agree with what you say. If you can't see that making the demands that you don't have surgery against your will or she will leave you IS blackmail then I don't know how you can be helped. I'm still sorry that your in such pain but stands by my views.

FBaby

Just out of curiosity since clearly no one is going to change your position on this what are you going to do about it? Go on with your intention to marry the lady whose ruined your life?

TrickyWicky

FBaby wrote: »

I think your meds might be affecting you

It wouldn't be the first time that the morphine has confused the hell out of me.

FBaby wrote: »

Just out of curiosity since clearly no one is going to change your position on this what are you going to do about it? Go on with your intention to marry the lady whose ruined your life?

I have absolutely no idea. Why do you think I started this thread? I am sick to the back teeth of suffering for other peoples desires in my life. It isn't right - nobody should have that much control over someone elses life in such a negative way unless they're a prison officer or the like.

ItchyFeet

So stop GIVING them control, and stop thinking of yourself as a martyr.

thorsoak

TrickyWicky wrote: »

Would you like to tell that to children starving in 3rd world orphanages? The disabled, those suffering from famine?

"Hey gang, sure you didn't have a great start in life but you have to take some responsibility here for this mess - only you can sort this out.. and while i'm here I have brought water, seeds and tools for hire just £19.99 per day - and i can finance that for you for just 5454% plus a 500% arrangement fee.."

My point is that people cannot continue holding the surpressed responsible for the **** they are forced into and then telling them that only they can sort it out. It is immoral to continue behaving towards fellow people like this as if they're worthless dirt.

I was feeling sorry from you - but now I feel angry. How DARE you compare your position to that of children in the Third World - or refugees fleeing from war/famine or the like? You are nothing but a self-pitying egotist.

They have absolutely NO power over what happens to them - you do. And now I'm butting out of this wallow - before I'm banned by telling you your fortune.

CH27

If this was a female posting people would be shouting that the OP was being abused,

susieq87

TrickyWicky wrote: »

nobody should have that much control over someone elses life in such a negative way unless they're a prison officer or the like.

you got it! it's time to take back control of your life and stop letting people detect what you should do. you're not happy? leave. you're happy? stay. its really that simple, stop complicating your life with love. the heart is deceitful mate

FBaby

Unfortunately until you are able to see that only those who let themselves be controlled are controlled there isn't much anyone can advise you. Many people don't like to make decisions and ate halt to go with what other say yet then blame them for having made the wrong decision.

I don't know if you fall into that category but surely if you really believed then that your partner was forcing you into such a decision totally against your will, even if you stayed because you felt you had no choice how did you continue to love her?

TrickyWicky

thorsoak wrote: »

They have absolutely NO power over what happens to them - you do.

No I don't and thats the whole point - you're telling me that only i have control of my life and thats utter rubbish.

I'm housebound, unable to work, never get out, laying here in agony, stacked up on morphine and apparently only i'm responsible for this and only i have control of my future?

What exactly do you expect me to do when I have absolutely NOTHING going for me or my future? - I am at the mercy of others all the time and yet somehow you conclude that this is a non-issue. I cannot even get to the TOILET without suffering agonising pain but hey, I'll go get a job in a warehouse and make myself a millionaire in the next year because I have total and utter control of it all right?

Seriously next time you try to give someone that "You're responsible for your own luck" speech, think carefully about who you say it to because it can very easily be offensive - as you yourself just pointed out.

FBaby

TW focus on getting better you've just had surgery it takes time to get better. Whatever your thoughts you are not in the right state of mind to consider where your life has gone and how because of it you have no future.