The number...truth or lie??

Tink2

notanewuser wrote: »

Just a bit odd that you're so fixated on something that you personally have no experience of!

:huh: how exactly am I fixated?

TrickyWicky

jaylee3 wrote: »

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: Priceless.

You really are a babe magnet aren't you?

Lol I was on that day apparently. Man eater that one.. few weeks later I see her give chase to some bloke driving up the road - she shot after him lol.

VestanPance

JIL wrote: »

And why are they asking? What use is the information to them so very early in a relationship. What the heart doesn't know the mind can't grieve about. The past should be left where it is. By discussing it it becomes part of the relationship. Move on.

Because they want to know. It's important to them. That's why they are asking.

If you don't like the question, be it this or any other topic that comes up then you most likely have to face fact that you and the other person aren't compatible.

People with things to hide like to leave the past behind them. The fact they want to hide parts of themeselves from a prospective partner maybe means that person is asking the right questions!

missprice

VestanPance wrote: »

There are certainly a lot of people trying to bury their past from partners in here. I pity the partners and the deceit and lies they are entangled in.

Really, so if you've not been asked, its OK if you slept around?

Only if you have been asked does the answer matter?

I was asked years ago, not by my current partner, and I simply answered more than I should have, or too many or words to that effect. Years ago can't quite recall now. The relationship was not based on lies, nor did it fall apart because of my answer, as my answer was correct.

VestanPance

missprice wrote: »

Really, so if you've not been asked, its OK if you slept around?

Only if you have been asked does the answer matter?

I was asked years ago, not by my current partner, and I simply answered more than I should have, or too many or words to that effect. Years ago can't quite recall now. The relationship was not based on lies, nor did it fall apart because of my answer, as my answer was correct.

If you've not been asked then it's something the other person obviously doesn't care about or thinks is important. If you have been asked the chances are they do think your past behaviour in this area is importnat.

It's not exactly rocket science!

Lily-Rose_3

Tink2 wrote: »

Starting out a relationship on a lie isn't good!

If you lie about your number then you're clearly ashamed of it

Nobody is necessarily 'ashamed.' It's just that if you tell a man that you have had quite a lot (say 35-40 men) before him, then he will think you're a slag, and he will probably walk away. Even if he has had more women than you have had men, he will still judge you as an easy lay if your conquests run much over double figures.

Fact is, women will dumb down their number of conquests, and men will exaggerate it. In reality the 'numbers' are probably fairly close to one another: prob about 10 to 20 on average for many.

Frankly, I think it's a bit weird and creepy if a man wants to know how many men you've slept with. And men seem to want to know it about women, more than women want to know it about men. I wonder why? Why do they need to know?

Lily-Rose_3

VestanPance wrote: »

He asked a question. It's a very simple question. She either answers honestly, deceives someone to trick them into a relationship with her or decides she's uncomfortable with the question and him and walks away. It's very simple.

There are certainly a lot of people trying to bury their past from partners in here. I pity the partners and the deceit and lies they are entangled in.

Is this some kind of joke? :rotfl:

What the heck has it got to do with any new partner I may have, how many men I have slept with before I met him? Like I said, it's a bit creepy that someone would want to know. And a bit pervy.

Lily-Rose_3

Torry_Quine wrote: »

This is a genuine question. Why is not the correct time to discuss previous sexual partners before you start having a sexual relationship? I can't understand why you would ask later as by then it will surely be too late if the information is not what you feel appropriate for you.

Why does the question even have to be asked or answered? Why does anyone need to, or 'have' to know how many sexual partners their new partner has had in the past?

Why does is matter? :huh:

VestanPance

Lily-Rose wrote: »

Is this some kind of joke? :rotfl:

What the heck has it got to do with any new partner I may have, how many men I have slept with before I met him? Like I said, it's a bit creepy that someone would want to know. And a bit pervy.

Who cares why they want to know? The fact is they do if they are asking.

Maybe they don't want to enter a relationship with someone who has had one nights stands, or friends with benefits etc. That's entirely within their right to decide that for themselves. They might decide based on your actions they don't want to be your partner, but then that's why you're willing to lie to them isn't it?

Indie_Kid

VestanPance wrote: »

Who cares why they want to know? The fact is they do if they are asking.

Maybe they don't want to enter a relationship with someone who has had one nights stands, or friends with benefits etc. That's entirely within their right to decide that for themselves. They might decide based on uyour actions they don't want to be your partner, but then that's why you're willing to lie to them isn't it?

If that's the case, they should say that, instead of just asking how many.

I don't understand why they'd want to know either.