Just needed to be heard for a little while

whitewing

dibuzz, glad that you are getting a bit of a longer sleep. Hope you will get enough soon to feel really refreshed.

I am loving the bees.

dibuzz

I don't count things like that but I'm sort of obsessed with the number 3.
If I had a bag of Maltesers I'd have to eat them in 3s and if there were 2 left at the end I wouldn't be able to eat them.

I got pregnant with my daughter when I was on the pill :eek:

I was shown the breathing to help with panic attacks by my PWP, I assume it's the same thing.
I managed to sleep for half an hour this morning, still feel dopey though.

dibuzz

I've no idea what the 3 thing is about, most of the time I don't think about it.

It was just controlled breathing, slowing it down and breathing deeply. It does help with panic attacks.

oldestgnome

Loving the bee images, info and experiences

I count steps as I walk for no good reason and try counting in my head if I am struggling to sleep to try and stop my mind working or focusing on whatever is on my mind. Sometimes works sometimes doesn't.

Dibuzz - so glad that LiR's link helped a little last night Please do not take this as critical I'm trying for constructive, but is it possible to explain to your son how much your sleeping issues and having to get up so early to get him up are affecting your physical and mental condition? And suggest for the short term you need him to take responsibility for getting up himself as you need to try and resolve your sleeping issues (if he is old enough to work he should really be doing it as if he wasn't living with you he would have to get himself up! Maybe get a friend who he works to ring him to make sure he is awake?)

Waves_and_Smiles

Hugs and warm handshakes to everyone, can I have a hug back please? Bad day, I will try to post more later.

dibuzz

He did try when he first started work but was waking everyone except himself. He doesn't hear the phone either. He didn't sleep through the night till he was 12 and often missed out whole nights as a baby so must be making up for lost time.
I need to be up an hour later anyway to take eldest to the station if I want the car and I actually can't remember the last time the alarm went off when I was asleep.
I've always been an early riser, it's the not sleeping before that seems to be the problem. I'm usually in bed before 9 which would be fine if I could sleep

Hugs coming right back WaS

oldestgnome

On a different subject my friend (female, 30s, outdoor horsey cycling person) who has had a tough few months with redundancy and anxiety/depression as well as some lethargy and lack of energy issues is in hospital on Monday for a minor op, I want her to know I am thinking of her so thought I would send her a care package/cheer up thingie. I will of course send her a card. Any thoughts what I could include - little things or practical that may help with the anxiety or silly is good?

Just a thought dibuzz

Lovely happy thoughts and hugs to WaS ((()))

lostinrates

dibuzz wrote: »

He did try when he first started work but was waking everyone except himself. He doesn't hear the phone either. He didn't sleep through the night till he was 12 and often missed out whole nights as a baby so must be making up for lost time.
I need to be up an hour later anyway to take eldest to the station if I want the car and I actually can't remember the last time the alarm went off when I was asleep.
I've always been an early riser, it's the not sleeping before that seems to be the problem. I'm usually in bed before 9 which would be fine if I could sleep

Hugs coming right back WaS

Has he got a smart phone ? I haven't tried them, but those apps that wake you in the right cycle of sleep might be worth a go? Or an alarm clock that has a light that mimics dawn before the alarm goes off.

In all seriousness, if he isn't rising to alarms or phones I'd consider he tackle this, especially with the history of sleep issues. Not least because he has to function independently but also because it could put him at risk at some point.

As for the car, dearest Dibuzz, please, please don't drive while you are so tired. I know this is hard. I live very rurally and often have to self restrict my driving. I know in the future I am going to have to give up driving completely but my doctors are confident I am still safe. I NEVER drive when compromised. This sometimes means my family have to get taxis( pricey and inconvenient) or we go without stuff when I'm alone here for a few days. I bulk buy animal foods and know I can go a while without certain foods! But the risk of driving compromised is too great. Not to ourselves, but to others.

lostinrates

WaS take care we'll be about when you are ready.

dibuzz

oldestgnome wrote: »

Just a thought dibuzz

It was a very good thought, all ideas are welcome

lostinrates wrote: »

Has he got a smart phone ? I haven't tried them, but those apps that wake you in the right cycle of sleep might be worth a go? Or an alarm clock that has a light that mimics dawn before the alarm goes off.

In all seriousness, if he isn't rising to alarms or phones I'd consider he tackle this, especially with the history of sleep issues. Not least because he has to function independently but also because it could put him at risk at some point.

As for the car, dearest Dibuzz, please, please don't drive while you are so tired. I know this is hard. I live very rurally and often have to self restrict my driving. I know in the future I am going to have to give up driving completely but my doctors are confident I am still safe. I NEVER drive when compromised. This sometimes means my family have to get taxis( pricey and inconvenient) or we go without stuff when I'm alone here for a few days. I bulk buy animal foods and know I can go a while without certain foods! But the risk of driving compromised is too great. Not to ourselves, but to others.

He has an iPhone so it may be worth suggesting that to him. I have told him that I won't be going round to wake him up when he eventually moves out.
I've been ok in the car, I don't take my morning meds till I get back from dropping him off in a morning.
I used to only borrow it if I had plans but he hates driving and I do like knowing the car is there if I desperately need to get out of the house even if I don't use it.
Definitely something to think about though and I will keep an eye on it.

WaS I hope you are ok, I'm going to bed now so will catch up tomorrow, hopefully at a decent time.