Has my ex done something wrong?

nat21luv

Im sorry for not tying up the thread.


I attended the final hearing on Monday and represented myself. I raised the issue of SS, GPs involvement and intentions and the fathers 'contact issues' within my statement and during cross examination. I am extremely proud of myself for holding my own and getting my issues across in a very professional manner. I am happy to say I was awarded all of my requests and more; the father was ordered to collect and return my DS (something he has protested doing and allows his parents to do) and at more appropriate times that would benefit my DS rather than his father.


Weekday visits was disregarded as was every weekend visits. The father, prior to court, received 4 overnight stays a month (disregarding school holidays), asked for 9 overnight stays a month but was awarded 4 overnight stays per month!


The fathers statement was a personal vendetta against me and was very emotive lasting 25 pages. Mine was short (2 pages) and factual with complimenting evidence compared to his evidence using messages from 8 years ago. Lucky for me I was able to alert the judges to this and they removed it from his statement with immediate effect


The judges were able to see that the father was driven by the GPs and SS involvement was premeditated and vindictive. They didn't take too kindly to this and his solicitor was given a telling off for allowing his client to continue this throughout his statement


So thank you all for your replies, greatly appreciated, and I am so very thankful it is over.


I agree, Sri Lanka is a beautiful place but not appropriate for a 4yr old and a 10yr old when on a travellers holidays. Heavy backpacks, hiking, heat, long travelling hours and some unsociable locals...I was frightened on a few occasions and most certainly wouldn't have wanted my children there. The south around Galle was magnificent and a wonderful holiday spot, but for me, still too long for children to travel and around 35-38c humid heat- unbearable at times. And im not a local, im from Devon and was meeting my sister who was travelling.


Thank you all again

FBaby

Well done you

TBagpuss

marisco wrote: »

There would have been a problem if your son had needed urgent medical care. A lot of treatment cannot be given without first obtaining parental consent.

No it wouldn't. In an emergency, anyone who has charge of the child can provide consent for urgent treatment. Non urgent treatment can wait while a parent is contacted. So, for instance, if a child is hurt at school a teacher or other staff member can consent to immediate, emergency treatment (such as calling an ambulance, allowing the paramedics to treat the child etc)
And you ex can (just as you can) temporarily delegate his PR to his parents.

It would be reasonable to flag up what happened and to ask to be informed in future -but be prepared to do the same if you are going to be away and arrange for the children to stay with a member of your family.

OF course it would be best all round if you can both communicate effectivly not least so the children are not put in a position of suddenly finding themselves unexpectedly with grandma when they were expecting dad

rpc

OP - sounds like a good result. Courts have a habit of seeing through a vendetta.

TBagpuss wrote: »

No it wouldn't. In an emergency, anyone who has charge of the child can provide consent for urgent treatment.

This was covered earlier. No consent is required for emergency treatment. You don't "allow" paramedics to treat a child, they just do it.

Can you imagine the scenario? Child with their heart stopped or airway blocked and doctors frantically running around with a consent form to see if they are permitted to intervene? Trying all the contact numbers for parents, then anyone else in loco parentis?

Urgent treatment will be delivered urgently. Non urgent treatment can wait.

As the Yanks would say in their legal doctrine, "peril invites rescue."