How do you cope when you can't move?

going_nowhere_fast

Yes i do, dont really find them comfy though.

Everyone i know seems to be booking holidays, moving house, shopping. Feel like the only person who lives by a tight budget.

Moan over!!

townendwig

going_nowhere_fast wrote: »

Yes i do, dont really find them comfy though.

Everyone i know seems to be booking holidays, moving house, shopping. Feel like the only person who lives by a tight budget.

Moan over!!

Yes but don't forget most people are doing this on DEBT.


Contrary to what many people would have you think, Debt does not equal Wealth!

going_nowhere_fast

I hate my neighbours so much. The council warned them about loud music at night several times and things did seem to improve but things are going back to how they were again. Im in tears, trying to keep positive, remind myself this isnt forever and financially i am making tiny steps each month towards making moving a reality but nights like this seem like torture. I have no patience left for their kind of selfish behaviour. Ive gotknotts in my stomach, feel sick, cant go to bed because of the noise, cant concentrate on the tv because their music can be heard over it. Feel really really down and trapped.

moneyistooshorttomention

Re the tv...I think there might be headphones you can plug into the tv, so that you can hear the tv (and, presumably, would help block out external noise in the process???).

I don't know if I'm correct on this and how much they would cost if so?

If there is such a thing, then I personally would put up a plea on Freecycle and the like for a pair of these and say exactly why I needed them ....With any luck someone sympathetic to your plight would help you out because of these neighbours, as you would be making it plain that they are a "need" and not a "wish" and its down to other peoples selfish behaviour that you need them.

I know...I know and just why should you adapt your behaviour because of someone else? and I would sympathise with that...because I'd feel exactly the same in your position....

....and I'd get onto the Council again about them. In fact, I'd be onto the Council however times I needed to be about it...even if I was groaning to myself and thinking "This is the 10th time this year I've had to do this....".

going_nowhere_fast

Thank you, found some headphones with a really long cable on amazon and they are only cheap so am about to order them, i can even watch tv in bef with them.

I want to sell in a couple if years so am trying to balance if its best to complain again or ignore so i dong have to disclose my issues with them when i sell. I know they might move before then, but they might not. Its intimidating when they know it is me that has complained about them.

I have just written a list of my goals i.e pay debts, save up and move. I know it changes nothing but it reminds me i am taking steps every day in the right direction to get away from here. It reminds me every month im paying debts it is taking me a step closer to my goal.

People who have posted on this thread have moved from bad housing situations so there is no reason why one day i cang be one of them.

Upsidedown_Bear

going_nowhere_fast wrote: »

Thank you, found some headphones with a really long cable on amazon and they are only cheap so am about to order them, i can even watch tv in bef with them.

I want to sell in a couple if years so am trying to balance if its best to complain again or ignore so i dong have to disclose my issues with them when i sell. I know they might move before then, but they might not. Its intimidating when they know it is me that has complained about them.

I have just written a list of my goals i.e pay debts, save up and move. I know it changes nothing but it reminds me i am taking steps every day in the right direction to get away from here. It reminds me every month im paying debts it is taking me a step closer to my goal.

People who have posted on this thread have moved from bad housing situations so there is no reason why one day i cang be one of them.

If you have ever complained about them you have to disclose it when you sell so you have nothing to lose (and a lot to gain if the council stops their noise) by contacting the council again.

going_nowhere_fast

I dont know how to cope for the next few years with this. I hate it here so much. Being kept awake again. Tonight it is not loud enough to diarise for the council but is too noisey for houses like these if you know what i mean (thin walls). I have looked through all my figures again. I know i can get out of here if i stick at it, every month is a step closer. Im reminding myself of that. Im picturing our next house somewhere quiet but its hard not to cry when it feels like its taking forever to happen. I dont know why some people are so selfish that they show no consideration to their neighbours.

Noctu

Hi going nowhere fast, I was wondering how you were getting on? Been following your thread.

martin2345uk

Been a long time with no updates... hope you're ok, GNF...?

going_nowhere_fast

Hello

Good news-ish.

I was at the point where I was crying every evening, dreading bedtime, and struggling not to spend money - I used to spend just to get out of the house. Anyway, it got so bad that I plucked up the courage to speak to a few other neighbours about my problems. Turns out everyone hates them and they are disturbing the other neighbours too although they said they didn't want to make a formal complaint because they know the nightmare neighbours.

I made more complaints to the council and the police who tried to fob me off but after I'd endured five whole day and nights of endless music and screaming domestics I refused to be fobbed off.

Council contacted them and things have improved. I have even had a few nights sleep!

Area is still unpleasant, I've now made my house unsellable by complaining to the council because it would put most buyers off wanting to buy my house, I'm terrified the music and screaming will start again and equally scared they will move and more unpleasant neighbours move in.

I have dramatically changed my budget. Have had some house expenses to pay but have had the money to do it with for a change, I've a DFD of 24 months and then I'm planning 12 months of hard saving. I am reminding myself literally on a daily basis that we will not be living here forever.

I have reduced my Christmas budget and if anyone has a problem with that I don't care which is a big change for me, one of my reasons for getting in to debt was trying to keep up with people who are financially better off than me, now I realise true friends don't care and half the people I know will be living their lifestyle by leaning on credit cards and overdrafts, whereas I am living within my means. My TV died and instead of buying a 42" I couldn't afford and did not need I got a 32" that I could afford in my budget if I made some extra cutbacks that month.

Have cut my food budget in half which I have to admit is boring but surprisingly easy to do.

I listen to Dave Ramsey a few times a week. He repeats himself and is only saying the obvious but I find it helpful, it reminds me the end goal IS achievable, it IS worth the sacrifices and I can have nice things in the future. I sold all my jewellery which I found hard but I can treat myself to something nice in a few years time.

All the negatives I experience ultimately lead to a positive. Years of being with an abusive man has resulted in me enjoying being a single mother, having gone from having lots of free cash to struggling financially I am now less materialistic, getting into debt for the first time in my life has forced me to learn to budget which will benefit me for the rest of my life and is teaching my child a life skill and finally my anti social noisy neighbours making my home feel like a prison have given me the kick up the bum I needed to make steps so that i can reach my goal of a semi detached house in a decent working class area - ironically if it wasn't for them I would still be thinking it was an unachievable dream.