Do I call time on our relationship?

star_trek_fan

Quick update.

i was assaulted by him Wed evening which led to me fleeing to the neighbours. I'm OK just bruises but emotionally battered.
He was arrested yesterday and cautioned. Now waiting for locksmiths as he's been back twice and kickoffed and have had to call police.
My son's here with me, we're just packing up so I can go stay with him for a while.
I feel so gutted and drained. Will update you all when I can.

Thanks for all your support.

thorsoak

Sending gentle {{hugs}}

I'm sorry that it has had to come to violence before you got the chance to move out - but it does crystallise the fact that your relationship had gone its course - and more

You can now move on without feeling guilty - not that you ever had anything to feel guilty about. Others will be able to tell you about how to get a non-molestation order so that he cannot come within a certain area of where you live.

Mojisola

star_trek_fan wrote: »

Quick update.

i was assaulted by him Wed evening which led to me fleeing to the neighbours. I'm OK just bruises but emotionally battered.
He was arrested yesterday and cautioned. Now waiting for locksmiths as he's been back twice and kickoffed and have had to call police.
My son's here with me, we're just packing up so I can go stay with him for a while.
I feel so gutted and drained. Will update you all when I can.

Thanks for all your support.

At least it's brought things to a head.

Have you talked to the police DV unit? Have they given you an alarm?

Tropez

Not a lot to say but I just wanted to add that I'm sorry to read that you're going through this. It's good to hear that you'll be staying with your son for a while, although awful to hear why.

As others have said, seek legal advice and contact some of the organisations mentioned for help with what you're going through.

hazyjo

As above - you'll need to be strong now. Save the emotion for later. As above, at least you now know it's the right decision. He's helped you with that.

All the very best for the rest of your life. Make it a good one - and keep us informed.

Jx

SailorSam

You could go along and have a chat with Victim Support, they're very good at times like this.

sleepymans

Sending you cyber (((hugs))) and support.
I do so hope you can get through the weeks to come without too much trauma...your safety and wellbeing are paramount now.
All the best for a happier future.
S

fivetide

Stay strong. Be sure to press charges against him and let the Police do their work. Don't let your son be tempted to step in.

You are better than the ex. Don't forget that. Worth a lot more than this scumbag

marisco_2

How awful that you have been hurt. I know from experience how badly that affects someone. I really hope that you will be okay OP. Take some much needed time and space to think straight whilst staying with your lovely son.

tayforth

Sorry, I didn't see this thread when it was first posted.

star_trek_fan wrote: »

Quick update.

i was assaulted by him Wed evening which led to me fleeing to the neighbours. I'm OK just bruises but emotionally battered.
He was arrested yesterday and cautioned. Now waiting for locksmiths as he's been back twice and kickoffed and have had to call police.
My son's here with me, we're just packing up so I can go stay with him for a while.
I feel so gutted and drained. Will update you all when I can.

Thanks for all your support.

Oh pet ((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))

I'm so sorry that it has come to this. At the same time, he has shown his true colours to the world now, and you can hold your head up high.

Please do have him prosecuted. He has committed a crime, and he should take responsibility for that.

Also, there's no such thing as 'just bruises', you have to hit someone hard for them to develop a bruise! You poor thing.

I'm glad that you have your son for support. Take some time to rest and recover from what has happened to you. Don't be surprised if you feel up and down several times a day, that is totally normal. Just relax, and remember that you're safe.

Keep us posted if you can - we are all here thinking of you.

You're over the worst of it now xxxx

suze200 wrote: »

It's been said before.... but please, please call Women's Aid. they will help you understand what is happening in your relationship and can help you in so many ways. Whether you decide to stay or go.

It's sounds mad now but I didn't know I was being abused until I spoke to them as nothing physical ever happened. But I was! Abuse can be financial, emotional, psychological , and more (your husband seems to be doing these 3 from what you have described in you 1st post)

PLEASE pick up the phone... what have you got to loose by talking?

Same here. I had no idea that I was being abused. I can't believe that, but it's true.

Like star trek fan, I felt guilty for talking about it. I thought that I was painting him as worse than he really was (I wasn't).

Emotional abuse is harder to recognise than physical abuse, but it leaves scars too.