Help OH is ruining everything

user55

Peem wrote: »

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I sooo know what you mean! And with questions afterwards to check he understands!

This idea may save my marriage! :rotfl:

Seakay

moneyowen wrote: »

Yes I've talked about nothing else for weeks it must be going over his head

Get his boss at work to tell him - or even a colleague. My OH remembers nothing that I tell him but can recite information and figures from work which he hasn't even tried to remember. The worst example was that I had been saying for years that I thought that he would be good at a certain sort of job, and he'd just dismissed it. One night out with an old mate from work who made the same suggestion and it was the best idea ever - OH didn't even seem to realise that I'd been saying the same thing!

recovering_spendaholic

I don't have an OH any more (traded me in for a bimbo) but I do have an ex-OH who thinks that I have no food in for his kids if I don't have cupboards full of crisps, pizzas, Rocky biscuits, Mars Ice Cream bars, fizzy drinks and stuff like that. His solution is to bring round carrier bags of the stuff, which drives me mad - he pays for it so I'm not bothered about that side of it, but DD's (particularly DD1) only eat the cr*p he's brought and not the nice hm stuff I prepare.

Nix143

*hulas in doing a 'It's great To Live By Yourself' dance*

*hulas out again*

thriftlady_2

recovering_spendaholic wrote: »

I don't have an OH any more (traded me in for a bimbo) but I do have an ex-OH who thinks that I have no food in for his kids if I don't have cupboards full of crisps, pizzas, Rocky biscuits, Mars Ice Cream bars, fizzy drinks and stuff like that. His solution is to bring round carrier bags of the stuff, which drives me mad - he pays for it so I'm not bothered about that side of it, but DD's (particularly DD1) only eat the cr*p he's brought and not the nice hm stuff I prepare.

Well, I think you deserve a medal for putting up with that Jane -that would seriously **** me off.

luxor4t

I didn't drive when the children were small and OM worked near the supermarket, so it seemed like a good idea to send him shopping... he came back SO pleased because he had bought BARGAINS - eg named brands 'on offer' that were still double the own brand cost, £5 on 'just a few treats' for the kids, forgot the special offer meat, etc etc. We had egg and chips for Sunday lunch as there was no more money.

Trying to take 3 under 5s around a supermarket on Saturday morning was just not viable, especially as he was involved in sports. So he had to go back the next week... we ate egg and chips on Sundays fairly regularly for a while.

It did take him several weeks/ months to get the hang of following the list, choosing the own brand ('value' didn't exist then!!) and not getting side tracked by not-so-special offers. But he did it- to the point where he used to plan the menus around the best bargains, on the day!

I know I am lucky... but I am also cunning and a good teacher: patience, praise and planning and lots of counting to 100 worked!

nej

Hey, not all us guys are that bad you know! I take care of the shopping in our house. Sunday morning, write a meal-plan for the week and list ingredients, plus normal every-week stuff.

Then, if I go and buy it alone, it takes 45 minutes door to door, and costs about £50, often less. If my wife comes, it takes an hour and a half and costs £80 upwards.

cupid_s

nej wrote: »

Hey, not all us guys are that bad you know! I take care of the shopping in our house. Sunday morning, write a meal-plan for the week and list ingredients, plus normal every-week stuff.

Then, if I go and buy it alone, it takes 45 minutes door to door, and costs about £50, often less. If my wife comes, it takes an hour and a half and costs £80 upwards.

Are you sure you don't want to come and live with me?

Aril

OH is absolutely brill....he did the shopping last week and came in under my usual spend :j I think a fresh pair of eyes is sometimes good aswell...he saw new ways of trimming the budget which I've missed. It's a learnt skill like everything else and its success isn't gender dependent. Both men and women make savvy/not so savvy shoppers.
Aril

nej

cupid_s wrote: »

Are you sure you don't want to come and live with me?

Only if you let me do the shopping