Has my ex done something wrong?

Mojisola

nat21luv wrote: »

I ask as he is currently dragging me through the court to obtain more contact with our son for his parents benefit. Whilst I was out of the country Social Services were called as he accused me of child neglect as I let my son walk home from school and is alone for 30 minutes on a Wednesday afternoon while I drive home. My son is a very mature 10yr old and SS were satisfied that I have not done anything wrong. (I only found out about their involvement when I returned home too!)

So was he there when SS were called or just the GPs?

I don't think it will help his argument that he should have his son more frequently when you can show that he worked away for the week when he could have been spending time with the lad.

System

There is a difference between being out of the country and leaving the child with responsible grandparents and leaving a child alone in a house

clairec79

I don't think he should have asked your consent - he should have told you though

nat21luv

Thank you all for your replies.


When I say Im representing myself I mean solicitors are helping out with paperwork and writing statements ect but Im alone in the court. I just cant afford anymore help and my solicitor was very honest and said that if I employed someone under a grand to help in court, then I may as well just do it myself.


Im not using the scenario to throw at him, I just need a few 'issues' that I can reel off to the solicitor to do her work.

Mojisola

nat21luv wrote: »

Im not using the scenario to throw at him, I just need a few 'issues' that I can reel off to the solicitor to do her work.

Why not? It's relevant to his request for more time with his son.

POPPYOSCAR

Mojisola wrote: »

Why not? It's relevant to his request for more time with his son.

How so?

If I understand it correctly the OP asked him to look after their son while she was on holiday.

He did not request to spend that time with him did he?

Mojisola

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

How so?

If I understand it correctly the OP asked him to look after their son while she was on holiday.

He did not request to spend that time with him did he?

If the court case is about the father wanting more time with his son then a more reasonable response from the father would have been - I can't have our son that week because I'm away working. If you change the week you're away, I will be able to spend time with him.

Just how much does he really want to spend time with his son when he's missed out on this opportunity?

POPPYOSCAR

Mojisola wrote: »

If the court case is about the father wanting more time with his son then a more reasonable response from the father would have been - I can't have our son that week because I'm away working. If you change the week you're away, I will be able to spend time with him.

Just how much does he really want to spend time with his son when he's missed out on this opportunity?

I think he should out of courtesy let the OP know but we do not know the circumstances.

He may of agreed thinking he would be with his son then been told he had to work abroad afterwards. His son may have been thrilled at the thought of spending the week with his grandparents - I know ours would. Nothing wrong with that.

Carl31

So, a parent leaves his son with his parents while he goes abroad?

Er...so? We have done that loads of times

is this because he's a single dad and we are trying to make out he's done something wrong? Maybe the grandparents wanted to spend time with their grandson and asked to have him?

Mojisola

nat21luv wrote: »

If I had known he was out of the country too then I would have postponed the holiday. He begged me to have him even though his work is booked far in advance so he would have known he wouldnt be around, probably so social workers would have had access to my son with his family present.

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

I think he should out of courtesy let the OP know but we do not know the circumstances.

He may of agreed thinking he would be with his son then been told he had to work abroad afterwards. His son may have been thrilled at the thought of spending the week with his grandparents - I know ours would. Nothing wrong with that.

nat21luv says he would have known.

Their son may have enjoyed the week with his grandparents but that doesn't change the fact that his father could have spent the week with his son if he'd arranged it differently.

It seems strange to go to court saying you want more time with your child and then be away working when the son is there.