How do you cope when you can't move?

going_nowhere_fast

Thank you for telling me your experience, it sounds horrendous. How did you pick where to move to? I will have a limited budget so will have to be careful where i choose to move to. I feel scared of this happeneng again in a new home.

Every time i come on here and read what happened to other people and how they got out i feel like there is a future and i will succeed in escaping. Ive asked the local estate agents even though i cant put it up for sale yet and every single one of them was confident my house would sell quickly enough - not in the best street but equally not the worst. Thats positive.

the_insider

We knew where we wanted to move to, we're actually only about 2 miles away from the old place but it's like a whole other world. This was always our desired location. It just took time to get the money together to be able to do it but now we're here it's like all the drama in the old place never even happened. We can look back and laugh about how upset it made us because we're in our dream home in the right place and we got it for he right price.
One foot in front of the other, you'll get there eventually.

going_nowhere_fast

Wow sounds brilliant - you lucky lucky thing

Metranil_Vavin

OP have you any friends or family you could perhaps stay with for a bit?

I haven't read all your posts, but I recall you have a child, which I am sure makes everything even harder.

I really feel for you. Horrible neighbours are the absolute pits as you want your house to be a place you can relax and take refuge in. Not somewhere you dread being.

I just wondered if you could maybe think about renting it out now and perhaps move in with a friend/family member to just get you out of there? As someone above said, 4 years is a long time to be stuck somewhere that is making you so unhappy and anxious.

Metranil_Vavin

GNF, apologies I have just read back through this thread and see you say you have no family you could move in with. It sounds as if you have had a very tough time of it in recent years..life can be very unfair.

Have you any friends you could stay with, even for the odd night or two/wekend just to get some respite?

going_nowhere_fast

Metranil_Vavin wrote: »

OP have you any friends or family you could perhaps stay with for a bit?

I haven't read all your posts, but I recall you have a child, which I am sure makes everything even harder.

I really feel for you. Horrible neighbours are the absolute pits as you want your house to be a place you can relax and take refuge in. Not somewhere you dread being.

I just wondered if you could maybe think about renting it out now and perhaps move in with a friend/family member to just get you out of there? As someone above said, 4 years is a long time to be stuck somewhere that is making you so unhappy and anxious.

Hi, unfortunately ive no one i can move in with otherwise i would be out of here like a shot. I enquired about renting and selling up but rent is double my mortgage and that is for a terrace in the same bad area so i would likely not escape the problems im experiencing now.

going_nowhere_fast

Metranil_Vavin wrote: »

GNF, apologies I have just read back through this thread and see you say you have no family you could move in with. It sounds as if you have had a very tough time of it in recent years..life can be very unfair.

Have you any friends you could stay with, even for the odd night or two/wekend just to get some respite?

Again no, i come as a twosome so no to staying with friends.

Coming on here helps because i havent anyone i can talk to about the problems and how unhappy and trapped i feel. When your a single parent from my experience, you've never got much money. All my friends and family are financially better off than me and made a big profit on their first houses so they are all in semi detatched properties in nice areas. Im the odd one out!

Siberianski

I totally feel for you we are in the same position as yourselves

We bought an ex council in a run down area just before the property market crashed our aim was do it up, 2-3 years down the line sell it on at a profit. Recession has snookered that, houses in our street are going for 15thousand less than what we paid and thanks too the labour government we have the worst benefit scrounging scum living next door too us.

I was painting our garden fence two weeks ago with my son, our neighbour who doesn't work with his 15 year old son decided too light up a joint in his back garden as we were doing so.

They have parties every week, they seem too think that playing music equals everyone else in the street needs too here it ie windows/patio doors open


I want it too be winter again!!!!!!!!!!!

going_nowhere_fast wrote: »

Any advice

Can't move for a very long time yet, need to clear debts first and then build up some savings but where I live is REALLY starting to get me down. Renting is not an option. Really, I just need to learn to put up with where I am now until I'm in a position to move. But how do you do that?

The walls are paper thin - I irritates listening to everybody's daily life.

I live in a deprived area which is depressing.

I long for the days when I can sit in my back garden on a sunny day and just enjoy the sunshine and some peace and quiet without idiots having loud music on, shouting at one another, swearing etc.

If I knew I could put my house on the market within the next 6 months I'd be able to think great, just hang in there but how do you do it when it's more likely to be 6 years?!!

I need to get a grip on my spending to improve my situation but it's so tempting to spend on petrol or something to escape being here.......

I like my actual house though, it's just a shame about the location, area and neighbours!!!!!!

going_nowhere_fast

I feel for you. We both have no alternative but to sell at a loss as soon as we can afford to move somewhere else.

I think the local councils dont care about how an areas problems affect home owners. Nice people who are renting move out of the area because they can easily do that and scum move in to replace them.

going_nowhere_fast

Have decided not to read the local paper or websites as if today - its all about crime and thefts in the area, anti social behaviour, noise nuisance....makes me feel worse so im putting a stop to that.