Has my ex done something wrong?

duchy

sulkisu wrote: »

On the contrary, Sri Lanka is very much a suitable and popular family holiday destination - I have been twice. Many British/European families go there. Not trying to derail your thread, but I would hate others to be put off unecessarily.

That is a bit misleading -whilst most tourist areas there are reasonably are safe -plenty of non tourist areas are not and you have no idea where the OP's family live. Most normal people don't live in tourist areas.
You've heard of Tamil terrorists I presume ? Sri Lanka has its issues .

Holiday resorts are not a snapshot of an entire country and if you believe the whole of SriLanka is safe you are mistaken.

If you wish to discuss this further probably better to start a new thread on the travel forum however as it isn't especially relevant here

sulkisu

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

You don't know where sister is or what she's doing - if she is, say, working in a Tamil refugee camp that wouldn't sounds great to me for a child.....

Obviously not. The same could be said about anywhere though, couldn't it? e.g. Brazil... great for family holidays... unless she's working with prostitutes in the favelas. There are good and bad areas everywhere (some more than others) - doesn't automatically follow that the 'country as a whole' is not a suitable family holiday destination. Away from the Tamil refugee camps, Sri Lanka is a popular holiday destination.

POPPYOSCAR

duchy wrote: »

Can you not read ?

How would the OP be having more quality with a child who wasn't there exactly ?
The thought of leaving an ex partner in my home would seem odd and inappropriate to most people -let alone asking them to look after another child who wasn't theirs and was from a later relationship so they had never had a parenting type role with them. In this case the whole point of the week appears to get leverage to show the grandparent's home is more desirable anyway though so even if the OP had felt it was appropriate - it doesn't sound like what he NRP had in mind.

I do not understand this response to that poster.

Why would the child not be there exactly? If she took him on holiday he would be with her 24/7.(Not that I am saying she should)

Where does leaving an ex-partner in your home come from?

duchy

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

I do not understand this response to that poster.

Why would the child not be there exactly? If she took him on holiday he would be with her 24/7.(Not that I am saying she should)

Where does leaving an ex-partner in your home come from?

The child spent the week staying with their father-so no they would not be at home - as addressed the OP didn't feel her home country was a good place for a child (and I wouldn't take a child on such a long flight for such a short time personally)

The ex partner was in response to why the child couldn't stay at home with his half sister...... and her father (who doesn't live with the OP anymore) rather than with his natural father.

sulkisu

Agreed that it's not relevant, so consider the subject of Sri Lanka closed.

POPPYOSCAR

duchy wrote: »

The child spent the week staying with their father-so no they would not be at home - as addressed the OP didn't feel her home country was a good place for a child (and I wouldn't take a child on such a long flight for such a short time personally)

The ex partner was in response to why the child couldn't stay at home with his half sister...... and her father (who doesn't live with the OP anymore) rather than with his natural father.

Still makes no sense.

The child spent the 10 days(well some of them!) with his father at the request of the mother because she was going on holiday. The poster merely asked why she did not take the child with her.The Op gave her reason.

The poster obviously not being aware the Op was a single mother asked why the boy was not staying at home with sister and step-father.(Something I was not aware of either until I read the response)

Someone asked questions and the OP gave her answers, I see no reason for you to be so rude.

duchy

The OP is separated -my understanding was her DD stayed with her father whilst the OP was away and the son was at his father's -but really it isn't relevant-most NRPs would rather have their child with them rather than be cared for by a non blood relative-and had the OP done this it seems likely the NRP would have brought this up when they go to court.
There few good reasons why a previous partner should care for a child instead of a non resident father when the PWC is away surely ?

POPPYOSCAR

As I said I was not aware that the Op was separated from the father of her daughter until she responded to the post, neither was that poster probably when they made their post. Unless I missed something along the way, and I have just looked back again to check and I cannot see it.

I do not think anyone has suggested she leave her son with her other ex(not his father) either in her own home or otherwise.

I also do not understand the need to respond to another poster with "Can't you read" is that really necessary?

The Op was very polite in her answers and it helped me to understand a little bit more what the situation is.

POPPYOSCAR

Anyway,


OP I wish you all the best with the court case and hope it goes the way that is best for your son.

FatVonD

What a shame the OP didn't respond the the question from someone in a position to offer good advice re the court case (ndg)