Has my ex done something wrong?

nat21luv

I am separated from my daughters father too so that was not an option.


Im not going to make a big thing of it, its just going to be another issue to add to the list of how I believe it to be an orchestrated and premeditated act.

POPPYOSCAR

nat21luv wrote: »

I am separated from my daughters father too so that was not an option.


Im not going to make a big thing of it, its just going to be another issue to add to the list of how I believe it to be an orchestrated and premeditated act.

I do not see how that will help you.

I know you say you could have changed the date etc. but the very fact you asked him in the first place would be enough for the court, I would of thought.

Would it not be best to concentrate on the disruption every weekend would cause to your son and that he does not want it?

barbiedoll

Did your son attend school during the week that he stayed with GP's?

nat21luv

Yes, attended school as normal but didn't attend any after school activities (I gave a timetable to the dad of his activities- only 2 a week but last an hour each)

GobbledyGook

That sounds like a very deliberate ploy to show that they can send him to school, but don't need to put him in afterschool activities or be home alone. It may also show that there's no reason for your son not to stay there one night a week.

Very sneaky (combined with the malicious SS report). Just keep calm, stick to the facts and don't let them rile you (well, don't let them be seen to rile you - rant behind closed doors if you need it).

Judges are very reluctant to upset the status quo without good reason so focus on why every weekend would be detrimental to your son rather than why you don't want it.

The "normal" (for want of a better word) setting tends to be alternate weekends, some contact in the week (perhaps overnight or from after school until early evening) and half of the holidays. Is that what you are happy with?

sulkisu

nat21luv wrote: »

No, I travelled alone to Sri Lanka. Not the kind of place to go on a family holiday...

On the contrary, Sri Lanka is very much a suitable and popular family holiday destination - I have been twice. Many British/European families go there. Not trying to derail your thread, but I would hate others to be put off unecessarily.

neverdespairgirl

sulkisu wrote: »

On the contrary, Sri Lanka is very much a suitable and popular family holiday destination - I have been twice. Many British/European families go there. Not trying to derail your thread, but I would hate others to be put off unecessarily.

You don't know where sister is or what she's doing - if she is, say, working in a Tamil refugee camp that wouldn't sounds great to me for a child.....

FBaby

It is clear that the issues is with the GP who somehow see themselves as having the same right as if they were his parents, and your ex goes along with it, probably because it suits them.

Unfortunately, the moment your son is in his care, he can do whatever he wants that won't hurt your son. He was left with loving grand parents, so did nothing wrong. Of course parents can both be abroad whilst children remain in at home. How many parents go away on holidays leaving their children with grand parents?

I think you will need to pick your battles. Their expectations of having your son so often is unreasonable and against his will, him staying with his grand parents for one week to accommodate you is not going to be see as such.

POPPYOSCAR

GobbledyGook wrote: »

That sounds like a very deliberate ploy to show that they can send him to school, but don't need to put him in afterschool activities or be home alone. It may also show that there's no reason for your son not to stay there one night a week.

Very sneaky (combined with the malicious SS report). Just keep calm, stick to the facts and don't let them rile you (well, don't let them be seen to rile you - rant behind closed doors if you need it).

Judges are very reluctant to upset the status quo without good reason so focus on why every weekend would be detrimental to your son rather than why you don't want it.

The "normal" (for want of a better word) setting tends to be alternate weekends, some contact in the week (perhaps overnight or from after school until early evening) and half of the holidays. Is that what you are happy with?

Perhaps he is asking for every weekend so that the court compromises and give him this?

OP have you offered alternate weekends?

duchy

Dasa wrote: »

If you wanted to spend more quality time with your boy, why go on holiday without him? Just wondering.

Can you not read ?

How would the OP be having more quality with a child who wasn't there exactly ?
The thought of leaving an ex partner in my home would seem odd and inappropriate to most people -let alone asking them to look after another child who wasn't theirs and was from a later relationship so they had never had a parenting type role with them. In this case the whole point of the week appears to get leverage to show the grandparent's home is more desirable anyway though so even if the OP had felt it was appropriate - it doesn't sound like what he NRP had in mind.