Help OH is ruining everything

Curv

belfastgirl23 wrote: »

And with PMS I'm on shaky ground in M&S too

belfastgirl... this made me do a GenuLOL! I once burst into tears in the M&S Food Hall, under the influence of PMT - there were SO MANY lovely things and my inability to decide what to buy frustrated me so much I just cried.

Yours, Looking-for-an-OS-PMTRemedy

Curv :beer:

meanmarie

My OH is not to be trusted to go shopping without a list...he does tend to just get whats on list, but not really to be trusted with any kind of vague instructions...I now give him the amount that I am prepared to spend and he has to deal with any extra from his own allowance, seems to be working as he is certainly not bringing home as many non-essentials as he used to do. He does come to the supermarket but seems to have calmed down there too!

Marie

JillD_2

Marie's reply made me think of the lists that I used to send hubby with as he used to come with random stuff.
So the real list would be :

ragu
cheese
pasta
cheerios

The actual list would be

jar of ragu sauce ("traditional", get the 500g one its best value, will have a green lid, dont get "original" the kids won't eat it)
Asda smart price mild white cheddare cheese (will be on end aisle, don't get mature by accident)
pasta (get the large 5 kilo bag for £1, if they donl;t have that get some smaller smart price bags)
cheerios - don't get sugar coated and don't get the oat ones.

It took longer to write the lists out than to do the actual shoping, and he would still get it wrong :rotfl:

thriftlady_2

My mum has just had this problem. She hasn't been able to get to the shops for a while as she has just had a knee replacement. Dad was sent off shopping. He came back after a trip to Sainsbury's only to find everything he'd bought was 'wrong' in some way. Wrong size, wrong brand, too expensive, individually wrapped instead of loose, not enough, foreign instead of homegrown....He felt really depressed after mum had finished with him :rotfl: The supermarket is just overwhelming for him. Last time he went food shopping (if indeed he ever did) it was in shops where there was just one kind of potato, and that was put in a bag for you by the greengrocer. In a supermarket there are about 20 kinds of spuds in bags of varying sizes, for varying uses. It was all too much for him :rolleyes:

jennybb

:rotfl: Jilld, I know what you mean - my lists tend to be like that. In fairness, though - my OH does stick to the list. Nine times out of 10 it's cheaper to send him because of this - I tend to get carried away.

Eels100

Oh I can SO sympathise.

I do most of the shopping but once in a while if I'm skint OH does the big monthly Tesco order. When I do it I spend around £70-100 and I buy a month's supply of cereal, sugar, flour, coffee, tins, bread and rolls for the freezer, BOGOFs, toiletries and laundry stuff, that sort of thing. Then all I need to do is make a couple of trips to the butcher, the grocer and the Co-op to see us right until the following month. But because it's all ingredients when I do the shop OH will look in the cupboard and whimper that there's nothing in to eat. "You've spent all that money but there's no food". Well there would be bloody food if you were prepared to actually cook something!

If he does the order I find he's spent exactly the same amount on frozen processed crap, nasty supermarket meat, Pepsi (I mean, hardly essential to life, is it?!) and you can guarantee he won't buy more than two loaves of bread. So he's happy 'because we have food in' but it only lasts a week and I spend the rest of the month running back and forth to the Coop to top up, and it costs us twice as much.

So now when he's paying for the big order, I order it. He's still complaining but he's so far showing no signs of malnutrition.

Lizzieanne

In 20 years together, my husband has only been food shopping twice - once when I had chicken pox and once when I had just come out of hospital after an op on my jaw.

After my op, he came back with all sorts of strange things - those stringy oven chips "because they will be easy for you to chew than normal chips"
It never occurred to him that I didn't want chips at all, I'd been feeling sick after the anaesthetic. I suppose his heart was in the right place, but he'd bought loads of crisps, cakes and chocolate 'as snacks' and very little real food.

He once took an egg out of the fridge, stood in the middle of the kitchen and broke it open because he 'thought it was already hard boiled' :rotfl:

Steel_2

Lizzieanne wrote: »

He once took an egg out of the fridge, stood in the middle of the kitchen and broke it open because he 'thought it was already hard boiled' :rotfl:

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You've made my day!

Hubbie and I go to supermarket every week together - he very rarely ever goes alone as he brings back a weird and wonderful assortment of strange foods like dragon fruit at £2 a pop just because he wants to show me how peculiar it is.

I have a menu plan and shopping list and I'm pretty rigid about sticking to it unless I spot an opportunity or a BOGOF that could save me a lot of money in the long term. Hubbie pays for all the shopping and is delighted that I've cut our shopping bill from £60 to £30 over the last few months by careful planning.

He's even set up a direct debit to pay the extra £30 off the mortgage. He walks around telling everyone how little we pay for shopping - his sister-in-law spends around £100-£130 a week on food for her and her husband and nearly fell on the floor in shock when he told her. He was rewarded by a large batch of homemade raspberry rock cakes for making me feel like a diva domestic goddess

KatrinaC_2

I taught my OH to cook (although he doesn't realise it, he now makes almost half of the meals in our house) and he now no longer buys jars of sauce, ready made pizzas and so on because he knows how easy cheese sauce etc is.

He still has a nasty crisps, biscuits and chocolate habit :rolleyes: but he will make stuff from the Be-ro book at the weekend and munch on those instead.

Kat

(Does that make me a domestic goddess by proxy? )

GreenNinja

serena wrote: »

Put him on ebay??:D

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