i think my fiancee is cheating do i call the wedding off?

BitterAndTwisted

Carl31 wrote: »

Surely, someone who's cheating is not going to bring their bit on the side to meet their other half and be so blatant.

You'd think so, wouldn't you? But I know from personal experience that this is absolutely not the case. Devious and heartless people find it quite easy to be brazen because they think they're so very clever but they rarely are.

The dead giveaway for the OP is the lack of bedroom-contact. Five weeks ago is precisely when they started shagging. I'd put money on it. Like Hazyjo said, pay attention to whether he's stepped up on his personal grooming, bought new underwear etcetera etcetera. Someone who always has their mobile welded to them and locked is also a dead giveaway

FBaby

Can you seat him down and say that you've felt he has been acting different in the last 5 weeks and you are getting a bit concerned. Ask him if he is happy, looking forward to the wedding, excited about being married etc... You might get some vibes from how he reacts to your questions, whether he sees it as the chance to say 'you're right, we shouldn't get married, ok, what's for dinner now', or 'I know things have been a bit tense recently, it's just wedding vibes, I will be the proudest man in the world and I can't wait for you to become my wife'

pinkshoes

Playing devil's advocate here...

What if he has this friend from work that he gets on really well with, and the fact that his fianc!e has just turned roind and said she can't come in the house for no reason whatsoever...

oh wait, that's what my ex did when I had a good male friend from work, and yes I was annoyed and didn't feel like being intimate with my oh...

the fact he's not hiding anthing makes it unlikely they're up to anything.

The only person acting oddly here is you. Sorry.

trollopscarletwoman

daisiegg wrote: »

What does 'dogs me up' mean?

Lol, I wondered about that as soon as reading the original post.

19lottie82

pinkshoes wrote: »

Playing devil's advocate here...

What if he has this friend from work that he gets on really well with, and the fact that his fianc!e has just turned roind and said she can't come in the house for no reason whatsoever...

oh wait, that's what my ex did when I had a good male friend from work, and yes I was annoyed and didn't feel like being intimate with my oh...

the fact he's not hiding anthing makes it unlikely they're up to anything.

The only person acting oddly here is you. Sorry.

Nonsense.

What about the bbm message?

This coupled with a woman's intuition, I think the OP would be mental to go ahead with the wedding.

OP would you consider a private investigator?

bagpussbear

I'm sorry to say that you probably aren't soulmates. Soulmates have a closeness that no man nor beast can get between, and lo and behold anyone who tries!

I don't see that here (sorry), your partner seems to shrug off your concerns, doesn't appear to react when this woman gives you dirty looks, and gets defensive when you say you don't want her in the house. Things have changed in the bedroom department and the lack of closeness between you recently, screams to me that something is wrong.

Does that mean he is sleeping with her, I have no idea. But do you think the above is acceptable to behave to your beloved? No I didn't think so.

I would postpone the wedding if I was in your shoes. Better to lose money now, than get married and face the expenses of divorces and splitting assets etc.

And if he went off with her, well they deserve each other so I wouldn't focus on that. And you wouldn't be letting anyone down, family would understand.

Even if he isn't 'cheating' here there are issues between you and your partner that really need addressing before you (both) decide if you should actually be married.

Carl31

pinkshoes wrote: »

Playing devil's advocate here...

What if he has this friend from work that he gets on really well with, and the fact that his fianc!e has just turned roind and said she can't come in the house for no reason whatsoever...

oh wait, that's what my ex did when I had a good male friend from work, and yes I was annoyed and didn't feel like being intimate with my oh...

the fact he's not hiding anthing makes it unlikely they're up to anything.

The only person acting oddly here is you. Sorry.

This. Absolutely

I hate the fact the world has decided men and women only associate for one reason. It's a very sad state of affairs

Bennifred

Why would you marry someone you don't trust and can't discuss everything with?

sedment

I think men and women can be friends without it meaning they are actually intimate. But the fact this other female is being strange and her behaviour just seem fishy.Why would a grown woman need someone to walk to work with? If they were just friends, wouldnt she be making an effort to be friendly with her workmates fiance?
Think I would be keeping an eye on his appearance and changes in habits as well. Some clubs/pubs have photographers that go around and take peoples photos as well, and the photos can be on fb.
But if you have any doubts or feelings about him at this point, I would be sitting down and speaking with him. A lot easier to try and sort things out before rather than get to the days before a wedding and still be unsure. Good luck with whatever you decide to do x

19lottie82

Carl31 wrote: »

This. Absolutely

I hate the fact the world has decided men and women only associate for one reason. It's a very sad state of affairs

Again, what about the bbm message?