Just needed to be heard for a little while

whitewing

If people struggle to come up with one, it is only because they aren't used to doing that. Everybody has good points, just like everybody has bad points. So everybody has something to say.

Harry, if you are around, welcome to the thread.

WaS, I don't use smilies very often. But I don't mind them.

oldestgnome

I have really enjoyed catching up with the thread, pats on the back all round for the positivity and reflection. I have been studying.

I use smilies quite a lot, perhaps too much as I think text is easier to interpret in an informal forum environment with the aid of them

Welcome to Harry, no pressure to do anything more than lurk, after several years of lurking I seldom comment except in special places like this thread, it is a lovely place to lurk :j take the time you need (((LiR)))

I love my strong nails particularly today they're hot pink as I painted them last night! It won't last long but I do like them!

whitewing

On the subject of make up, who taught you how to use make up, WaS?

Waves_and_Smiles

I am jealous, oldestgnome! I bit my nails from the age of 7 on and off for years. I haven't for 2 years now but they break so easily, I think I may have done permanent damage. I would love strong nails!

I taught myself make up usage from the age of 11. Although in some ways my mother was very strict in other ways she was very lax and even let me wear make up to school at that age. I used to take it all off before my dad saw me because he wouldn't have approved but by the time I was in my late teenage years I was very used to using it.

oldestgnome

I in turn would love a wave in my hair like yours! Well done on ceasing to bite them that's a difficult habit to break. Nail strength is another thing that it has been said diet can have an impact on, saying that medication and illness may well have an impact too.

haybel19

Waves_and_Smiles wrote: »

I am jealous, oldestgnome! I bit my nails from the age of 7 on and off for years. I haven't for 2 years now but they break so easily, I think I may have done permanent damage. I would love strong nails!

I taught myself make up usage from the age of 11. Although in some ways my mother was very strict in other ways she was very lax and even let me wear make up to school at that age. I used to take it all off before my dad saw me because he wouldn't have approved but by the time I was in my late teenage years I was very used to using it.

WaS have you thought of trying one of the nail strengthening treatments you paint on? Some of them are really good.

whitewing

Waves_and_Smiles wrote: »

Mostly it was people were 'stuck up and snobs' or that they were 'common'. In the case of anyone with a different nationality it was that they were primitive, the use of the term jungle-monkeys occurred a lot. The same for sexualities, 'no time for the queers' was another favourite. Everyone else was either too stuck up or below them, they chose to isolate themselves from everyone because something was wrong with everyone that they met and they would reassure each other that this just proved strangers were horrible and family was all that mattered. They were also members of the National Front Party and about the only people that they liked were the royal family who could do no wrong (Diana excluded, they hated her). By the time I was a teenager I used to have huge arguments with my mother about it because I hated the things that they said, all that did was confirm to them that I wasn't like them and a <fathers surname>. My uncle had exactly the same attitude and it was very hard to grow up with. Now I absolutely hate malicious gossip behind anyone's back, it actually makes me feel afraid.

My dad hated Princess Diana too. Probably because her issues were too close to home.

Waves_and_Smiles

I thought exactly the same thing about my mother and grandmothers reaction to her.

Pyxis

Waves_and_Smiles wrote: »

I am going to brave a question for everyone. Does anyone here, posters or lurkers hate smileys/emoticons? Where I don't use them I find I am using more and more exclamation marks to try get over when I am being light-hearted now and it's annoying me. I read on a different thread that they annoyed people and me being me, always scared to upset anyone therefore avoids them. I would like to use them but I won't if it upsets anyone?

Only I could turn the use of little faces into an issue...

I use them, 'cos like Oldestgnome, I find them useful to convey a tone that could prevent ambiguity.
For example:
" oh, yes? You and whose army?" Could be perceived as being said in a sarcastic tone, but
"oh yes? You and whose army? ". This is being said tongue in cheek and/or with a twinkle! And
"Oh yes? You and whose army? :rotfl:". Is being said with a smile and a giggle!
So smilies can be reassuring and convey nuances of tone. I feel this is important in things like threads, texts and emails where the lack of facial expression, body language or tone of voice could result in misinterpretation.
Having said that, I don't think there's been anything you've said, WaS, that wasn't perfectly clear in the tone intended! :A
I suppose that I use them a lot because I've got a tongue in cheek sense of humour at times and I want to ensure that my tone is conveyed! Like you, WaS, I'm terrified of giving offence! :eek:

Some smilies are really funny! On another thread I used the term 'smack botty' and someone found a smack botty smilie! I just roared when I saw it! :rotfl:

elsien

MSE abolished the emoticon that caused the most problems, which was the roll eyes sarcasm one. I must admit to wishing it was still around at times, (never on this thread) because people can be a bit precious sometimes but people were clearly getting the hump so it's gone.

I'd like to ask a question about bpd. I know one person with the diagnosis and she also had an abusive childhood. Is abuse a trigger or is it a personality type that people are born with? I was under the impression it wasn't treatable, but the woman I knew never got much support anyway because the learning disability team said it was mental health, and the mh team said support was down to the ld team. So she was left with us untrained support workers doing our best - the joys of a dual diagnosis.