Feeling lonely

rosie_78

Hello,
feeling a little lonely at the moment. not really sure what to do to drag myself out of it.


I've got a friend whom I see sometimes, though she lives in a different town so it's not like we can just "pop round" to see eachother. It has to be planned.


I don't know how to meet people. Which at the age of 36 sounds stupid I know.


Just out of an abusive relationship and still feeling fragile so please be kind


Thank you
xx

Deanied

Try https://www.meetup.com If you live in or near a big city there tends to be more going on than in more rural areas. There are lots of groups for lots of different interests.

rosie_78

Thank you very much. I will take a look at this tomorrow

double_mummy

hey rosie

good to see you back hows the shoulder doing?

have you thought about joining a club that you are interested in where you live? or asking some of your colleagues out for a meal or a drink as a group?

i know it is scary but think about how much fear you have already overcome this will be a breeze xx

tayforth

Hi rosie

At 36 too, and having a much-reduced social circle after escaping my abusive marriage, I can empathise. Do try meetup, there's lots going on depending on where you live.

Also, I've found that telling people (at work etc) that I'm at a loose end more often now means that I get invited to join them, whereas otherwise they might assume that I was always busy. It takes courage to reach out, but there are some kind people around.

How far away is your friend? Have you arranged to see her again soon?

Email me anytime xxx

double_mummy

hey tay hope you are feeling a bit better as well xxx

tayforth

Thank you, double mummy. I'll get there. This too will pass, isn't that what they say? I just wish that I could fast forward to that point. But life is not so simple. I promise an update on my thread tomorrow.

How are you? xx

double_mummy

im not doing too bad my insomnia is back though

even if you arent up for a update just letting us know you are still around is great i know that both you and rosie are older than me but i still get that little thoughts about you when i havent seen you posting in a couple of days - i think its a mummy instinct lol

and yes it will pass but that doesnt mean that it isnt carp right now sweetie

Pyxis

Hi Rosie!

I've been thinking. (No, don't laugh!)

You know you like birds? Well, is there by any chance a bird-watching group near you? If there is, that might be a good way of combining your interest in birds with meeting like-minded people, and learning more about the birds in question.

Your turn to think now!

FBaby

You don't have to approach people to make friends if you find this very difficult. You can just make yourself seem approachable to others do with eye contact and a lot of smiles.

It can take quite some time doing the same activity before you can be 'noticed' so don't give up if you are ignored for some time and do the activity because you enjoy it. It took weeks of doing a zumba class before it got to the stage of making friends. First there was no eye contact, then a quick hello, then smiles and 'how are you', and finally a situation that warranted a bit more talk (usually involving humour) and then starting to open up. I have made about 5 good friends this way and we meet up, either as a group, or individually (and then met their friends and expanded the group).

In_Debt_Bet

rosie_78 wrote: »

I don't know how to meet people. Which at the age of 36 sounds stupid I know.

Hi Rosie
It doesn't sound at all stupid, making friends as an adult seems much harder than as a child when you could just ask another child to be friends.

I've recently joined the Clandestine Cake Club which I found out about from another MSE poster, I haven't been to a meeting yet but I'm looking forward to it.

Stay strong

Bet x