Wife accused of cheating, denies it...

nebakanezer

Mojisola wrote: »

And you carried on badgering your wife and discussing it with all these other people!

I didn't discuss it with all these people???

And just for the record I've hardly been badgering my wife, I've found it difficult to find peace with my feelings due to the shock of what's happened

nebakanezer

Mojisola wrote: »

So why didn't your wife just delete it?

You are choosing to respond to your SIL's taunts and are keeping the whole thing going.

I didn't respond??

Mojisola

nebakanezer wrote: »

One morning (bearing in mind both her and her father have had affairs) she text my wife saying that her and her dad thought my wife was disgusting?!?

nebakanezer wrote: »

I didn't respond??

So why are you letting these people wreck your marriage?

Why does it matter what someone like this says about your wife or you?

Hermia

nebakanezer wrote: »

I did, but her sister phoned my wife, her dad phoned my mum etc etc...

Well, then tell your entire families that you don't want to hear another word about it and will refuse to talk about and will put the phone down/delete any texts etc. Stop acting like a victim and take control of the situation!

POPPYOSCAR

I do not understand your thread.

Why have you not told all these people to go away and just get on with your life with your wife?

You are making a rod for your own back here.

coolcait

nebakanezer wrote: »

One morning (bearing in mind both her and her father have had affairs) she text my wife saying that her and her dad thought my wife was disgusting?!?

So, without producing any evidence whatsoever, your SIL has told you that your wife is cheating on you.


She's told her husband - your brother - that your wife is cheating on you.


She's told all of her family that your wife is cheating on you.


She's told all of your family that your wife is cheating on you.


She's told many friends that your wife is cheating on you.


in addition to this potentially defamatory behaviour, she, and her father, have sent your wife harassing and abusive texts.


But you're the one who is having difficulty dealing with the situation...

nebakanezer

coolcait wrote: »

So, without producing any evidence whatsoever, your SIL has told you that your wife is cheating on you.


She's told her husband - your brother - that your wife is cheating on you.


She's told all of her family that your wife is cheating on you.


She's told all of your family that your wife is cheating on you.


She's told many friends that your wife is cheating on you.


in addition to this potentially defamatory behaviour, she, and her father, have sent your wife harassing and abusive texts.


But you're the one who is having difficulty dealing with the situation...

As much as you all think I've been 'badgering' my wife or whatever, and yes I came on here because I was having trouble with my own feelings, but it's precisely this coolcait that has devastated me more than anything else

POPPYOSCAR

nebakanezer wrote: »

One morning (bearing in mind both her and her father have had affairs) she text my wife saying that her and her dad thought my wife was disgusting?!?

I take it you advised them that if this did not stop you would be going to the police……………….

nebakanezer

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

I take it you advised them that if this did not stop you would be going to the police……………….

That's what my doctor said but a few people on here said that sounded stupid

POPPYOSCAR

nebakanezer wrote: »

As much as you all think I've been 'badgering' my wife or whatever, and yes I came on here because I was having trouble with my own feelings, but it's precisely this coolcait that has devastated me more than anything else

Sorry, I do not understand how you can be having trouble with your own feelings.

The SIL sounds like nothing other than a trouble maker and can produce no evidence to back up her claims.

What feelings do you have then other than pure contempt for the lies and anyone who sides with her with no proof does not deserve the time of day. Surely your wife is the most important person in all off this.