Help OH is ruining everything

black-saturn

Reading this with interest as I'm getting married soon. I think I'll say I'm going to be in charge of the finances and the shopping as he doesn't seem to have a clue about budgeting or about home cooking.

taplady

black-saturn wrote: »

Reading this with interest as I'm getting married soon. I think I'll say I'm going to be in charge of the finances and the shopping as he doesn't seem to have a clue about budgeting or about home cooking.

congratulations black_saturn on your forthcoming wedding!

Peem

poodlehorse wrote: »

I feel I should conduct our relationship through powerpoint.

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I sooo know what you mean! And with questions afterwards to check he understands!

kdean

My Dad is exactly like that, mum dreads taking him to the supermarket it always costs more. He made a HM trifle the other day and bought a whole bottle of sherry too!

DH is actually usually the one who is best at saving money in our relationship, but he does take it to extremes. He often asks if we really need essentials like today for instance, he found out we dont really have a lot of money for the month, and has put off doing shopping! I said that unlike him I will be in all week with the children and I will actually need to eat and feed DS (DD is only 6 months)! He is ok because he will be at work until 10pm and will no doubt get food there. I however have a few chips, no potatoes, veg or protein of any kind in the house.

I do not really have any money of my own because I am a SAHM although I do work part-time from home, all of my earnings are spoken for on bills.

DH did get a new car stereo (necessity apparently:mad: ), he did ask if he was allowed and I said if you really think we can afford it and if you are not going to question when I want to treat myself to something (like a haircut which I have not had for about a year!!!).

Not happy today, usually we are fine and we never argue about money but today I am annoyed, probably tired to be honest. Actually we never argue about anything, sometimes I argue at him but he doesn't join in so I get bored after a while, and I am usually quite laid back.

shelly

manicstreetpreacher wrote: »

I dread my husband coming to the supermarket with me. What is it with men and supermarkets? - he simply has to buy everything. I buy what's on the list, get to the till, £20 odd quid - bingo. When he's with me it's £50 plus. Nightmare.

Total opposite in our house

Hubby passes a Tesco on his way home from work so does the shopping on a Friday night. He will only buy whats on the list and spends about £25-30. When I go I get all the offers and BOGOF's that are on things I know we eat that I can put away for another week. I spend anywhere from £60+ I'm not allowed to go very often :rotfl:

queenpig

Aww dad was like this when he came shopping with mam either taht if he didnt get what he wanted he'd take a strop.! yes thats right lol he'd take a strop. lol

With my DH he weill normaly get what is on the list maybe be swayed into a few extra's but is the reduced section i have to watch with him

thriftlady_2

We're very traditional in our house. Just like my mum and mil before me my OH gives me 'housekeeping' every week and I take full responsibility for all the food shopping. My dad, fil and OH have no interest in domestic matters. Thank goodness for that, say I I could not stand him interfering with my plans and routines.

I think it's best if one partner is responsible for the food and household budget. That way there can be no arguments.

sylphraven

I'm lucky, if I send OH shopping for me he just asks for a milkshake (less than £1) for going, I normally budget for one of these a week (not that he knows) so have no problems with it. I also try to give him cash to get the shopping with as well, this ensures theres not enough spare to get anything unnecesary.

belfastgirl23

Moneyowen you need to accept that you have a dh who cannot be trusted in a supermarket. I personally cannot be trusted in Boots although I'm great in Tesco. We all have our weak points. And with PMS I'm on shaky ground in M&S too Seriously though if he can't pass snack foods then either send him with just enough cash to buy what he needs or go yourself.

Sometimes it's better going around problems than going through them. This is a teething problem and you'll work it out!

Congrats on the asda shop by the way, this is great...

JillD_2

Don't ever send him to the shops. For anything. Ever.

I second that. Its just not worth it.