Just needed to be heard for a little while

DUKE

jobbingmusician wrote: »

I think ensuring chimps might be DYAC's version of entering comps...... :rudolf:

Aha I see, silly me

I'm sitting here trying to be quiet as Harry's having a psychotic episode, so I'm sad. But then the buzzer just rang & my new passport arrived so I'm s/appy.

dibuzz

Oops, yes it was entering comps, I really need to double check when I'm posting from my kindle

Hugs to Harry.

DUKE

Same here with the iPad dibuzz, it just ain't the same. Ahaaaa I see what you mean now, I thought it was some sort of code ha ha ha!

Aaaaw thanks, I feel so useless.

jobbingmusician

lostinrates wrote: »

I have to go shopping, I need a new bra, at least.

I cannot tell you all how much I do NOT want to go shopping. I tried to start looking on line and was just getting more and more confused so I think I do actually have to go to the 'shops'. I'm going to try to go tomorrow if I can.

I'm finding the idea of going shopping quite daunting.


Edit: was , do you shop online or does wasp buy things for you or a mixture of both? I am nervous about financial transactions ATM ( huh, no pun intended) online not for nervousness but because of my memory and linguistic hiccoughs. I'm scared I'll get things wrong then trigger a security thingy on my account.

Do you know what scares you about going shopping, LiR? My DH is just the same, he hates it (but has been out today )

I always get my bras from Rigby and Peller - not as posh as it sounds, as I have had several mystery shopping jobs there where you get no fee, but a free £90 bra :T I had a hysterical conversation with a friend over the summer though (any perves please look away) where she couldn't believe that when they fit you for your bra they shove their hands right into your bra and adjust your boob so it is at the right angle! :rotfl:

lostinrates

jobbingmusician wrote: »

Do you know what scares you about going shopping, LiR? My DH is just the same, he hates it (but has been out today )

I always get my bras from Rigby and Peller - not as posh as it sounds, as I have had several mystery shopping jobs there where you get no fee, but a free £90 bra :T I had a hysterical conversation with a friend over the summer though (any perves please look away) where she couldn't believe that when they fit you for your bra they shove their hands right into your bra and adjust your boob so it is at the right angle! :rotfl:

I've had r and p bras. . I like the way they look at you rather than measure

Um, well, everything makes me nervous.

Practicalities. Will I feel well enough, how exhausted will it make me, will it make me sore. If I shop and see stuff I like carrying the stuff might be tough on a bad day.

Will I remember my PIN number.

Will I remember where I Parked :rotfl:



Practically it can also me quite uncomfortable for me to walk around for a while, or it can feel great.


When I go out things also tend to go wrong here too, My resident parent increasingly makes decisions that perhaps aren't wise. .


I also tend to overthink and worry about things that might not happen

Really I guess the worst that will happen is I'll be sore, tired and not find anything, but this starts to feel like a huge disaster.

Its because I am so 'housebound ' now that little things become quite disproportionately big

dibuzz

I hate shopping too but it's more the anxiety side. Sometimes I can take half an hour plucking up the courage to go to the till.
I did actually lose the car last week, I came out of Matalan (was desperate for new knickers, they were all falling down!) and looked all round the car park but couldn't find the car. I was getting a bit panicky when I spotted the little pay and display car park over the road and remembered I'd parked there because if been to the knitting meeting.
I also drive into supermarket car parks and straight out again because I can't face going in.

lostinrates

dibuzz wrote: »

I hate shopping too but it's more the anxiety side. Sometimes I can take half an hour plucking up the courage to go to the till.
I did actually lose the car last week, I came out of Matalan (was desperate for new knickers, they were all falling down!) and looked all round the car park but couldn't find the car. I was getting a bit panicky when I spotted the little pay and display car park over the road and remembered I'd parked there because if been to the knitting meeting.
I also drive into supermarket car parks and straight out again because I can't face going in.

Me, the real me is socially confident. I would argue this is pretty much a fake it til you make it situation in a lot of people anyway though. The struggling me is finding this a lot harder. I'm not sure if the not going out thing is a sort of sort of apathy, habit ( I've been in side for a very long time !) or a sort of social anxiety. I don't get enough time to test it.

One of the confounding factors is that like my typing my speech gets a little more tested when I am tired or feeling less well, though less noticeably I think. Though I think its less noticeable it makes me a little embarrassed. I used to me fine with that but since I got rosacea it makes me flush beetroot, which DOES fluster me :D. And makes me realise I look worse than I am, which in turn makes me embarrassed and uncomfortable for the person I am dealing with which makes me flush more. :rotfl:


I go in to car parks or town centres and way too Dibuzz. Mainly because I realise I just cannot cope with it after all. I just am too tired or sore to deal with it and get home and do what I need to do there.

Pyxis

Solarjunkie wrote: »

Morning all. My quick penn'orth - WaS started this thread and posted what she needed to from the beginning. This straightforwardness and openness is what has helped so many people. So, deep breath here, I don't think WaS should be subject to the same inhibitions as everyone else. I think she should be able to post whatever and whenever she feels the need, in whatever colour she wishes. Otherwise, I feel the benefits that many have gained from her insights may be diluted. Those on here who can relate on a personal level have chosen to join because of feeling of connection with WaS. She is so concerned about helping people that I fear her trying to filter out any damaging bits may actually mean less good is done.
There are so many taboos about MH issues, here at last is a place where someone with a unique insight into her own condition is showing it like it really is, hugely increasing understanding of others with and without conditions of their own. Phrases like "I didn't know anyone else has experienced that" "I thought everyone felt like that" pepper this thread and WaS has set something amazing in motion.
Please let's not put a penguin shaped gag in this wonderful person's mouth!

I completely concur with this. This is WaS's thread, and if she hadn't been so open before we started talking of penguins, a lot of people would be worse off.

I feel that WaS should not have to worry about penguins at all. It is her thread. Particularly if she is feeling bad.

Similarly anyone else who,is feeling bad

And newcomers may not know how to read white print, or to post in white. They may not have seen the 'rules' page.

Please let WaS have the freedom to post anything on her own thread. I'm starting to feel we will be throwing baby out with the bath water.

dibuzz

lostinrates wrote: »

Me, the real me is socially confident. I would argue this is pretty much a fake it til you make it situation in a lot of people anyway though. The struggling me is finding this a lot harder. I'm not sure if the not going out thing is a sort of sort of apathy, habit ( I've been in side for a very long time !) or a sort of social anxiety. I don't get enough time to test it.

One of the confounding factors is that like my typing my speech gets a little more tested when I am tired or feeling less well, though less noticeably I think. Though I think its less noticeable it makes me a little embarrassed. I used to me fine with that but since I got rosacea it makes me flush beetroot, which DOES fluster me :D. And makes me realise I look worse than I am, which in turn makes me embarrassed and uncomfortable for the person I am dealing with which makes me flush more. :rotfl:


I go in to car parks or town centres and way too Dibuzz. Mainly because I realise I just cannot cope with it after all. I just am too tired or sore to deal with it and get home and do what I need to do there.

I definitely have social anxiety which is the main reason I often drive straight out of car parks or leave a trolley full of shopping and go home.
I get flustered speaking to people too and the wrong words come out or I just can't say them properly.

whitewing

I think we are all just adjusting to safeguards as someone has a bright idea or two, and that can take a bit of getting used to. I think most people who know how will follow the guidelines as they are able to. There will be enough black font posts here to not scare newbies and lurkers away, and enough white posts to hopefully avoid too many triggers. I think we're getting there now with it. I was worried yesterday but feel fine about it all today. Likewise, I personally am happy for anyone to post anything, but I know I am in a better place than a lot.


Dear lovely people, thank you for all the comments about the coil. I got a prescription for mine so I had to pick it up from the pharmacy. Knowing that it was a tiny thing, that fits into an upside down pear of a womb, I thought I'd pick it up on the way to catch the bus for a day out at a big park. You didn't tell me that it has its own 'delivery system' and is in a box two handspans long! It wouldn't fit into my bag! It made me giggle all day.

After all my blotting out of the worst thing that could happen while having it fitted, my period started just before the appointment so I couldn't have it done. The cervix dilates during the first few days of the period and there is a chance that it will drop out again. So it is rescheduled for next week. The only good thing is that I met the doctor (not my usual doctor) and she is lovely so I feel very confident in her.