Just needed to be heard for a little while

lostinrates

haybel19 wrote: »

Thank you LIR he has tablets for the steriods (had injection earlier to kickstart). He does not mind tablets - he prefers you to put in his mouth down the side and will quite happily swallow. As he has been poory on and off (thankfully much better now) he is quite good with tablets.

I used to hide them but because his issues were tummy related and he would refuse food anyway this used to stress him(he associated food when poorly with upset tummy, cramps and being sick). So I learned he would take it if I put in his mouth and encourage to swallow (now he just does it without encouragement).

He is equally fine with liquids. But then when he was at his worst there were many nights where i syringed him fluids to avoid him being at vets overnight which he hates and stresses him (their suggestion). He has been known to rip out canulas so mummy love with a syringe is his preferred option!

The problem is ear drops and ear cleaning solution especially when his ear so very painful. He will let me touch and examine his ear but becomes very frightened and stressed by the drops and cleaner even just the site of the bottle across the room. He has had quite a few ear infections bless him and he NEVER forgets anything. I am trying to do as quickly as possible as then he least opportunity to feel frightened and stressed but as he sees me coming its rather difficult! All ideas and suggestions most welcome and appreciated.

Poor boy!

I would approach this with bribery of training. Touch, treat, touch , treat, squirt, treat. Rub, treat,. I'd name it something like 'ear time' as he started to associate it with a cuddly, biscuity experience as much as ears.

Its tough but not impossible. My cats come to have their nails clipped, but the little dog still doesn't come to be brushed!:rotfl:

lostinrates

Oh MU. Hope you got some sleep.

Pyxis

MessedUp - hugs, hugs, hugs. I understand this so well - it happened to me a lot in the past. Five times, plus a marriage break-up, so am an 'expert'!

What WaS said is so right. Just look after yourself and do what you feel. Cry, cry, cry, as it lets it all out, and tires you too, so perhaps you can then sleep.

Think of the bad way you feel as a sort of illness. You feel absolutely terrible right now. If you feel too bad to go to work, ring in sick. However, like an illness, it will, gradually, get better. YOU will gradually get better. It may take a while - it might be a 'bad cold' breakup, or it might be a 'flu' breakup - but you WILL get better, you WILL feel better, bit by bit, day by day.
And remember, you are worthy. It was the relationship that wasn't worthy, but you are.

And we are all here for you, so log on whenever you want some comfort.

Hugs hugs hugs. :A

whitewing

MessedUp,

I too know the pain of many break ups.

I used to cope with the rawness by giving my kitchen a thorough cleaning. Literally took everything out a cupboard at a time and bleached and scrubbed. (I love the smell of bleach - it reminds me of light bouncing off swimming pools).

Hope work goes well (if you go) and I agree about treating it as an illness + having lots of snuggles when you get home.

oldestgnome

MU - I've been there too and have recently ended a relationship which I'm finding it hard get over. I have been trying to do all the usual things I do and start to look for opportunities to do the things I wanted to do but didn't when we were together. Catch up with family and friends, cook my favourite foods, reflect on the relationship, clean and clear out stuff so it wasn't around and to keep my mind busy.

Be kind to yourself. Take the time you need, come on here and chat if you like, look after yourself, sending positive thoughts and big hugs and a picture of pretty flowers taken in the serenity garden in Kathmandu

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haybel19

lostinrates wrote: »

Poor boy!

I would approach this with bribery of training. Touch, treat, touch , treat, squirt, treat. Rub, treat,. I'd name it something like 'ear time' as he started to associate it with a cuddly, biscuity experience as much as ears.

Its tough but not impossible. My cats come to have their nails clipped, but the little dog still doesn't come to be brushed!:rotfl:

Thank you LIR that is really helpful. It would be be great to get him to not get so upset bless him. He is incredible good on the whole little one knocked his poorly ear by accident and he was an absolute angel just gave her a little lick on her toes (she was in highchair). He is very good natured and patient he just completely freaks out with the drops/cleaner.

He is feeling very very sorry for himself today -and when OH got home from his night shift he just wanted to lay and cuddle with him (he is a cuddly boy anyway but OH says he was really clingy and didnt want him to go to bed). I am going to keep a very close eye today and if needs to be back to vets.

You mentioned training dogs- what sort of training do you do and is it for work, competition or just general training? I used to take Max to obedience classes for a year but then fell pregnant with little one and as class started at 8pm on a friday night and i was in bed by 7pm could no longer go. I would love to do again, Max learns quickly and is a joy to teach. Trouble is now I can go to the sessions as OH works nights and would need a babysitter every week.

I did clicker training which I love- as does Max. I would love some ideas of what else to teach him if you get a spare moment and would love to hear about your dogs and training. I keep meaning to find myself a good clicker training book so that I can do some more with him- we both enjoy it.

DUKE

lostinrates wrote: »

I think Harry was brave. . Hope he visits again soon.

Aaaw thanks LIR, thanks for being so lovely

DUKE

Waves_and_Smiles wrote: »

As far as counselling goes, Duke it is always your choice. Counselling doesn't work for everyone as I have said. The only time someone really needs a talking therapy is a) If they are willing to do it (that is a big one, the best therapist in the world can't help someone who isn't receptive) b) Their life is being changed in a way that they don't like by their thoughts and/or actions c) If they wish to understand more about themselves. If someone's day to day life isn't being affected by what they went through in a way that they would like to change then there is no need for therapy no matter how big their trauma.In my case I needed both therapy and medication, one for the emotional PTSD and one for the Biochemical imbalance. I also quite enjoyed counselling, I have always been curious about how the mind works hence my degree.

It can be scary at the beginning but a therapist can only work with what you give them. The client is in control, and you don't have to tell them anything that you don't wish to discuss. Obviously sometimes this might backfire if you have something ruining your life and don't share it but even in my case for my first 9 years of therapy I never shared my OCD symptoms. I told someone later when I was more willing to face it so the control was always mine. You don't have to tell them anything you don't wish to, Duke. It is entirely in your hands.

Thanks WaS for helping me understand, I'm going for it!

Good on Harry! Drown those voices out!

Yeah!

DUKE

whitewing wrote: »

I took DD to the park today. It was so windy that the clouds were racing across the sky and it was impossible to think. It was warm still though. I know you can't go out WaS, but I am wondering if these kind of weather conditions would help Harry.

Proper blow-your-cobwebs-away weather. It was wonderful.

I am amazed at how much difference playing in the park every day is making to DD's social and emotional development, let alone her physical skills. A lot of it is to do with being there with such an age range of people. Having me or DH with her gives us the chance to discuss behaviour with her at home too.

I know you lot will know this already but it still surprises me. It makes me sad too for the children that miss out.

I'm glad you enjoyed your day whitewing! I do believe that if you're able, it does you good to get out & about. A simple walk for me really de-stresses me. I love weather, my counsellor suggested that I could have SAD, however, I can get quite depressed when it's sunny but really happy during torrential rain.

Harry's not going out on his own at the moment though, but I've noticed how different he is when he does go out. Although he gives people strange looks as he's suspicious of them, then they start looking back ... I know he's harmless, but they don't

DUKE

elsien wrote: »

No, it's just what the neighbours at the back already think. I bird watch out of my back bedroom window when I'm putting off the work I should be doing and to the houses backing on to me it must look as if I'm spying on them.

We have that mirrored stuff on our windows so we see out but no one can see in, I spy to my heart's content :rotfl: Seriously we don't overlook anyone, but I can see the lorry drivers over there on the motorway pickin' their noses:eek: