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Do I call time on our relationship?

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  • poet123
    poet123 Posts: 24,099 Forumite
    Good luck and be kind to yourself. It is your turn now.
  • marisco_2
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    It is so good to hear that you are surrounded by a loving and supportive family. It comes across so strongly that a huge weight has been lifted from your shoulders, and you appear to be in a much calmer frame of mind. There will be many emotional challenges ahead for you, but I believe in you that you have the strength and willpower to pull through them all. Good on you for determining when and how you will have contact with your ex. Thank you for the update and I hope you enjoy the football later on :)
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  • Only blot on today so far is that my car has been keyed across the bonnet, reported to the police.

    Marisco, love your signature, have copied it and put on the wall above my desk.
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  • marisco_2
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    Only blot on today so far is that my car has been keyed across the bonnet, reported to the police.

    Marisco, love your signature, have copied it and put on the wall above my desk.

    Bummer about the bonnet, but look how well you are handling the situation. Don't sweat the small stuff and just take each day one at a time right now. Keep going.
    The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own, no apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on or blame. The gift is yours - it is an amazing journey - and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins.
  • Alchemilla
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    Sending you strength and a comment that his cars are likely to be joint assets also.
  • mountainofdebt
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    Only blot on today so far is that my car has been keyed across the bonnet, reported to the police.

    STF

    I had an accident on thursday and my car is feeling abit sorry for itself BUT as I said to my mum,I wasn't injured I walked away from it and whilst I have the hassle of getting it sorted, my car is just a piece of metal.

    As for photographing the bruises, did you have a some sorter of ruler against them when they were photographed? Just thinking it might give the pictures a sense of scale iyswim
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  • As regards the car, it wasn't him. It occured during the night when he was down in Sussex (approx 170 miles away) at his daughters, which I know for certain because I heard his voice in the background when she phoned to let me know yesterday evening.

    Heard this afternoon from his daughter (he is still there), that his mum has bowel & sceondary cancer with poor prospects. He apparently knew last week, but his dad told him not to tell me. Explains the escalation of his actions, but not excuses them. It was his Dad also who told him to lock me out of the house Wednesday evening after I'd fled to the neighbours.

    He is apparently devasted, but for some reason I feel no sympathy.
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  • hazyjo
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    There will be a whole stream of things now where he tries to excuse his behaviour.

    He will also have looked into anger management.

    And will offer marriage guidance.

    He will have/will say he'll apologise to all your family.

    He'll say he was depressed. That it took you leaving for him to realise that and he'll say he'll change and make changes...

    He will then make you out to be the bad guy as he's doing everything he can and you're doing eff all, blah blah blah.

    Don't fall for it. I wouldn't even listen to him/meet him on his own. Take someone with you. Manipulation is very hard to manage in front of someone else.

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  • fivetide
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    hazyjo wrote: »
    Don't fall for it. I wouldn't even listen to him/meet him on his own. Take someone with you. Manipulation is very hard to manage in front of someone else.

    Jx

    This.

    Sounds like you aren't falling for it but make sure you keep it that way and hazyJo makes some good suggestions.

    Good luck!
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