Wife accused of cheating, denies it...

nebakanezer

globetraveller wrote: »

are you sure your doctor told you that? Seems a bit of a waste of police time.
Your SIL has had her bluff called. She said there were photos. She hasn't produced them. Let it rest. It sounds like the whole world and his wife know about the accusations so your wife would have to be really good to be kissing men in pubs and nobody seen her

Yes, harassment

nebakanezer

I realise that the point of me posting here means there's doubt, but I get a lot of time to think at work, and I do my own head in. When I can think rationally, knowing what I know of my life and my wife it just seems ludicrous, and simple Chinese whispers. What I guess I'm most scared of now, is that if she is lieing, it's one hell of a lie, once seen her in floods of tears on the phone to her dad telling him she's been accused of stuff she's never done, and she's also told my mum, who she adores, that she would never do it to me or her, I've fathered her son etc

marisco_2

nebakanezer wrote: »

My sister in law has now decided she wants to make friends with my wife, that's how crazy she is??

Why would she feel that your wife would want to befriend her, after all she has done to shake your marriage? She sounds quite unstable to me and not someone who's word could be relied on at all. I hope you two can work through this and come out all the stronger.

nebakanezer

marisco wrote: »

Why would she feel that your wife would want to befriend her, after all she has done to shake your marriage? She sounds quite unstable to me and not someone who's word could be relied on at all. I hope you two can work through this and come out all the stronger.

Thanks, she's done this kind of thing before with her own friend group, she comes from a family who think they own the earth, she's also on a lot of very powerful medication?!

sulphate

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

Oh, I have.

Moreover, I was supposed to be hanging around in a gay friendly establishment, trying to pick up other women. Except when I was 'seen' getting off with another man.

Some people are just psychos who can't stand the idea of someone else being happy, so keep up the playground gossip well into middle age.

It can be true. But it can also be complete lies.

^^ This. Apparently I cheated in a previous relationship, a lot, too :rotfl:

Your SIL is trying to break up your relationship, for whatever reason.

nebakanezer

I realise it sounds like in looking for reassurance (which I probably am) but she seems more than convincing, for instance, we've had sex, then say, the next day, I'm feeling a little down and talk to her about things, she says 'how can you sleep with me if you think I've been behind your back? Do you realise how that makes me feel?'

She also suffers from very serious PMT, and we've had a couple of quite big arguments when she's felt I haven't been trusting her. When she's in that state she has virtually no control over her emotions, and knowing her as I do, I think in her most hormonal and frustrated moment, she probably would've told me. Anyone think this sounds plausible?

marisco_2

nebakanezer wrote: »

Thanks, she's done this kind of thing before with her own friend group, she comes from a family who think they own the earth, she's also on a lot of very powerful medication?!

What was the outcome to your SIL's previous disclosures? Was it proved that she was telling the truth or lying? I am not expecting you to divulge this on here, but why is she on powerful medication? What are the known side effects if the dosage she is taking isn't working for her?

Big_Tree

globetraveller wrote: »

Almost religiously? Why in particular after her being out for a night?

Sounds like she's horny when she gets back from a night out.....What could be making her horny while she's out drinking?

thorsoak

Oh for heaven's sake! From what you have told us, your s-i-l is on medication, has caused trouble in other people's marriages and seems bent breaking up your marriage - yet she wants to be your wife's new BF?

Just ignore the poor demented soul and listen to your wife - unless of course, you want to ruin your relationship?

Just read your posts as we are doing, as if written by someone else - what advice would YOU be giving the poster if you were not personally involved?

FBaby

BigJockKnew wrote: »

Sounds like she's horny when she gets back from a night out.....What could be making her horny while she's out drinking?

Drinks?

OP, you need to move on, you really do. You've reached a stage where you're not going to get much more out of the 'truth'. I don't believe your SIL for a second, because if she really thought you were a fool for not believing her, she would have been right there to show you the pictures, because she would have been too happy to prove you that she was right and you were wrong. She didn't because there are no pictures.