Thanking someone for a gift

lazer

The only time i have ever sent thank you notes was for wedding and engagement presents.

Other presents i would thank the person when they gave it to me, or if I received it by post, or via a family member etc I would phone or text them to say thanks.

My family have never done thank you cards, and personally i would prefer a phone call over a letter

maman

Idiophreak wrote: »

Saying thank you for a gift is manners.
Sending a thank you note is etiquette.

Thank you for taking the trouble to explain. I did say that I am aware that other methods have taken over from thank you notes but that doesn't stop me enjoying them!!


When I criticised my nephew and niece it was for offering no thanks at all in any shape or form.

mavvymoo

We got a lovely gift each for 2 of DH family not this Christmas the Christmas before which were both returned to us with the words 'we don't like them can you return them and we will have the money instead':eek: It makes my blood boil just reading this even now.

I couldn't return them as we had purchased them on holiday some months before.
I was so angry I gave them to a charity shop and didn't mention it again.
Come this Christmas I asked DH to say we were not doing presents this year and didn't want to receive any either as we were a bit short of money.

Went down like a lead balloon :rotfl: And for our birthdays we didn't even get a card !
Some people are so hurtful and so rude about gifts.
I would never say to someone I didn't like what they had got me.

The gifts we got them were thought about and I would have been very happy to receive them as would most of the population.
Oh well onwards and upwards just thought I would share this.
Mav x

Mojisola

mavvymoo wrote: »

We got a lovely gift each for 2 of DH family not this Christmas the Christmas before which were both returned to us with the words 'we don't like them can you return them and we will have the money instead':eek: It makes my blood boil just reading this even now.

I couldn't return them as we had purchased them on holiday some months before.
I was so angry I gave them to a charity shop and didn't mention it again.

What rudeness! You didn't give them any money, did you?

MothballsWallet

My cousin's kids are the same - my mum's stopped giving them anything as they can't be bothered to thank her.

Speaking of thanking for gifts, I need to write some thank you notes tonight or tomorrow and post them

MrsC....tobe

My niece is 4 today. Her brother was 11 last week. Cards and vouchers were sent in the post and I know they were received as I sent them to my dad and he called to let me know they were safe. I've not even had a message from my sister to say thanks. Mind I refuse to call her due to her attitude towards me. She suddenly stopped presents to me and my family the year I turned 30, (I have 3 step kids) so it will be interesting to see what happens when my own baby arrives in October. I wouldn't have minded if she had discussed it with me as I had already bought hers for that year, which I was subsequently happy to keep. I also still religiously buy for her 4 without a word of thanks.
MIL buys for the whole world and their uncle for birthdays and Christmas, I'm amazed when I hear who she gets for and I doubt she'll get a thank you from many of them!

dandelionclock30

OP just send her a card and dont say anything you dont have to buy her or anyone elce a present if you dont want to. You also dont have to explain yourself to her or your brother.

Quackers1

I'm 30 and have always been brought up to say "Thank You".

I have a younger brother, we have two cousins who are older than us. Our father and their father are brothers.

Our Great Aunt lived in Australia, when we were little Mum wrote on our behalf when we received cheques for our Birthdays and Christmas. Then once we were old enough we were expected to write ourselves, which we did religiously until she died.

However, our Cousins never did, so my Great Aunt stopped sending them anything but carried on with us. It was a very good lesson in the importance of saying Thank You. Now I do everything I can to say Thank You when it is appropriate.

HelenRachel

Why don't you send her some 'thank you' cards in with her next present? Its a bit passive aggressive but if she doesn't take the hint she need will!

MrsE_2

AlwaysAllie wrote: »

A pet peeve of mine that presents aren't even acknowledged. It's even easier these days as a text or email, whilst not as good as a hand written note, is at least free!!

AA

I agree, between facebook & emails its so easy.
My niece didnt say a word about the presentvi bought for her 13th, so to make a point I asked her mum if she liked it, she said yes she did.
Still no text, facebook message or email.........