Wife accused of cheating, denies it...

Valli

My ex OH - on no evidence whatsoever - got it into his head I was 'messing about'.

Well; I wasn't.

But his constant surveillance of me and of my movements in an attempt to catch me out lead to the breakdown of our marriage anyway.

If you believe your wife then show her you do. Because you both have a lot to lose.

nebakanezer

My sister in law told me there were photos, my wife didn't bat an eyelid and said there weren't, she asked my sister in law to show them and they never showed up. I also sat down very sternly with my wife and told me to tell the truth and we'd keep it between ourselves and no one else, family or friends, kids etc needed to know, or if she lied and I found out then everyone would know. Again, calmly, she said she'd never done anything wrong.

nebakanezer

I've blocked her number, my doctor who has also seen my wife, told me to contact the police!

London50

10 to 1 in favor of your wife {your words} regarding these things and someone you have trusted for 13 years IMO you should ignore it. If not it will eat away at you and destroy what you both have spent a long time building. Is it worth that?? many on here have given advise that is good, distance yourself from the ones that seem hell bent on trying for their own reasons to break you two up. Draw a line under the past {and all that has been said and both move on with YOUR lives.

globetraveller

are you sure your doctor told you that? Seems a bit of a waste of police time.
Your SIL has had her bluff called. She said there were photos. She hasn't produced them. Let it rest. It sounds like the whole world and his wife know about the accusations so your wife would have to be really good to be kissing men in pubs and nobody seen her

nebakanezer

My sister in law has now decided she wants to make friends with my wife, that's how crazy she is??

nebakanezer

One of the accusations came from an ex friend of my wife's, who was adamant my wife had been gossiping about her, which she hadn't

sulkisu

It's all about trust.


Someone told my partner that (they had heard) I had been messing around with a mutual friend. This happened years ago, but I only found out recently. When I asked OH why he hadn't mentioned it to me or our friend at the time, he said 'because I knew it was B.S'. He had kicked his so called friend into touch and forgot all about it - even when I miraculously conceived a few years later!
Do you trust her enough to do that?

globetraveller

nebakanezer wrote: »

My wife and I have maintained a healthy sexual relationship and almost religiously have sex when she comes in from a night out, and on the nights she's been accused.

Almost religiously? Why in particular after her being out for a night?

nebakanezer

globetraveller wrote: »

Almost religiously? Why in particular after her being out for a night?

It just happened that way, we have sex probably twice a week, at the most often she was going out once or twice a month so we just did